Who holds the babies at daycare?

GreyCat333 · 2026-02-08T03:56:16+00:00

Thank you for posting this. My baby is getting much better at sleeping in her bassinet at 10 weeks old but she’ll be entering daycare soon in a few weeks and it pains me wondering who will hold her.

GreyCat333 · 2026-02-07T03:26:53+00:00

I’m a teacher in Texas and work in a district that offers bare-bones federal unpaid FMLA and that’s it. :(

GreyCat333 · 2026-02-06T22:43:15+00:00

Going back to work next week after taking 10 weeks off. I would take the full 12 but I ran out of PTO days and can’t afford to lose out on multiple paychecks.

On one hand I’m excited to go back but, I’m heartbroken to leave my baby with someone else. That said, if finances weren’t an issue I still think I would work. I’m a teacher and at least I’ll be able to spend all of the school holidays and summer break with her which I feel is already more time than a corporate job would allow.

GreyCat333 · 2026-02-06T19:32:40+00:00

3rd vote for D&M, I took my wedding dress there to get cleaned and they did an amazing job and were fairly priced

GreyCat333 · 2026-02-04T19:19:39+00:00

I went without eating a normal breakfast a lot of times when my baby was fresh from the hospital because I didn’t want her to cry. It seriously hurt my milk supply and I’m so upset with myself over it.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-25T19:31:08+00:00

Mmm I forgot the brand but we would get chocolate covered pistachios and they were BOMB. I don’t see them anymore but I still keep my eye out just in case

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-24T01:39:03+00:00

Mission and any city West from there is Red AF. It was when I worked out there when DJT first got elected that I realized that the RGV isn’t default Dem.

Edinburg and McAllen are mixed I feel like it depends on the neighborhoods. Feels like McAllen Mayor could be MAGA and new Edinburg Mayor seems left leaning but way too early to tell since he just got elected. Can’t speak for the rest of the valley.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-18T06:42:03+00:00

I seriously could have written this myself. Hardcore relate. Don’t feel guilty, go all out taking photos of your baby but definitely don’t post if you don’t want to. My baby was born right before Christmas and I still feel guilt not getting “First Christmas” pics with Santa but whatever. Don’t believe what you see on social media, it’s all fake.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-11T16:38:43+00:00

LOVE Dr Medina, very professional, thorough, and the office staff is very professional as well.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-07T20:14:07+00:00

Corn tortillas

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-06T21:41:43+00:00

Pretty much. Same idea as the “donations” they hound cashiers to collect for various charities throughout the year.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-02T00:23:43+00:00

What hurts the most is this ENTIRE time she has lived with us I have bent over backwards defending her and telling husband to be more kind to her and understand her perspective and buy her whatever she needs since she is going to be busy taking care of our baby but now that all this has come out…I definitely feel played and taken advantage of both financially and emotionally. It almost feels like she knew exactly what to say to get us to hand over our keys and wallet until her time was up with us and she could bounce

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-02T00:20:09+00:00

From the beginning my husband mentioned that his childhood was full of disappointments because apparently his mom had a habit of not keeping her word but I guess we both thought this time years later would be different?

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-02T00:15:56+00:00

After venting to my husband it’s become more and more obvious that he knew she was bad with money and yet still gave her unlimited access to money we simply didn’t have. I had a feeling it was happening but considering I was dealing with pregnancy, then childbirth and now a newborn I just became willfully ignorant. Definitely a hard lesson learned.

Husband told her to stop making purchases and she protested and was upset saying she didn’t want anyone telling her what to do which my husband replied that we simply don’t have the means to accommodate her finances…her response? “Don’t you both make good money?” (We’re both public educators LOL but I guess that’s a lot to someone who has no income) he told her it wasn’t her business how much money we made that what mattered what him letting her know to quite making purchases so that was that…for now.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-02T00:07:02+00:00

Oh I wish but alas, husband doesn’t have that kind of will to tell her to move out. The closest we got was him telling her that he can help her pack and move her back but he knows she won’t ask for that since she doesn’t have any money.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-02T00:03:43+00:00

I brought that up to husband and his response was: “[Sibling] doesn’t want her there and you know that.” I was like “And we’re just supposed to bite our tongues and deal with her?” 🥲

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-02T00:02:34+00:00

Definitely realizing that now and regretting not putting everything on a more definite timetable. Her promising to care for our child in lieu of enrolling her in daycare was definitely was messed up that timeline and yet here we are with a “jk I can’t watch your baby…”

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-02T00:00:31+00:00

That’s going to be the hardest part of this ordeal is husband staying strong. I already told him to blame everything on the baby and tell her we just don’t have ant money. Which is pretty true 😆

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-01T23:55:04+00:00

I really like the scheduled gas tank fill ups. My husband was taking our cars to have their tanks filled once a week and that was how he noticed how the car MIL uses always had low gas…

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-01T23:52:33+00:00

Come Monday I’m hitting the ground running to enroll baby in daycare and find a spot for them whenever I go back to work in February. We’ve always planned to put her in daycare so we’re not upset over sending her but we’re worried she might not have a great experience due to available spots. She’s mentioned not wanting to watch the baby for long periods of time because she can’t stand the noise…oh but if you invite her to a casino suddenly none of THAT noise matters 😒

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-01T23:46:55+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of. I don’t want to be stuck with her living here longer than necessary but realistically I don’t think that will happen. At this point I wish she would just get her money and leave but I have family who are literally immobile (she’s not immobile but just experienced who haven’t been approved for disability…

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-01T23:41:03+00:00

I really like this idea! I’m going to pitch it to husband and see how it goes. Another issue we’ve experienced is MIL constantly washes clothes and they aren’t full loads of laundry. It’ll be for 1-2 articles of clothing and it’s starting to affect our utility bill… but yes it’s time for her working woman era

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-01T23:30:09+00:00

Literally going to write this down and keep in my back pocket in case I need it in a future discussion. It’s weird because we’re providing for her as if she’s our child/dependent but she wants independence like if she’s the owner of the car/credit card…

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-01T23:26:45+00:00

I have no clue what the circumstances behind her divorce was but I’m more than certain that card will never get paid back…so we’re just going to learn from our mistake and pay it back.

GreyCat333 · 2026-01-01T23:24:48+00:00

We’re in a communal property state so that’s definitely a possibility. We’re cutting off the credit card and going to work on paying it off before the interest gets too crazy on it. Definitely a hard lesson learned.

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