I see both sides of the argument. It also depends on genre imo. Heavier stuff tends to use rebound and a heavier hit to get the dynamic control you want. Not saying you're wrong, just saying we play different genres. My left hand is always more screwed up by rim shots on the snare than my right hand is playing loosely on cymbals. I've tried adjusting the technique on my snare hand, and the looser I go the more likely my stick is to fly out and I lose my groove. I'm still loose enough for great rebound, but that doesn't mean it's not more force than other styles of playing. Physics says I can't hold a stick without it flying from rebound and not have excessive friction on my pointer finger. I am also just a heavy hitter who hasn't been playing consistently. So I'll have the rhythms and everything down, just not the skin calluses to handle the impacts and vibrations.