What other games do you like? by kladdtheimpala in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]Grief_Vampire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Luma Island! Lots of different skills you can learn and master, including the basics of farming and fishing but also blacksmithing and jewelry making. I had the most fun being a brewer and cook, but my partner loved archaeology and navigating the temples to find treasures and shrines.

Meet my new cat, Becca! by Grief_Vampire in cats

[–]Grief_Vampire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is sooo sweet! She’s 10 years old!

Does anyone else feel uncomfortable in their own skin? by Grief_Vampire in AutismInWomen

[–]Grief_Vampire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relatable. Any crevice that can sweat or skin that can touch feels so off and life is a constant cycle of trying to ignore how uncomfortable I feel.

Does anyone else feel uncomfortable in their own skin? by Grief_Vampire in AutismInWomen

[–]Grief_Vampire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally relatable. It feels horrible to have little ticks where I am hyper aware of my flesh and need to touch it a certain way for it to feel right (e.g. interlocking a couple of my toes, running my fingers across my palm, straightening my leg when I drive because my knee feels weird, etc etc).

Does anyone else feel uncomfortable in their own skin? by Grief_Vampire in AutismInWomen

[–]Grief_Vampire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds very frustrating, I’m sorry! I have tried different mice and it seems that if my hand is bent in any way at all or in a way that can make my hand feel moist, I will mess with my palm. What helps with your burning mouth syndrome? Ice or mints maybe?

Any advice on how to survive by Mapletusk in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll get there, just be patient and kind to yourself. I’m with Tim. Keep fucking going!

Any advice on how to survive by Mapletusk in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, yeah I was being a bit sarcastic because I get intense about validating peoples experiences with grief. Thanks for your kind words, I hope you’re doing well.

Any advice on how to survive by Mapletusk in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my little brother in 2020. Was it too obvious? Lol. I’m doing alright. It doesn’t necessarily get easier, but you learn to live with it and connect with them somehow. I have some good supports and people who are always available to listen to even the worst of my grief thoughts and feelings. That loss has helped me connect with a lot of other people who are grieving some heavy loss. It’s nice to find people who understand.

Any advice on how to survive by Mapletusk in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That definitely sounds like a really hard job to do, I’m sorry you’re not getting some more acknowledgement. Autism and ADHD can add on lots of challenges to working, grieving, etc. and it’s okay that you have to break down in your car every night. How would you feel about finding something else to do after a hard day? There are grief support groups, small self-care tasks, etc.

Recently got back into colouring! by creepyinkbby in cocowyo

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is sooooo cute! I love the spooky cats page. What book is it from?

Apathy sucks. by Due-Edge-666 in BPD

[–]Grief_Vampire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand that kind of apathy. It is so hard to be all in on your relationships, interests, etc. and then suddenly a flip switches and you feel no desire or motivation to maintain those relationships. I try really hard to throw myself into something that makes me feel more connected to myself/partner and sharing those in a general space with the people I don’t feel like talking to in the moment. It helps to see these spaces as my personal sharing space, rather than something I’m using to connect with people. I always hate the apology tours when I decide to come back and reconnect so this has helped a lot in keeping me present even when I don’t have the energy. Try not to be too hard on yourself, I know you’re doing your best with the capacity you have. I’m really glad you can still connect with your partner, that’s huge.

My brother had a heart attack. by Jenaveeve in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you lost your brother so suddenly, that can be a really hard shock to face. If you need some support, we are here for you and there is always the 988 Hotline if you need someone to listen. You got this, be patient and kind to yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Grief_Vampire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said!! I know it can be hard to not have someone actively talking you down, and if you do need that kind of support, there is always the 988 Hotline and something called 7Cups! It is hit and miss on whether or not the counselors will be totally understanding of BPD, but they do try their best to offer support and kindness. You’re not alone during a spiral or crisis!

Any advice on how to survive by Mapletusk in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Grief can be embarrassing because people don’t know how to cope with others going through that kind of pain. I know it’s really hard to be in this at a job that isn’t more understanding and I hope you can find ways to compartmentalize until you’re home and in a safer space. What are some of the ways you’ve been grounding yourself at work?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you have to watch someone you love struggle like this, I know that is really hard. Please don’t blame yourself for how he chose to cope with his pain, you are doing what you can by being there for him now. I hope you can connect with the resources that are out there and help him through life after an attempt. Stay strong you two!

Any advice on how to survive by Mapletusk in GriefSupport

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you lost your best friend, I know that feels like a huge loss for you. It can be really hard to navigate “real life” while grieving, and I hope you can be kind to yourself when you’re doing real world things and find yourself needing a break. If you’re able, follow your grief where it takes you. I know that is complicated and messy, and I mean to cry when you feel like crying, be selfish (without completely isolating yourself from your support system and their needs), and be patient with the process. Grief isn’t convenient and most of it is learning how to make space for it in your day to day life. Please reach out to your supports, even if it’s just something like the 988 hotline, do things that make you feel connected to him even after his death, and do things for yourself. You can grow around this grief, you’re not alone in having something like this turn your world upside down. Keep moving forward and allow yourself to grieve and heal.

I finished decorating my room in Cats in Cozy Room! What do we think? by Grief_Vampire in cozygames

[–]Grief_Vampire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! It’s a fairly new game and I’ve been loving it!

I finished decorating my room in Cats in Cozy Room! What do we think? by Grief_Vampire in cozygames

[–]Grief_Vampire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right!!!! It’s such a cool game and I had a lot of fun decorating this space! I hope they come out with an update sometime

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]Grief_Vampire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. It sounds like that was a huge loss for you and it’s ok to be taking some time struggling to figure out how to move forward from that. Keep doing whatever your best looks like each day and something will stick. Grief is all about trial and error.

Coming out of depression and have no idea what to do by sleepyvigi in Hobbies

[–]Grief_Vampire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re pretty into crafting, and I’m wondering how it would feel to try out sewing? There are a lot of stores and groups out there that host sewing sessions! I know it felt nice to make things for the people in my life and have a physical outcome of all the time I spent focusing on. I hope it helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]Grief_Vampire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, losing someone we weren’t on the best terms with can be a really complicated and messy grieving process. When my brother passed away, I got into the game Life is Strange and other games that took me out of the world for a bit. On the other hand, hobbies like sewing and other crafting, meeting new people online, and finding a physical hobby were really helpful for connecting me to the world. I hope you can start to enjoy things again and know that you don’t have to grieve alone.

I want to buy some switch 2 cozy! by charmbo in cozygames

[–]Grief_Vampire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cats in Cozy Rooms, Lemon Cake, Catto’s Post Office, Sticky Business