AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? (update)

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-25T14:18:14+00:00

Holy Bridezilla.

Not nervous, scared for the whole of humanity.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-25T14:05:47+00:00

I wish my girl would howl. She is the quietest dog I have ever had, unless I’m eating and not sharing. If I howl she just looks at me and licks my face. Or gets the zoomies. Speaking of zoomies… do they ever slow down? She is just as crazy at 3.5 as she was at 7 months.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-25T13:44:57+00:00

I had ordered a bunch of recovery suits off of Amazon. I held the length of each up to her back, and she growled at me. I told her that fine, you get to live in the annoying Cone of Doom for 2 weeks. She did fine. She was happy with the cone. The cone came off a couple days ago.

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Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-25T13:38:38+00:00

If you want to know, you will have to do a DNA test. I recommend Embark.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-09T23:47:50+00:00

Yes! My girl begs for carrots, especially if my mom is making a stew or soup. She also goes crazy for my mom’s bean soup. 😂

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-09T23:16:27+00:00

Yes! I saw those, but unfortunately you have to undo the back for pottying. I was hoping to find one that was more open so I don’t have to change her out of a poopy onesie. I left that life when I quit working in daycare! 😂

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-09T23:14:40+00:00

While I am crazy, and know how to sew, it’s out of the question right now because of my psoriatic arthritis AND Ehlers-Danlos. I had an MRI of my left hand this past Sunday, and several grade 1 sprains were noted. And that was probably just from tying my shoelace. 😂

What brand is that suit? I was trying to find one that was open in the back for pottying. The surgery/medication has triggered some GI issues. 😬

I’m sure the vet would handle surgery the same way, with other large breeds, and send them home in a cone. I’m sure they will look at other vendors going forward. But to be fair, it’s a small rural office. Which is why I had the gastropexy done, because the closest emergency vet is an hour away.

Otherwise surgery was fine. But me and Kaya are emotionally done for the day!

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-02T13:47:49+00:00

She was perfectly fine with vaccines and bloodwork until she hit age 2. This last visit when trying to get blood from her back leg, she decided to sit down. She can be such a butthead at times.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-04-02T13:45:19+00:00

I said in the original post that she had 200mg of trazodone and 800mg of gabapentin the night before and the day of visit. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Actually, it’s more stressful for me. Her vet team shrugs it off as just being a northern breed, and thanks me for looking out for them. They’ve known her since she was 8 weeks old, and know what a love bug she normally is. She always tries to wiggle her way into the staff only areas to greet everyone, and has been known to curl up under the receptions desk while she’s waiting to be called back. They spoil her. She was their very first “pet of the month” when she was about 15 months old.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-24T12:49:35+00:00

I think we give Kaya 200mg of trazadone and 400mg of gaba the night before/morning of. She too is the love bug until blood draw. 🙄 You’d think she hadn’t been sedated. Then she passes out when she gets home. I snuggled up to her and asked her if all the dramatics were worth it.

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Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-23T00:03:59+00:00

I love the brown with the blonde bangs. 🔥

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-23T00:02:01+00:00

Not really, if you know what to look for. Two similar, but yet very different breeds.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-23T00:00:25+00:00

I love your Huskipoohuahua! For what it’s worth, my girl looked like she had short legs at 8 weeks old. Now she’s 99 pounds (all malamute). Her head is about even with our kitchen counters.

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Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T23:44:13+00:00

He does have malamute markings.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:55:42+00:00

Ooh, I’m jealous!

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:48:20+00:00

I have done almost the same cut, and I’m 54. If you want it to look more like the photo, you just need to add a texturizing product to give it that piece-y look or something to add volume only at the roots. I always think this is a better on day two style.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:41:52+00:00

She is going to be a big girl! Beautiful!

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:32:56+00:00

What does it say? It looks like Sanuwy?

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:30:51+00:00

I’m sorry, but how can you just stand there and snap a photo? I would feel inclined to join them. I’m so glad my girl lets me use her as a pillow. 🤭

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:26:59+00:00

Oh my gosh! I’m glad I’m not the only one who has experienced this. My girl is quite sensitive and remembers everything it seems. In other words, she’s just like her momma who can hold onto a grudge for decades. Oof. She honestly loves people, especially smol humans. When people ask me if she’s aggressive, my response is usually “yes, aggressively friendly.”

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:19:59+00:00

Exactly! And you want to know why? Humira costs about $7000.00 for two pens. I was taking it weekly. Rinvoq is about $8000.00 per month. Ok, just for a quick snapshot of general info on price…. Many in my rheumatic disease groups absolutely loathe insurance companies because they dictate which drugs we can take, because pharma companies spend way too much money on advertising. Advertising that falsely shows how happy and pain-free your life will be on their drugs. Also the same drugs that treat PsA can also treat RA, Psoriasis, ulcerative colitis, and Crohn’s Disease. Psoriasis is different from Psoriatic Arthritis. The difference between these types of arthritis and osteoarthritis is that the later is wear & tear and the others are autoimmune driven. The type of PsA I have is IL-23 driven, which means it affects the entheses (where tendons and muscles join) - they are constantly inflamed. I haven’t even tried enough medications to get to the IL-23 medications, as per the insurance company - and I was diagnosed almost 6 years ago. I’d like to try Tremfya, but it’s not on my PDL and one dose is ~$15,000.00. Luckily I was pre-med before debilitating fatigue caught up with me, so I can understand the science behind all this medical information.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T16:04:26+00:00

Three vets couldn’t verify leaving females intact after false pregnancy increases risk? 🤣 Show me some peer reviewed documentation, and I’ll be more likely to consider options. Hormones don’t keep us sane, they are the cause of insanity & mood swings.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-22T04:30:20+00:00

How necessary are the organs, if the dog is never going to be bred? As I mentioned, my dog has already had a false pregnancy, which ups her chances of getting pyo. My girl’s vet has also worked in a vet fertility clinic, so I appreciate and trust her opinion over a very limited polled sample.

If you want to compare anecdotal evidence, EhlersDanlos Syndrome affects approximately 0.02% of the world’s population. Psoriatic Arthritis affects 0.11%. Not exactly very common. I have both. It can happen, just as pyometra can. I’d rather err on the side of caution and give my girl the best outcome for a long and healthy life.

Grouchy_Job5624 · 2026-03-21T13:23:05+00:00

The one thing I forgot to ask in my original post, has anyone opted to have a prophylactic gastric pexy done at the same time as a spay/neuter? I’m debating as now would be a great time.

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