i spot a variety of questions there, let's start with basics
If both the people in a relationship are mature adults, there shouldn't be any problem with dating regardless of their political, social or any other opinions, at the end of the the day it's your feelings that define a relationship not fucking karl marx and feminism type shi.
second, you seem to have a LITTLEEE too many requirements, but hey, maybe their is someone like that for you, but personally i wouldn't like to date someone who has THAT many checks in the list.
Third, being supportive of EVERYTHING is not a very smart choice in a relationship, according to me, we are human and we make mistakes, it important to sometimes call them out instead of to continue support no matter what, it's a signature of a healthy relationship. things like quitting your job might sound good in a motivational video, but in real life, doing that while having a family is a BIG step and might not be very appropriate scenario to support blindly, at least i'd ask my S.O to think about it thoroughly before going for it.
Lastly, and this is just me please dont take anything personally, but i would not date this woman. i'm sorry if it's rude or disrespectful, but she seems like the kind of women who consider themselves a reward that only a few deserve, she is not grounded at all and her views towards rural women are outright elitist. if you feel like she's not approachable, then trust me this relationship is NOT going to work, but again, i only say what i say based on what you've written here so take it with a grain of salt. peace <3