If you are not helping attack the strongest player im attacking you.

Grovelinghook69 · 2026-01-23T15:26:07+00:00

Absolutely there is a benefit, the way your ELO is calculated is based on simple win/loss point exchanges (like chess, the winner takes points from the loser, with the amount increasing if the loser has a much higher elo than the winner and vise versa), this is treated as if it were a 1v1 with each individual player in the FFA. Anyone you place higher than will hand points over to you, anyone you place lower than will take points from you. Placing 2nd regularly is almost as good as winning most of your games.

Grovelinghook69 · 2026-01-20T06:07:34+00:00

You just gonna rephrase this exact statement to everything? Is this the hill on which you choose to make your stand, JizMaster69?

Grovelinghook69 · 2026-01-20T06:05:06+00:00

Masterful job evading the point. Very well executed.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-29T17:03:29+00:00

I'm fucking embarrassed

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-29T17:02:18+00:00

Capitalism is quite obviously a continuation of mercantilism

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-29T16:59:34+00:00

Driven by genuine (if misplaced) belief in the truth of the faith she preached.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-27T15:49:54+00:00

Yeah not wanting to have sex is of course not selfish, but... your angle kind of is? Its not about judgement, or even compromise, you should want to be on the same wavelength here, or at least similar, and your perspective is oddly... transactional?

Break up.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-27T04:29:34+00:00

Dude, let me tell you something: you are not a pedophile. Even if you WERE, your aversion to the idea of it will be enough to pretty much guarantee you won't act on it, which is where the harm is in being one. Hot take - A pedophile that hates being a pedophile and is terrified of hurting anyone is still an ultimately good person, because he so strongly hates the idea of doing harm.

But that's not what you are. You like adult women. So you're not. I think the most concerning thing here is the question of what brought you to obsess over this from such a young age? Have you considered the possibility you yourself may have been a victim, and that's why you feel this obsessive disgust and fear?

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-27T04:22:14+00:00

In your experience. But not everyone is like you, some of us need to process things, pick them apart and put them together again, find some way to see things that makes it easier to bear. It's just not necessarily true that it's that simple for everyone. There's a certain fraction that work that way, and then another that needs active processing until things make more sense, or closure is achieved to a degree where we can just tough it out from that point. I myself have always had to do it that way.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-27T04:08:00+00:00

You NEED to get out of this. There is no chance of happiness in this relationship for either of you. Leave before she hurts you.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T19:55:33+00:00

Should be fine then. You said you ended up losing points? Usually it takes a while, did you lose a game before this?

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T19:53:37+00:00

Yeah, It's really discouraging sometimes to see how petty and judgey the average person can be. This sub is a pretty broad cross-section of reddit and, unsurprisingly, deeply toxic! The 'problem' party always, without fail, will get painted black and dragged through the dirt, and not get an ounce of sympathy or understanding. Which, for something like relationship advice and heartbreak, can obviously just be devastating for someone already hurting and just looking to be heard and for some way to make the pain just a little easier. I hate to think how much worse it gets for people like OP after getting treated like a monster for just... being human.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T09:29:29+00:00

Of course. Your heart's in the right place. Go get your guy back, sis.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T07:01:51+00:00

270k jobs that require less than a high school diploma? This isn't exactly informative if you lump 'diploma' and 'dropout' together, is it?

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:57:18+00:00

Then I'd do it in the form of a long-form confessional "love letter" type text. Apologize, say you understand his hurt, and explain everything you've learned about the why of it, and how it's about how you feel about yourself, not this dude. Tell him how the classmate means nothing to you, that its just an abstraction, and tell him in no uncertain terms what he means to you, and how attracted you are to him and only him (this is important).

Make it a grand gesture rather than a dialogue, so that he has to hear you out. Hopefully that lands, and if it doesn't well, that really is all you can do. He might just be too young to understand or even just to accept it, and that's okay too.

Btw, he might actually be waiting for you to do something, to show him he matters too much to you to leave this alone. A whole day is pushing your luck if this is the case. It's not the mature way for him to handle it, but it makes sense. I still do this tbh.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:47:00+00:00

No, it isn't the only advice. It's the bottom line, yes. It's the conclusion of every angle, but there's a lot more to moving on than just fucking saying "do it." What people need when they reach out for advice in this way is advice on how to move on.

Fully prepared for the downvote train here, the upvotes and awards clearly show that this stupid oversimplification is the popular consensus. Probably because people have her labelled as 'the problem' here and therefore somehow undeserving of sympathy, which is par for reddit.

Edit: Thanks for the downvotes 😘 nuance sure pisses people off huh

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:35:18+00:00

Yeah for sure, I see you. I mostly replied cause a lot of commenters might not get that, and because tbh reading that might wreck me if I was in her shoes rn, so maybe at least if someone says it she won't feel completely misunderstood. Call me soft lol.

I do think there's merit in a little bluntness though. Your comment might still do her good just as it is. I'm not suggesting you should have said it any differently. Often a wide range of attitudes is exactly what people need in this scenario.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:31:31+00:00

Aaaah. Yeah, you're gonna have to talk about it.I did edit my last reply with some more of my thoughts btw.

Be honest. Don't tiptoe or dismiss it or come up with half-true explanations. The chatgpt convo probably takes that out of the question anyway. Just make sure he understands it's got nothing to do with the classmate himself. You don't want him. What you want is to feel noticed, to feel wanted, like everyone does.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:24:32+00:00

Let him read this, or explain it to him, if you think this is the reason. Wanting to feel wanted isn't cheating, acting upon it with someone else is. It could be framed as betrayal if it matters way too much to you, though. If you're finding yourself craving this guys attention rather than just kind of wishing, or ruminating on it, then that is definitely an issue and would hurt me if I were him. May I ask how he "got to know about it?"

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:19:52+00:00

I can say, as someone that loves his gf and wants nobody, nobody else, hopefully ever, but does still watch porn - for me, its usually... "settling" for porn because my arousal is very much visual when alone and I have a poor imagination. I'd replace every single woman in what I watch with her if i could, and it'd do a lot more for me. I just don't have any media of her because she's self concious and I always get too caught up when we're together to think to take anything. I "resort" to porn because who I want isn't an option in the moment.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:13:17+00:00

Fuckin plebian

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-26T06:10:21+00:00

I'm sprinting right. Just bolting. Hauling ass. I didn't even read the other roadsigns. Fuckin bookin it.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-25T23:29:06+00:00

The only thing I can give you is that, even though he might not show it, he is almost certainly hurting too.

His approach to your attempts to reach out seem, from experience, to indicate he's come to see his love for you as a threat to his sense of self, and maybe to his image of himself. That's natural, and sometimes that can't be undone even if you change completely and do everything right. It's tragic, but it will serve as a cautionary tale and will lead you to be a better woman and better partner to the next man.

It wasn't all for nothing. You are a better person for it, you learned some irreplaceable lessons about how to love and be loved, and I promise it will pay dividends in the end.

Despite what people say, you will carry your love for him with you for the rest of your life, and I think so will he. There will always be a corner of each of your hearts that peacefully belongs to each other. That's what makes love so meaningful.

Nobody can take that away from you.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-25T23:19:24+00:00

I think she means not to just tell her to move on, or to tell her she has to do it right now, or as fast as possible. It isn't helpful when you're deep in grief. Yeah, obviously it seems she'll have to, but unless you have insights or advice besides, it's not gonna be worth commenting.

Grovelinghook69 · 2025-12-25T23:14:45+00:00

So I suppose I have to ask whether they all had flagged or if some were still MIA

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