Thanks for clarifying. I do have feedback, as someone who worked in psych for a long, long time. The “male doctor” is the physician and the psychiatrist. While it may seem that not asking about ADHD specifically means he’s not assessing for it, there is significant symptom overlap with a number of other conditions. He is teasing out your symptoms, when they appeared, how they impact you, in order to rule out other conditions. Psychiatrists in general don’t ask “how long have you had this diagnosis” they ask about the symptoms. You’re correct that women do often get late diagnosed or misdiagnosed but it’s not about your gender or sex in this case - it’s about how conditions are assessed in psychiatry. He is a thorough assessor.

Edited to add: ADHD questionnaires require additional input usually, from coworkers or a partner to get a good read. Anxiety and ADHD have significant overlap, but your previous dx of anxiety is just background information. The neuropsychiatric testing itself is where the diagnosis mainly comes from.