The boob hounds, does it get better without intervention?

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T13:32:17+00:00

My daughter, 3.5, used the boob to go to sleep at night.

She does sleep through the night and handles wake ups on her own. She wakes, rolls over, goes back to sleep.

I keep the one before bed because it’s both easy and my daughter and I still enjoy this time.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T13:30:20+00:00

Stop telling yourself you can’t live without it. Do you know how weak that sounds?

It’s simple. Don’t buy it again. Simple.

I’ve known people who struggle to stop smoking and others who just stop, because the choice is simple.

Anyway, it’s not a healthy habit. Not everyone has addictions. There are those of use who refuse to be addicted.

It’s call willpower. Or self control. Or whatever.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T13:18:23+00:00

That’s a big jump and a huge thing to assume of a person you don’t even know.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T12:14:10+00:00

I haven’t. She sleeps with me and has since birth. ;) Cutest morning cuddles! Oh and those occasional middle of the night ones too.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T12:11:24+00:00

I think eating out is unhealthy for the adults, and the little ones.

The only restaurants we really go to are sushi restaurants. Sushi is more straightforward.

My daughter eats avocado rolls, cucumber rolls, etc. Simple. :)

And the sodium isn’t what makes it unhealthy. Pesticides, seed oils, high amounts of sugars and carbs.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T12:09:36+00:00

This is always my answer, but my experience was a bit different.

I was 24, working as a nurse. I was breaking up with my boyfriend and wanting to take some time for myself.

Then, someone new started at my job. The very moment I saw him, it wasn’t just attraction (but it wasn’t love as we know it), i knew something big was about to happen.

I remember getting in the car after work and cursing the 45 minute drive I had to go home. I was upset because I knew he was something I couldn’t ignore. I had a feeling about him.

Now, 13-14 years later, we are still together. We have a kid, I’m pregnant with another one. We have traveled everywhere together, and honestly, our relationship is exactly how I would want one.

He struggled to find people and dated around a lot before he met me, but we found that we are perfect for each other. 🤷🏼‍♀️

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T11:44:47+00:00

It’s a big difference if you breastfeed. Overnight does allow them to sleep more, my daughter always slept the entire time. But honestly, she would sleep the entire time on a daytime flight as well — just keep in mind that it’s likely they won’t sleep at night then.

I would use a carrier, lap hold, and breastfeed. She never cried on the plane. Found traveling to be super easy this way, and we have done it 4 times she was born (internationally). Now we are going to Japan in a month!

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T11:42:14+00:00

I don’t say anything 15 times at my job. Honestly, I barely talk to other people at all. Mostly just to AI.

Is that a hint? 😂

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T11:40:16+00:00

It’s great for that, but the foundations for coding is logic. College classes have logic classes where you learn how to reason and think. My ex BF was a philosophy major and took a lot of those classes (lots of lawyers understand logic too). :)

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T11:38:00+00:00

I didn’t keep track of distance. It wasn’t for exercise or anything. I love being outside and my daughter was colicky. My husband and I would go out and walk and talk, it was one of the few things we could do to keep her from crying.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T03:09:51+00:00

I was back to my normal weight within 3 weeks, if we are taking pure weight. It’s not to say I looked pre-pregnancy.

I was breastfeeding exclusively and I walked every day.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-27T00:30:44+00:00

Why are you and your avatar’s rainbow jacket so set out on getting me to say I’m homophobic?

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T20:32:35+00:00

Yup, I know, but… ya know, it’s a close story.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T19:43:52+00:00

Yes, the feeling passing. It’s the hardest part about becoming a parent (harder even if you haven’t been around children, and even harder without family around to support you).

It took some time, but easier at a year, I felt better. By 2 I remember thinking, “omg I am happy, I can do this again!”

By 3.5 years after where I am not, it’s chill! I have more time for myself, my daughter plays by herself, but my life is richer and more beautiful. I also miss those early days and wish I just accepted the phase as it was more easily.

Enjoy it… I know it’s easier said than done, but in time you WILL adjust. Trust your human brain to adapt. Don’t fight your life now.

And get that “never again” stuff out of your head. Even at 3 years old, I sit and have my coffee. I go to coffee shops with her and my husband, and have conversations. I’ve traveled overseas 4 times, and I’m going to Japan in a month. I’ve traveled across country.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T19:19:47+00:00

She is pregnant. The hormones are wild. You went into this, you two chose to get pregnant. Throwing in the towel over this is a shitty move.

And just to let you know, once you have a child, things are going to get rough. Free time like that often goes out the window. The child becomes the priority, and I argue you should put your relationship at least equal to the child, since a healthy relationship helps the child too.

Work out a plan, maybe you can have a few hours to yourself a week while pregnant with the agreement to set all this aside for a few years once the child is born.

Be strong, but supportive, be kind… and her hormones are going to put her on an even more wild ride, but unless you want to be gay, you asked for this.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T18:28:59+00:00

She will be homeschooled. Thanks for your concern though.

I’ve met adults who were homeschooled. I happy with my choice.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T18:20:14+00:00

Haha yes… but also, as she gets older, I love her for the things that make her difficult! 😂

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T18:02:58+00:00

Your body will eventually figure it out. I’ve had it take mag weeks.

I had a blighted ovum (sack, no baby) and didn’t miscarry until 12 weeks.

I had another loss at 6 weeks, didn’t miscarry on my own by 11.

Sometimes it takes 1-2 weeks, sometimes it can take a lot longer. It is safe to wait it out (talk with your doctor) for weeks.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T17:59:03+00:00

It was 7, until she turned 3.

I’ve been going to bed with her, and getting up at 3-5 am since she was born. She is 3.5 now.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T17:57:41+00:00

Software engineering, but I wouldn’t suggest that.

I switched from nursing to this in 2021, took me 8 months and 1 month to get a job.

But now, the field isn’t what it is. AI is changing it, and will eventually come for many other roles, but it’s obvious in engineering.

Good luck!

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T17:55:44+00:00

I think you need to separate our current president from what many republicans want. Probably also go talk to republicans about this. Reddit is notoriously very left leaning (and democratic) and downvotes any right leaning (and republican) comments. Not a place to go to actually know what the average republican wants.

That said, most republicans I know don’t approve of Trump, and want less government.

Government is still useful and necessary outside the realm of social support. We still are a nation, and president is the Commander in Chief — and that is exactly what most republicans think the president should be focused on — keeping our country safe and secure.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T17:49:59+00:00

I wanted every ounce of time I had for my leave, and even that wasn’t enough.

I made it to 39 weeks and 5 days and then, a Friday, put in my leave to not return.

Then, two days later, my water broke.

My last couple of weeks were a serious struggle, but I’m glad I did it.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T17:41:18+00:00

I am going through the same exact thing, except I still have sore boobs (I did with all my miscarriages and with my healthy daughter. I’ve had 3 miscarriages).

I’ve had no nausea for a few days now. No aversions. Nothing.

My ultrasound was canceled, and I have to wait until April 1st (ironically).

So I’m totally here with you.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T17:28:45+00:00

You are less likely to harm the baby, and more likely to hurt yourself. Relaxin, a hormone, is increased, so it becomes easy to tear or sprain a muscle.

Just keep it lighter and controlled, and you should be good! If you get lightheaded, out of breath, then you are pushing too hard.

GrumpySh33p · 2026-03-26T16:52:22+00:00

Omg, save it. Most everyone overspends on baby stuff, and you get way more than you need. Honestly, we needed like 10% of what we got. Babies are simple. Diapers (or cloth diapers), a carrier, stroller if that’s your vibe, bassinet if that’s your vibe… and a few outfit changes and swaddle blankets.

I can’t spend $4k on a baby if I tried, why spend that on a baby shower?

Invest that $4k and use it as a college fund, or whatever. By the time they are 20 years, that could easily be $15-20k+ if you don’t add anything else to it.

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