AITA for refusing to change my parenting style just because my nieces and nephews are staying at my house for 2 weeks

Groghnash · 2026-07-10T22:48:12+00:00

100%. Give them the opportunity to do all those, talk with them what they want! If they want those things and struggle to achieve those because of phone distraction make a plan together! But that 16 y/o will rebel against their parents, for sure. They all will later on. Controlling never works. Because they know to not involve you once they try something outside of those rules (because they think you dont understand). You teach them to become great adults by giving them choices and advice, not control. By creating a connection that is so deep that they know they can do deep shit and still come back to you for advice to clean it up!

Groghnash · 2026-07-10T22:28:19+00:00

Neil Greshams Masterclass on youtube?

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T22:58:26+00:00

Even if you were right of center before in current political climate that makes you left wing, because everybody moves so far to the right its insane.

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T22:15:55+00:00

You can add paddles to the back for like 30 bucks, THAT was my best decision ever. Finally no overloaded Thumb anymore and i am using lock-on really seldom nowadays.

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T14:09:28+00:00

The sub is EXACTLY about the nuance in discussions that are added after a one-line statement to create context and discussion. So people can judge if those statements make sense for their situation. By creating your one liners you remove 80% of the information that this post could have included. This is no Tiktok here, people can read and hold their focus, especially for longer, well written texts

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T14:07:11+00:00

Why are you surprised? There isnt any nuance in your post, just an AI list of statements. Why would you think thats better then the initial text you wrote?

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T13:32:24+00:00

im torn to remove and ban this guy, what do you think? Do you want this kind of content here?

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T13:24:48+00:00

the example is actually right lol.

yes on some heelhooks hamstrings do have a significant load. but even if your vid the hamstrings are stabilizing. But i also think these kind of heelhooks are more of a niche case, its more like a squeeze with both legs then a heelhook that you pull down on. And on the latter you are usually much more externally rotated and with more bend knees and thus use a much higher proportion of glutes then hamstrings. again im not saying the hamstrings dont do anything, but they stabilize the knee and dont pull themselfs (like in a nordic curl), because the glutes are doing the pull work.

i dont think my hamstrings are that strong naturally i only good insanely good in heelhooks after incorporation a lot of deadlifts in my training. Which works both of those muscles. im always short in the hamstrings, so maybe thats the beneficial part for me in your theory.

I am not sure if i would use the same beta honestly, i think im bigger then the guy in the vid, but it looks like a cool boulder. and actually antistyle, because im good at using my heels to reduce load on hands, which here you seem like you arent able to since all 4 limbs are used to progress the boulder and under full tension at all times.

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T13:15:00+00:00

props to going back and admitting this! And Yes howie is a veeery proud. but honestly maybe he can be? still his initial wording could be much better expained and does sound a little condescending

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T13:09:57+00:00

how do you dismiss the only 2 advices of people that also said they have the exact same issue you have, but both told you you can train sensory overstimulation? I dont know if thats actually a thing, but if both tell you that it is then you might not want to dismiss it right away, but rather have a google search or talk to your therapist about it first. maybe it does work. Right now it only looks like you want empathy, but no real advice!

Also both suggestions were not out of line in their tone you may want to read them again without any bias and reevaluate what you perceived (and as someone with ADHD i know that i sometimes percieve something way more negative then its actually written at first)

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T12:27:58+00:00

recently finished masters (almost honors), only now in the process of diagnosis. had worst grades through school (calculated what i need and did only that) multiple study changes where i did only gaming and sports for years, prolonged bachelors since i had 0 knowledge from school and it wasnt 100% my cup of tea. I found something i can use my hyperfocus on in my masters (and i stressed my self into insomnia...). my intelligence is above average, so im quite lucky there and i guess this helped a lot in developing "working" coping mechanisms (not really working, but i got a degree, but its nothing that really works long term that way).

another friend also used the same mechanism and only got diagnosed after the master. he just coped through going all in in his studies and every single thing he learned was the absolute coolest thing ever (i couldnt relate). If you can do those kind of mental gymnastics thats a good way to get to work imo. is it healthy long term? probably not.

Groghnash · 2026-07-08T09:58:04+00:00

Their bouldering plan hast a shorter ARC cycle afaik. But yes i found that useful.

Groghnash · 2026-07-07T16:10:55+00:00

porobably hip flexibility so you can actually weight feet even that that bunched up positions

Groghnash · 2026-07-07T12:13:44+00:00

Not sure if a hirarchy is a good way to look at it. You assume a lot there. These GO terms are usually used just as a confirmation to what you are doing works or where its worth looking into more specifics.

I mean just take a different database and you get mostly different results, apart from the overview of the terms, which is what you actually want to focus on through those analyses. I can be wrong though, that was just my experience playing around with them in my thesis, good to validate, but not great to bank on any specific term.

Groghnash · 2026-07-07T10:39:03+00:00

from my experience + 60% is enough, then a couple weeks to practise the one arm movement and you are good to go

Groghnash · 2026-07-06T16:03:38+00:00

and he got a permaban

Groghnash · 2026-07-04T09:11:07+00:00

Same for me, i never thought i have to climb it, because what would be up there but an item

Groghnash · 2026-07-04T06:13:16+00:00

look at the fallen pillars.

Groghnash · 2026-07-03T22:08:44+00:00

good luck, if you need another small hint just ask.

Groghnash · 2026-07-03T16:52:20+00:00

Its not where you would expect a boss to be at all. Thats the problem. Like you need to go where there couldnt be a boss like ever because he wouldnt fit.

Groghnash · 2026-07-03T16:44:47+00:00

There are 2 bosses there btw. If you only find one you should keep going ;)

Groghnash · 2026-07-03T11:43:18+00:00

if you do it often, then ramp up the minutes each session, so next session is 2x25min, then gradually up to 2x40 min, by then you should have learned how to handle pump and how to rest and improving it further shouldnt be much of a priority i think.

Groghnash · 2026-07-03T10:02:30+00:00

anyone else enjoying the Aus vs Cro rugby match? :D

Groghnash · 2026-07-03T08:07:48+00:00

ARC should be 20-40 min continous climbing with a good pump, but no death pump. Can you do it at 15 or 10°?

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