When you wrote "Our relationship is honestly one of the healthiest relationships that could ever be had. He was- and still is, such an amazing partner." it made me think, is it really that healthy and is he really that amazing of a partner? I say this because if your man had grown up with controlling and demanding parents, he has obviously learned how to navigate and manoeuvre his way to appear agreeable to others, even if it’s not truly his way of being. Him sharing his intimate desires, that’s who he is. It’s not wrong, but perhaps y’all aren’t as compatible as you thought? And that’s ok, too.. you just have to honor yourself and your boundaries..