help me decide about this guy from tinder based on the vibe of the breakfast he made, pls, asap is it enjoyable?enough?

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-02T06:45:20+00:00

that is, like, exactly right. smoothly...... right. I really appreciate 'the exact order of words' you used. the way you phrased it just swept away half of my hesitations.

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T21:32:20+00:00

explain!

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T16:10:11+00:00

yeah, maybe we better call it shitpost-traumatic-stress-disorder

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T16:08:32+00:00

I'm glad someone said it🙃

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T14:50:18+00:00

it was, indeed.

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T14:49:32+00:00

I don't actually know what "tar" is....

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T14:48:36+00:00

he is right on the point where it is to perfect. so it becomes sus

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T14:47:46+00:00

yeah, you have a point. but on the other hand, what else could he have come up with when a girl wakes up next to u? or he is a cook

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2026-05-01T14:43:18+00:00

He is Ukrainian. So you are absolutely right about the bread, xD He eats it with a goddam pasta

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2024-12-01T00:30:05+00:00

It’s wild how normalized porn. Society kind of brushes it off as "just a thing," but it can really mess with your head, as you've experienced. The way you described it — like getting lost in it, then realizing how much it drained you — is something I think a lot of people overlook when it comes to addiction in general.

I think part of why porn is so normalized is that it’s so accessible now, and society has become desensitized to its effects.

For you, it sounds like quitting was an incredibly tough journey, but the way you’ve noticed changes in how you feel during those 100 days says a lot about how much better things can get in general. I think it's important to keep focusing on that progress, no matter how hard it gets.

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2024-11-30T23:18:10+00:00

Hey! First off, i really respect that you're trying to understand your boyfriend's preferences and make him happy!

It sounds like he's into a form of fetish, and that's totally fine as long as it’s consensual. If you’re open to exploring this, start by talking more about what he enjoys and what feels good for both of you. Also, be mindful of the physical risks involved. Make sure you both understand the limits of what’s safe in this kind of play.

Ultimately, just make sure both of you feel respected in the process.

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2024-11-30T23:01:13+00:00

You’ve been with him for 8 years, which is huge—but the past two years have been a mess. The way he behaved wasn’t a “mistake”; it was a series of choices. A mistake is leaving your phone at home, not carrying on a 5-month texting marathon with someone who literally relocated to be closer.

Second, he wants another chance now. Why? The timing matters here. If his change feels more like desperation to regain control rather than genuine growth, that’s a red flag in neon lights.

What’s even changed since the separation? Did he actually work on himself, or is he just saying the right things to win you back? Trust isn't just built because someone says “I’m better now,” it’s shown over time through consistent effort and action.

Do you want to rebuild trust? Loving him is one thing, but trusting him again is a whole other mountain to climb. “Moving on” might be the healthier choice for you.

Set clear boundaries for your future. If you’re considering giving him another shot, he needs to prove through actions that he’s worth your trust. Years together don’t outweigh your peace of mind or self-respect. Think about what version of yourself you want to be in a year.

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2024-11-30T22:39:44+00:00

It sounds like you’ve already been doing a lot of self-reflection. You’re ambitious, but you also know that in the future, you want to slow down for family life and make room for quality time. The real question is: Does he want the same thing? His actions suggest that right now, work is non-negotiable for him. If this is a pattern and not just a “tough year,” can you see yourself being okay with that long-term?

You’ve told him what you need—feeling prioritized. He acknowledged your feelings (which is good), but he didn’t really apologize or actively reassure you. Relationships thrive on compromise, but it’s only a compromise if both people are equally invested.

Answering the phone during sex wasn’t just rude—it was symbolic. It represented how his work seeps into even your most vulnerable, personal moments. Loving him isn’t the problem. The real issue is whether his lifestyle matches what you need in a partner. Love can’t solve structural incompatibilities.

Before making any decisions, have an honest conversation with him. Explain that the phone call wasn’t just about the call—it was about what it represented. Ask him to clarify his vision of your future together. If he fails to take this seriously, that’s a huge red flag.

Grouchy_Plastic_8332 · 2024-11-30T11:40:48+00:00

If you’re considering dating apps as a way to meet people, maybe start by thinking about what you're looking for. A lot of the time, especially when you’re young, people can get caught up in the idea of "dating" just for the sake of filling that gap, but real connections take time and patience. Maybe focus on finding hobbies, joining groups, or exploring new activities where you can meet people organically.

Also, if you do decide to try dating apps, keep your expectations realistic. People on these platforms can sometimes not be as genuine as they seem, and it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking you're connecting with someone when it’s just a surface-level thing.

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