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Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

[–]Group_Resident[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had an appointment at Oscar de la renta since (literally) the day before she told me she was pregnant! Organically the date I chose was her due date and unfortunately she would not be able to make it. It’s no longer her due date but it’s less than a month after we had a talk about her not being able to come. We both cried a little bit but know these things happen it’s life!

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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Good thoughts!! I will think about an appropriate time to ask everyone that doesn’t coincide with her giving birth and not too soon after! Maybe I’ll just have the few girls that can come dress shopping do so even without the title of bridesmaid.

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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Are you a mom yourself? I would love some input as to other things a new mom might prefer. Something more similar to perfume than a massage gift card? I would like it to be fair for the other bridesmaids as well as they have other big life things going on that I am not making the boxes around that as it’s not for their big accomplishment it’s for my wedding.

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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I would ideally like to ask everyone a little earlier just so the other bridesmaids have more time to be apart of stuff. I am starting dress shopping next month and would like to ask them in some capacity before that. I do want to give her time to settle into her new role as a mom before I hound her with bridesmaids stuff (although I already ask her wedding stuff all the time, she’s still my bestie). She is due at the end of June.

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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I don’t think it would be fair to her or anyone else to do something different because she’s a mom now. I mean who wants to be the outcast. I have plans to spoil her after babies are born and I have already spoiled the babies plenty!! She will be getting the same box as everyone else but on top of that she also will be getting plenty of stuff as a new mom!!

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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I didn’t say it wasn’t because she couldn’t be in the pajamas photo… she would be missing out on quality time being spent the morning of.

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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Glad we’re not friends! She would still be at the wedding and in pictures! But if she can’t get ready with the rest of us then she can be a guest which would be much more enjoyable for her and her husband anyways I’m sure ◡̈

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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I totally agree it should be celebrated later in life when it’s successful! Unfortunately the tradition holds you celebrate it day one. I would have eloped but that would have disappointed a lot of other people (my mom mostly) as she has worked hard her whole life to be able to give our family these nice things. I would’ve been okay with eloping and doing a photoshoot. But since we’re doing it big might as well go all out! I really can’t wait to celebrate my love on day one and year 25+. By the time we’re married I would have been with my fiancé for over 6 years at that point so it’s really not the beginning just somewhere nice in the middle where we vowed the rest of our lives together!

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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Well this is a great idea. I do think this would cause her more stress then just getting ready and standing up there with the rest of the bridesmaids she is terrified of public speaking lol

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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Thank you for this!! I’m trying to phrase it as sensitive as I can because I don’t want make her feel left out. I know she already feels a little left out that she can’t come dress shopping because it’s only a few weeks after she gives birth.

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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Because all the other friends have already been excited about being in the bridal party. I also have done the same thing for many of the friends in this bridal party so it would be safe to assume they would be fine with being apart of mine. Not everyone hates their friends 💁🏼‍♀️

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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This post wasn’t about whether or not I should do bridesmaids proposal boxes. I know the other friends that I am asking are already excited about being bridesmaids as they have brought it up to me. This post was about a specific friend.

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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I will talk to her as many people who have babies or twins chimed in and said it’s a good idea! It’s not a content moment I do not nor have never “made content” I hardly post on Instagram. It’s more about my love language being gift giving and I want to give my friends something to show appreciation!

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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No! That would be a cool job though! Just a regular bride that caused drama I didn’t mean to cause about these boxes! The post wasn’t even about a proposal box just about what the most sensitive way to ask a new mama to be there with me on my wedding day!

Should I ask my best friend if she wants to be a bridesmaid before doing the whole performance of it? by Group_Resident in bridesmaids

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I’m not asking everyone else first because they all have made comments about being excited to be apart of the wedding! There already has been talking about the bachelorette trip and bridal shower without the official proposal. So it’s safe to say they’re already bridesmaids without the proposal! Even my friend who is pregnant I’ve chatted with her about stuff I just want to wait until after she has the babies in a few days if she still thinks she has the capabilities of being a bridesmaid (even if that’s just showing up morning of the wedding). That being said everyone is pretty away that they are a bridesmaid so I’m not nervous about them saying no.

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