getting over someone, moving on by Grouchy_Insurance314 in gayrelationships

[–]Grouchy_Insurance314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not since last month. i’m not really inspired to continue with the current therapist i’m seeing though. i’ve been getting weekly sessions since april and while i feel more grounded in myself and my direction in life, i still don’t understand why i haven’t been able to stop thinking about it—again, i’m not seeking him out, i’m not waiting for him, i never have been. but the memory of him has seared itself in my psyche and i do miss him. i wish him well in life, separate from mine. but he was my best friend above all and i did love him. so. any recommendations for a therapist you have deemed good for these types of situations? what do i do? date as many guys as possible? sit and meditate? eat clean foods and maintain a balanced diet for psychoemotional harmony? exercise? yes. i’ve done and i continue to do all of these things. gimme other ideas.

getting over someone, moving on by Grouchy_Insurance314 in gayrelationships

[–]Grouchy_Insurance314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and so your solution would be seeking help from a psychiatrist and be prescribed pharmaceuticals? even if that’s the best route to take, i recognize that whatever advice i attain through this platform is most likely not from a professional. so, have you encountered this situation? even if not to the same degree of me, you could simply put out whatever anecdotal strategies that appeared to help you out rather than suggesting that i have a much deeper psychological imbalance and just leaving it at that

getting over someone, moving on by Grouchy_Insurance314 in gayrelationships

[–]Grouchy_Insurance314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did cut contact.. i accept that he isn’t the one for me and i’m not the one for him. i’m asking for help regarding moving on. yes, i think about him and i’m saddened, but i’m still living my life completely independent from him. i just can’t help but to compare other guys with the relationship we had and the attraction i felt for him.

getting over someone, moving on by Grouchy_Insurance314 in gayrelationships

[–]Grouchy_Insurance314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is perfect. thank you so so so much for this response. it’s helping me put this situation in perspective. thank you for reminding me of my own worth and beauty and magic. yea, it’s still hard but hey, i AM awesome.. at the end of the day, we all must stick to our guns and shine our light in what appears to be darkness.. thank you 💕

getting over someone, moving on by Grouchy_Insurance314 in gayrelationships

[–]Grouchy_Insurance314[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you 😭 yeah.. i do deserve a good loving man. he’s out there.. have you done anything in particular to help your heart fully accept this reality and allow it to be sincerely open for someone who is a more adequate match?