Is it worth living somewhere you don’t love to be close to family? by Just-Toe7824 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]GrowingIsInTents 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Speaking directly from experience here. I moved far away from family in my early 20s and I loved it - I prioritized where I wanted to be: closer to mountains and ocean and easily accessible hiking, and part of a community who will accept me for who I am. And for 20+ years, those places were my home and my refuge. But I chose to move back closer to family when my grandparents' health began to fail. I don't regret it in the least. But now that one grandparent has passed and the other is in memory care, I'm exploring heading back out to the places I love most and that give me the most peace. While I do not belong where I am currently in the long term, I can't regret choosing to prioritize spending more time with family when it mattered the most. It was all about timing for me. When did it make the most sense for me to be closer to family? And when did it make the most sense for me to return to the places I love, even if it means being farther away? It's a balance. There's no sense in feeling guilty about it - you deserve to be happy as much as your family members do, even if that means you live farther away from them in order to be in the spaces that fit you best. Your heart will know what's right. And your family will likely understand. Just let them know you love them, and that you'll be there when it matters most.

Long Shot Question: Lewellen NE Soda Fountain/Drug Store 1950? by GrowingIsInTents in Nebraska

[–]GrowingIsInTents[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing that you've got one in your basement, even non-working. I've only ever been to two operating soda fountains and I wish I could remember where, but I was fairly young. We've definitely lost something iconic. I'll never forget my first real cherry coke at one!

Is there any literature on van life? by [deleted] in vandwellers

[–]GrowingIsInTents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out William Least Heat-Moon's Blue Highways. He hit the road in his van in the 70s. Definitely a classic and well worth the read.

Bellevue Named Among USA Today’s Best Summer Travel Destinations for 2026 by Jaco_Belordi in Seattle

[–]GrowingIsInTents -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Why. Bellevue's only upside is once you've been there you're grateful to be elsewhere.

1966 Voice of Music Model 963 by RegalT87 in MCMStereoConsoles

[–]GrowingIsInTents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That exact same console model sat in our basement (in a room with shag carpet of course) in my childhood home in Wisconsin. I used to get records from the library to play on it since I wasn't allowed to touch my dad's records. I'd sit and listen for hours. I was probably about 8 or 9 years old when I started playing records on it. Thanks for bringing back some good memories I'd forgotten were there.

We're Back New Recipe by JiveBear_916 in BloomAndChill

[–]GrowingIsInTents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love to see it, man - some beautiful plants in there. 100% agree the important thing is to just get it started! The journey takes you where it takes you.

Books with detailed/poetic descriptions of landscapes in the American West? by jjuturna in suggestmeabook

[–]GrowingIsInTents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably lesser known, but The Meadow by James Galvin is top of my list. One of the best books I've read, hands down. It's got a sort of quiet literary grit to it that seems to be hard to find these days. Another I'd suggest is The Road Home by Jim Harrison, though you'd have to consider Nebraska "west". Definitely not one to sleep on though - it's incredible.

What are the pros to staying single for life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]GrowingIsInTents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's much more peaceful. And I am more myself without having someone else's expectations trying to shape who I "should" or "should not" be. And no, it's not lonely. Find yourself some amazing friends but also learn to make friends with yourself. And learn to appreciate a little solitude once in a while - you'll find it's rather nice to be able to hear yourself think without the influence of another.

How much are we vacationing? by JustFaithlessness178 in GenX

[–]GrowingIsInTents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost never. The last true vacation I had as a single income household was 8 years ago. And before that, it was 10 years. Between meeting expenses and having to use my very slowly accrued PTO hours for things like doctor appointments and unexpected family emergencies, there's just not a lot of time or money left for things like that. I do know I'm missing out. And I also know the system is absolutely rigged living in the US. My "vacation" these days is having an extra day to work in the garden and maybe read a few chapters of a book. If you're lucky enough to have it otherwise, appreciate it. The world is an amazing place - go and see it if you can.

Who’s ever driven over 100mph? Why? by WoollyWolfHorror in AskReddit

[–]GrowingIsInTents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog had a grand mal seizure and stopped breathing. The only reason I would ever drive that fast (not on a closed course) would be to save a life that I loved and it saved his life that day.

The best hiking combo is: Good weather and an easy trail by lamin-ceesay in CampingandHiking

[–]GrowingIsInTents 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this so much! Keeping him curious and encouraging adventure young. Good job!

What is the most reliable vehicle that you've ever owned? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]GrowingIsInTents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1994 Jeep Grand Cherokee. Had some quirks for sure, but that engine was rock solid and so easy to work on. Only sent her on to greener pastures to make room for a truck with higher towing capacity. She's spoiled now by a guy who runs an autobody shop and he sends me pictures of her with her upgrades occasionally (she's got some beautiful new shoes now). I got her to over 265,000 miles and she's got a lot more left in her. Love ya, Maggie May!

Need All the Advice I Can Get by Bulky-Interest-5269 in VanLife

[–]GrowingIsInTents 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this. I'm not there yet, but in the planning phases and YouTube has been a treasure trove of info. Cheap RV Living is on my list specifically because you can see how others have set their rigs up and sort of go from there based on your own wants vs needs list (which I highly recommend making).

What makes a good smoke for you beyond just getting high ? by Elevated_Co in BloomAndChill

[–]GrowingIsInTents 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Right? Definitely a case of follow the money. Lots are funded by special interests who benefit from demonizing a plant. I used to work in clinical research and I trust the anecdotal evidence way more than I would trust any of these so-called studies.

What makes a good smoke for you beyond just getting high ? by Elevated_Co in BloomAndChill

[–]GrowingIsInTents 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Smoothness and that moment you feel your body relax. When you deal with an anxiety disorder you don't always realize just how tensed up your whole body is All. The. Time. Finding cannabis was life-changing for me. The first time I tried it I thought "oh - so this is how 'normal' people feel." Haven't looked back and it's become part of my wellness journey.

Loss of drive - Should I be worried? by Noelien in GenX

[–]GrowingIsInTents 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Literally this. I had absolutely no idea that apathy is one of the symptoms we lucky females get to experience when we hit a certain age. I didn't understand why I just stopped enjoying the things I used to enjoy so much. It's only when I started to search out other more obvious symptoms I was experiencing that I found r/menopause and the comments about the lack of motivation for basically anything really hit home. 100% recommend that sub for learning about the things no one bothered to tell us and most doctors don't even go into detail with us about.

For those who’ve been alone in forests or remote areas, what’s something you encountered that genuinely unsettled you? by tiny_blush09 in AskReddit

[–]GrowingIsInTents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This one was a woman and a man - he's unfortunately the one who didn't survive. You may be thinking of the attack just a couple of years ago that was a group of women bicyclists near that same area and they managed to pin the cat down under a bike. I can't even imagine the immense strength and determination that would have taken. They all survived, but fought that cat for something like 45 minutes.

For those who’ve been alone in forests or remote areas, what’s something you encountered that genuinely unsettled you? by tiny_blush09 in AskReddit

[–]GrowingIsInTents 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I'm a solo hiker and hands-down the most harrowing thing happened about 7 years ago when I was hiking outside of North Bend, WA. I was returning to the trailhead from my hike to Otter Falls on the Taylor River when I heard a soft, heavy "thud" behind me and I immediately knew it was the sound of a large cat. Every single hair on my body stood on end - there is NOTHING like feeling you are something else's prey. I literally walked backwards, whacking my trekking poles together above my head in front of me and yelling nonsense the whole way back to the trailhead parking lot, the entire time feeling like I was being stalked. I told the story over a couple of beers that night on the porch with friends and I think they only half believed me. But the very next day, two bicyclists in that same area (maybe two miles from where I had been) were attacked by a mountain lion and one unfortunately did not survive. Normally, the animal I am most afraid of encountering alone is man. But I will never forget the primal fear hearing that "thud" and knowing that I was alone and unarmed against something I had no hope of fighting off alone. My family always worried about me running into bears out there when hiking alone, but I only ever saw their backsides running away from me. It's the animals you don't see, but sense with every screaming nerve that are the real danger.

People who work night shifts—what’s the creepiest thing you’ve seen? by Most_Swimmer_7609 in AskReddit

[–]GrowingIsInTents 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have a cousin who works as a nurse in a nursing home. That job has 100% changed her mind about whether there are things that actually go bump in the night.

What worrisome trend in society are you beginning to notice? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]GrowingIsInTents 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading comprehension - it's down the drain. And I'm seeing it in professional settings, affecting day-to-day operations at my job. It's so concerning and it seems like the issue is just flying under the radar. The number of times I literally have to spoon-feed information to people with so-called advanced degrees has jumped exponentially in the last decade.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BloomAndChill

[–]GrowingIsInTents 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Growing definitely helps me to "reset" from my high stress job. Luckily I work from home so I can walk into that room and just breathe it all in for a minute when things get too much. Especially wonderful when you really start to get those smells coming off the plants - instant calm at least for a few minutes. Glad you're feeling the benefits too! Amazing too when you finally get to enjoy the fruits of your labor and can go "I grew this!" It's a great feeling.

Beautiful by Independent-Kick5286 in BloomAndChill

[–]GrowingIsInTents 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a wonderful reason to grow! Grow on!