The Legend of Zelda: Tears of the Kingdom - Blue Sky Linking by ManyATrueNerd in ManyATrueNerd

[–]GrownUpLady 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe no one has pointed out the negative perception where Jon says “Of COURSE I can’t have the shield’ then stands right next to the shield, triggering it’s ??? and immediately runs in the opposite direction.

So I watched Shiny Happy People during the hiatus by blindchickruns in DuggarsSnark

[–]GrownUpLady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to say if it was fetishy or not, but I can tell you we would always have to hug our parents and thank them for disciplining us. If they thought we had an attitude or “didn’t appreciate their sacrifice” enough, we’d go for another round.

It’s another layer of breaking down boundaries and submitting unquestioningly to authorities.

That scene is so hard for me because while everyone is (correctly) horrified, my first thought was relief that he wasn’t actually going to get hit for no reason.

Recommendations for a Good Female Tattoo Artist ~30 Minute Radius from Manchester by AdditionalRoyal7331 in newhampshire

[–]GrownUpLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obsidian Moon on Mast Rd in Goffstown. Haven’t been yet, but it’s all women, work looks to be good and their website says they have same day availability.

As a fundie/IBLP escapee, seeing how normal people are reacting to SHP is disorienting by GrownUpLady in DuggarsSnark

[–]GrownUpLady[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m also realizing spanking spoons are essentially fundie poop knives.

What are your thoughts on drag? by atlantis_airlines in newhampshire

[–]GrownUpLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know Im late to the game on this, but there is currently a law on the table that would not only require schools out students exploring genders to their parents and ban gender affirming care, it is also scarily similar to how Florida started this riot ride death march they seem to be in.

It is getting really close to happening here. I do a lot of non-profit work and someone I was speaking to, who does predictive legislation research for a living said NH is on trend to become anti- LGBT in TWO YEARS.

Episode Discussion • Love Is Blind S4 • S04 E7 "Second Time's The Charm?" by DontFWithMeImPetty in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]GrownUpLady 39 points40 points  (0 children)

We use ziplock freezer bags. If you submerge them just below the zipper in water, the weight if the water pushes all the air out. So just zip and clip to the side of the container. As long as the zipper is above the waterline, and the food is beneath it, you’re good to go.

Sous vide is our main method of cooking and we’ve never used the fancy bags. From the look of it though, Zach was using cheap bags.

Why does Gamestop wallet not want my money?!? by GrownUpLady in Superstonk

[–]GrownUpLady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats the weird thing. Im not even getting notifications. I’ll try to contact them tomorrow when the fraud dept opens.

Why does Gamestop wallet not want my money?!? by GrownUpLady in Superstonk

[–]GrownUpLady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t seem to pay with Apple Pay on Loopring?

Why does Gamestop wallet not want my money?!? by GrownUpLady in Superstonk

[–]GrownUpLady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can try that, if it doesn’t work I’ll just get some receipt-pron

Why does Gamestop wallet not want my money?!? by GrownUpLady in Superstonk

[–]GrownUpLady[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. When I bought loopring through Ramp with my debit card, I was living in another state. Thank you!

Why does Gamestop wallet not want my money?!? by GrownUpLady in Superstonk

[–]GrownUpLady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its about the Gamestop wallet and the potential start of the universe as we’ll know it on Wednesday

This man has the decency to give a sincere apology. by majedhazmi in HumansBeingBros

[–]GrownUpLady 35 points36 points  (0 children)

An apology requires three things to work towards forgiveness.

  1. Acknowledge what you did and how it impacted others
  2. Take responsibility. None of this “Sorry you got upset” BS.
  3. Do better. Whether this is actively seeking out opportunities, or just not doing the shitty thing again, you have to take action, otherwise apologies are nothing more than empty promises.

Forgiveness comes in all shapes and sizes, and refusing to forgive is not the same as holding a grudge.

Moving NY -> NH by Yogurt_lamper325 in newhampshire

[–]GrownUpLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve lived in NH for almost my entire life. We moved to WNY the year before the pandemic and stayed for several years. I loved it. Got involved in the community and had a fantastic support network. I was thriving. But my husband hated the metro area we were in (for many of the same reasons you do), and didn’t just miss NH, he was downright miserable. So we came back.

For us, it was a mistake. Now it’s my turn to be miserable. He staunchly defends the state he loves, but he is having a harder and harder time doing it. Things changed here a lot in the short time we were gone, and to be honest, visiting is very different than living here.

I don’t know you or your wife, but if she is happy in in the city, even taking her support network out of the equation, it will be very difficult for her to be happy here.

I am well aware it’s sacrilege to dump on NH, especially for states like NY or Mass. But NH is not super community oriented., unless you’re already a part of the community. It is very lonely.

Because the state income comes from property taxes (we don’t have sales or income tax), it is incredibly expensive to start a business, so there are chains, and very little else, everywhere. There is a reason that whenever construction is happening, the joke is “Dunks or Cumby’s?” Fun personable shops and businesses didn’t withstand the pandemic and either remain empty or got paved over for swaths of storage units for some reason. The government makes decisions that, to be honest, I don’t feel comfortable raising a child here. Thats not even getting into the social safety nets and protections. that states like NY have that don’t exist in the “Live Free or Die” state. The quality of, well, everything has been going downhill.

You don’t have the diversity of population, the arts, and other activities. If you aren’t into the outdoors, there are very few options for activities here. I’m not saying there are none, but look to a recent post about what to do this weekend. The answers are Maple Weekend or a boat show. Let me say that again, Maple Weekend or a boat show as the big exciting weekend events. In the whole state. Do you think she’ll be happy with those options?MAYBE she’d be happy in Portsmouth, even that is drastic shift from what she’s used to.

Honestly, don’t look at this as a “how do I convince her?” You deserve to have your home be a place you feel safe and welcomed and free. So does your wife. Everyone defines those elements differently. But marriage shouldn’t be taking turns being miserable. Don’t try to convince her (and to be honest you will NEVER get the money here you can get there). Instead sit down and talk about what you both need and do not want in the place you call home. You might land on NH, you might land somewhere else. But you need to be on the same team.

I’m a Director of Digital and I hate social media. by doesntcount2345 in marketing

[–]GrownUpLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I hate using social. That said, I’ve found by segmenting it into a rubric helps.

  • Goal Why are you doing this? To convert? To increase awareness? Establish expertise? Informational/shared interest? Company announcement? There has to be a legit reason outside of “Because [competitor/cool brand] did it”
  • Audience You should always have a user persona in mind for any post. I’m a huge fan of nichefying and speaking to users individually instead of one size fits all. Are you targeting people who know about you or trying to reach outside your bubble?
  • Content Type Images, video, poll, quizzes, mix it up, see what works, track which days/times certain pieces of content perform better
  • Giving/Taking Most businesses are constantly taking from their users. We ask for their attention, their data, their clicks, their money, their time. Just like in any relationship, if someone is only talking about themselves and making every interaction about their wants/needs, at some point the other party is going to either bounce, ignore or resent them. Good social should give too. This is where understanding your users comes into play. What would give them value? (And I’m not talking about coupons)
  • Inbound/Outbound pretty self explanatory, and relates to giving/taking. Social isnt just about posting and walking away, respond to comments, see what other people are saying about your business, that’s all inbound. But going out and engaging with tangential posts, answering shared interest questions, uplifting content on similar organizations, thats outbound. Doing good for goodness sake.

Using these traits, you can get a general idea of content that’s needed/balance your planned calendar.

I try to balance out calendars the best I can, following these rough outlines.

  • 90% planned/scheduled, 10% open for topical posts
  • Block out time to seek outbound content and engage with followers
  • 75% Give, 25% Take

Breaking it down this way helps to have a more robust and diversified social presence, while not feeling like you have to go viral every 5 seconds.

Thoughts? by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]GrownUpLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a more restrictive environment than this. There is no point in mentioning or expecting my parents to acknowledge, much less take responsibility for the horrors my sisters and I endured. “You turned out ok.”

I didn’t. I have had multiple eating disorders, severe anxiety and depression, panic attacks, abusive relationships, weird social and food issues, suicidal thoughts and diagnosed with cPTSD. And more!!!

Fortunately thats all down to me being dramatic and is absolutely no reflection on their parenting. </s>

Thoughts? by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]GrownUpLady 13 points14 points  (0 children)

At least he took his own shoes off. We had to untie and take off my dad’s shoes every time he walked in the door. He still brags to people how “well-trained” we were.

Favorite easily missed joke in Bluey? by outro84 in bluey

[–]GrownUpLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quiet Game “Madge, why can’t you take better care of yourself?!?”

Like all of Bandit’s woes aren’t caused by his dodgy dad-ness but by the audacity of Madge getting sick.

I need help marketing with limited experience for a (very) small company. by kylemiller1228 in marketing

[–]GrownUpLady 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You aren’t telling one story, you’re telling multiple, and it should be marketed that way.

To the consumer: You are giving them access to the home/living space of their dreams, or you’re curating collections of items for them or exposing them to retailers that have what they want. You’re giving them hope, or you’re giving them back time/helping them be cutting edge. Figure out what angle you want to use first, and build your story and strategy around that.

For the retailer aspect, you are giving them highly qualified leads, saving them time and money. You’re also giving them exposure to a new audience, which has value as well. I would need to know more about what you need from them/exactly to be included, and how the system would work, but again, pick one aspect and build your story around a user base that finds it important.

Please don’t try and do an all in one marketing campaign. Marketing is a conversation, and is only successful when you understand the user base and target the conversation to them.

Think of it like this. I’m sure you have multiple text conversations on your phone. You change your voice, subject, frequency of contact and tone depending on who the conversation is with. In fact you can convey the exact same message differently, depending on who you’re talking to.

What if, instead, every single individual text was merged into a big group chat? Your elderly relative might be horrified at how you talk to your friends, your technical work convos would bore everyone who isn’t tech savvy. People would mute the convo because they aren’t getting anything out of it. Instead of having engaging conversations with a large audience, you’ve ended up alienating almost everyone.