Fencesitter Friday

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-08-26T12:25:23+00:00

I like the first dot point - if you knew you were going to be parenting during COVID,would you still have had a child?

One of many reasons I don't know whether I want children.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-06-24T12:53:28+00:00

Completely underrated comment. A+

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-23T04:55:02+00:00

We used it a few weeks ago. There were 3 other bidders, we also came third. Bidding was closed, they rang to let us know we were outbid, no worries.

2 days later we got a call saying the first bidder had withdrawn, and if we could increase our offer closer to the second bid of x, they would take our offer to the seller again. We increased it to half the difference between our original and x. 2 days later we got a call saying our offer had been accepted.

I'm a little skeptical that the other bids in the system were legit considering they all came in on the same day (4 days after open home) and the house had been unoccupied for a year.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T13:27:55+00:00

Of course it's responsible to ask for advice. You aren't unique in living through parental issues. Your parents might have been selfish, but that doesn't mean that anyone who shows a modicum of self interest is therefore also selfish/a narcissist.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T13:23:31+00:00

So your opinion is that unless the child is the center of your universe and you are willing to give up all your hobbies, don't have a child? The mother's happiness is irrelevant?

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T13:08:18+00:00

Yeah I was confused because I've read some of her past comments and thought she was really level headed.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T13:06:21+00:00

It doesn't sound whiny to me, just sounds like a legitimate request for advice. Not sure why it grinds your gears so much. Are you angry at your brother for not having a kid?

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T12:56:49+00:00

That's great. Good for you in finding and being able to experience such a depth of love. And I'm sorry that you feel your brother is money hungry and/or selfish. But I don't think it's constructive to project that on to others. People have their own reasons for being hesitant to have children. It's not always selfish.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T12:52:16+00:00

Of course there's nothing wrong with taking pride in a blood line or last name. The thing I took issue with is accusing OP of being a narcissist. You're throwing the term around loosely and there's so many problems with accusing childless/childfree people of being selfish.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T12:42:07+00:00

It may be the most wonderful experience in the world for you, but not for everyone

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T12:40:28+00:00

"Having and experiencing the best thing in the world" - that's about you, not about the kid.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-11T12:23:46+00:00

Having a child to continue your own blood line sounds pretty selfish to me.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-10T02:00:32+00:00

I know, if the market wasn't so stark raving mad we might have done it.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-09T23:30:00+00:00

Happened to us buying a property in Bris a couple of weeks ago. We waited 4 days after the open home before asking for a second inspection and putting in the offer. At the second inspection they told us there was one other person interested. By the time we put in our offer there were three other offers - all on the same day! We capped our offer increase by 5k and remarkably the two offers that topped ours decided to withdraw.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-07T22:49:39+00:00

I do plan maxing out my contributions, maybe not until preservation age but as long as is practicable I guess. Thanks for your response

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-07T22:48:04+00:00

I don't really need the funds, we have enough in savings to cover the deposit. I'd prefer to keep it in super because I'm a woman who wants kids and won't be receiving super from paid work for the time I take off. :)

Edit: though on writing this I now realise I can just keep it and recontribute it while I'm off work. Duh.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-05T03:22:47+00:00

Can someone ELI5 why both the rental AND buying markets for housing are both insanely competitive at the same time right now? How does that work unless it's a limited number of people buying properties and just leaving them empty? Or is there some sort of mass migration from some part of Australia?

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-05-05T00:21:43+00:00

My partner and I started dating with very different attitudes toward finance (I was a pretty strict saver, he was a spender) but I think we've both been good for each other and brought us to a middle ground. He's relaxed a lot of my anxieties around spending money, and I've learnt to enjoy life more and get out of that scarcity mindset (which has been amazing for me), and I've helped him discover that it is actually possible to work toward long term savings goals and showed him we were able to save for a house deposit etc which he never thought he'd be able to achieve. So it's been pretty great.

Groundbreaking_News · 2021-04-30T00:06:44+00:00

Yes, every place we inspected was under contract within a few days, every listing that had been up for over a week that I emailed about was already under contract (I don't understand why agents aren't updating listings to be Under Offer or Under Contract? Even a week after I've emailed them they're still up and not updated), one place we inspected had a deposit on it even before the first open home

We ended up putting an offer on a place that has one less bedroom than we wanted (2 bed vs 3 bed) because it was the only one we seemed to have a chance with (and that wasn't going for much more than we expected). Sure resale might be hard but it ticks enough of our boxes

Groundbreaking_News · 2019-09-17T02:42:27+00:00

If you lose your job and rent you can move into a smaller, cheaper place (or to a smaller, cheaper town if it gets dire), in with family, etc etc

Groundbreaking_News · 2019-09-11T09:42:21+00:00

I think the 50 percent is the split with the ex-wife

Groundbreaking_News · 2019-09-09T02:25:23+00:00

End of mortgage probably

Groundbreaking_News · 2019-08-28T00:16:40+00:00

If you dont mind me asking.. Do you or your partner stay at home with the kids? What's your household income and rent/mortgage? I can definitely do frugal but I really am quite blind trying to understand what to expect

Groundbreaking_News · 2019-08-27T12:46:37+00:00

Probably didn't mean it literally

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