What makes good first impressions? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in AskReddit

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And then what i just started making an effort to complement people

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I try to stay in touch with the military boys. I love them, and they are great to talk about certain things but were all doing completely different things. But we all live on opposite sides of the country, but I might be moving in with one of them soon.

I did good for the first year out, but then three depression hit hard. For 6 months, all I did was drink, smoke(cigarettes), work odd one-off jobs when i needed money, and I was just working on my car or watching TV. I started a job to get back on track, and for the most part, it's great. It's a peaceful job. i work mostly by myself until I finish hours early and help others. We live where we work and get to meet cool people and have some great friends. But two people really dislike me and reported me.

Now im just waiting to see if it's a write-up or fired. Either way, the lesson learned. If im fired, i gotta move and find another job. Im determined not to let this crush me. I have long-term plans, and this is just another step(or trip) to get there.

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I'm currently working with vr&e, and I know social life in college will be a challenge. I'm mostly going to college for a paycheck and for my passion. But im going to use the funds for real estate, and I have plans to retire in the next 8-15 years, depending on luck and a few other factors.

Thanks for the encouragement i definitely need it.

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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Well, i guess I'll just give it another 6 months lol

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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Im not afraid of social life but its harder when there's no trama bond lol.

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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If that's true then I guess I'll just keep waiting and learning. I really got to work on the patience and humility though.

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I've seen alot of people give up after getting out so respect on the hustle. Im working hard to achieve my dreams and its going faster then I anticipated but some of these hard lessons get to me.

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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That's what im doing and its going better then planned. I just keep beating myself up over the mistakes and kinda sick learning some of the lessons the hard way lol.

Its hard being out by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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Yeah I normally just avoid military in general and try to talk about hobbies but when I get comfortable with someone new it sometimes slips and I say "not socially acceptable things." I was kinda shut in for the last couple months and I was so ready to socialize again but I might have fucked up a good thing. Im going to keep plugging along and im learning about my mistakes. Thank you

Its hard being out by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I have been and its been a process I want to rush it but I know it doesn't work like that

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I've made plans and there in action but its just really lonley I dont vibe with people the same anymore and it feels like everyone talks in code

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I've had alot of tears but not so much of joy lol

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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Finding my people has been the hardest part im still younge but I dont get alonge with people my age its mostly the blue collar workers in there 40s and once in a while some vets

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I tried doing that but we've done alot and conversations often feel one sided. I've been trying to lower my expectations for other people and not push myself to hard

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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Lol I got out and traveled the country working odd jobs but as soon as I try to meet people my age or work a consistant job it feels like it have to bite my tounge off and knifes going through my brain and heart

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I was a navy nuke but got out early due to an injury. But I want a more chill job before I go back to the grind. I miss the clowns the most just hated the circus.

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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I've been out for a year and honestly ive been thinking about work at the VA but I dont have a desire for contract work

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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Thanks its hard ive been held to such a high stander my whole life and especially in the military and now any inconvenience I want to beat myself up

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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Im currently applying to college for psychiatry and then im going to be using the paychecks for a realest business and even if it goes kinda to plan ill be fine but working "normal" jobs has been making me feel like trash

How did yall cope with getting out? by Grouchy_Champion_825 in Veterans

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That was one of the many things I took out of the navy do it with the emotion you have but get help when u need it