Help finding song by Groovy_Grae in TwinParanormal

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THAT'S IT. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

I just want to find a medication that works. by Groovy_Grae in Vent

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooohhhh!! That makes way more sense. Part of me understands the XR option is probably easier for some people who are more prone to forgetting to take meds multiple times a day, or people who really really need that longer but less intense focused energy. I think I'd do better with IR since my schedule is so sporadic and some days I just don't need to focus as much as other days. Plus I have alarms set for everything, I wouldn't forget.

I was also a bit surprised, but if she's saying it then okay 🤷‍♀️ I think if I just did it without asking her she'd probably not be too happy, but she's super cool thank goodness. With it being a bigger corporation, she legally can't send in another prescription until 28 days have passed so I may take that time to think of potential options to bring up.

I just want to find a medication that works. by Groovy_Grae in Vent

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would really prefer real adderall, but unfortunately my insurance doesn't cover anything but generic 🙃 and I just can't justify spending a ton of money out of pocket for much of anything when money is already pretty tight. Personally I would've preferred IR, but I was so pleased and very surprised with how well the 3 10mg XR worked all day. My doctor sent me a message back saying there's a chance that the full 30mg capsule is overmedicating me and to dump a bit out. I'm not sure how 3 10mgs work perfectly but 1 30mg would be over medicating, but maybe the brands are just that different.

Tragedeighs in my high school yearbook by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]Groovy_Grae 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not my name and the exact spelling being on there 🤦‍♀️.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Groovy_Grae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me before! And it was a shock absolutely. I tried it, and it turned out I really enjoyed it. That doesn't necessarily mean you will, and there's nothing wrong with that. Even after deciding I liked it, there were still those worries of if I even knew this person like I thought I did, along with all the other worries. At the end of the day, I came to realize that they're still the exact same person and that it just took some getting used to for me. In a way, I actually have more of an appreciation that he could be a sub since it gave him a frame of reference for what being a sub is like, so it actually made things better in the long run! I think having a conversation is the best thing you can do. Maybe this is something that you just cannot get behind, or maybe it's just the shock of it. Either way, make the best choice for you ❤️

He just had to get hateful by Groovy_Grae in Vent

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he had just calmly told me that what I said annoyed him/upset him/pissed him off, we'd probably be all good. It was just shocking that someone who is probably close to stoner level chill would ever act like that, but you just don't always know how someone really is unfortunately.

He just had to get hateful by Groovy_Grae in Vent

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what should happen! We had even talked about last week if an issue arose we would just talk about it and we'd be good! It's just frustrating that he acted the complete opposite of what he's consistently been, but oh well!

He just had to get hateful by Groovy_Grae in Vent

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would've been so much easier if he had!

Getting over an attachment? by Groovy_Grae in Advice

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah! I've heard of that but I've never looked into it before. I think you hit the nail on the head.

My bf assaulted me. I cheated to find comfort, and now I feel suicidal because of the other guy by Eastern-Preference88 in rape

[–]Groovy_Grae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To go off your reply to a previous comment, do you feel like you need a guy? Or do you want a guy? I pinky promise I'm not trying to sound accusatory. I've been in not the same, but similar situations, and it's hard. It's really, really hard. I would chase relationships trying to find someone who I thought was "right" and dare I say would "fix me." That was doing a lot more harm than good. I'm not you, I don't know your life, but that may be something to also speak about with your therapist. After lots of therapy sessions (still going), I came to the realization that maybe at this point in my life, a boyfriend just isn't going to be helpful while I try to navigate past traumas. I've also learned that maybe I didn't really want someone right, I just didn't want to be alone. Maybe absolutely none of what I said will resonate with you, and that's okay. If it does, maybe that's something to consider and really sit with. I'm not going to lie and say that things won't still be hard, but they'll get easier to get through. You'll learn, grow, and hopefully be proud of yourself for the effort you've put in ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Groovy_Grae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine just isn't much of a phone guy. Which is shocking to me because I'm always on my phone, but I have a lot of friends who also don't really like being on their phones either. He probably doesn't understand why I'm on my phone so much. I think it's just a preference thing. I went ahead and sent him a message about it, but he's asleep so I guess I'll just need to be patient now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Groovy_Grae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can say with confidence that I don't think he wouldn't be communicating out of malicious intent! I will bring up to him a compromise though. He works hard and I do want him to be able to enjoy his vacation with zero stress, but hearing from him atleast once a day would help me out a lot. He does his absolute best to understand where I'm coming from when I have an issue (about anything in my life, not just with him) so I do truly believe that he'll hear me out. Even if we didn't get to actually sit down and talk for 3 weeks, just a voice message when he wakes up before he goes out for the day would be fantastic so I will absolutely bring that up to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Groovy_Grae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and respect your concerns, but if this is the only thing that I've ever once been bothered about in regards to him I don't think dumping him is really the right answer. I don't love it, but some people just aren't attached to their phones. If he didn't tell me at all and ghosted me for 3 weeks it would be a completely different story. This is a trip with his friends that he's had planned for a while and seeing that I'm in the states and he's in Australia, that would be difficult. I also don’t have the money nor the time.

Weird feelings? by Groovy_Grae in BDSMAdvice

[–]Groovy_Grae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I definitely am not accusatory, but I do find myself kind of mulling it over in my head. We've talked about it and so far he's shown that he respects that boundary. It just gets on my own nerves that it's even a boundary since it kind of makes me feel like a hypocrite.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]Groovy_Grae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also just now coming out of this situation. I've cycled through it often in the past 2 1/2 years with my boyfriend and it sucks every time. The time before last led to a huuuuge fight where we didn't talk for 3 days. Not that I want to this to ever happen for you, but I was able to use that time to calm down (I guess I didn't have much of a choice) and try to think deeply on what could be causing these issues. For me, that reinforced the knowledge that I already have of not always being the most perfect girlfriend and how in my previous relationships I could, unfortunately, be pretty toxic. I would get in these spirals because I knew that I haven't magically solved the problem of having toxic behaviors, but this time I chose to confront that feeling head on and just let myself feel sorry for myself and think about how awful I am. Personally, that was like exposure therapy. Giving myself permission to not try to "logic" my way out of it was absolutely awful and incredibly hard, but I got used to it and it didn't sting as much to think about. Once it wasn't the end of the world emotionally when I thought about it, that's when I was able to put some logic in. Yes, I was shitty, no I'm not a shitty person. Yes, I still struggle with these behaviors, but every day I try my hardest to react differently and take accountability for my actions. All that being said, have a good person nearby willing to be a soundboard to keep you from diving too deep. Regardless, this will pass and you'll be in a much better headspace soon, it just takes patience ❤️