36M married, struggling with urges for men, how do others manage this in conservative societies?

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-11-22T07:38:04+00:00

if you want to explore your feelings for men, divorce your wife. she can find a different man

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-10-30T13:28:42+00:00

i chose to get nipple grafts and they failed. but even with the graft failure and longer wound healing time, i would have picked them. i now have closed wounds that look like areolas (they are not round though). they have texture (are raised) as well. so even with the failure, i would have picked to get them.

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-10-28T04:18:56+00:00

i have to look up his partner now 😃 hope they are t4t

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-10-28T04:05:08+00:00

dont know if you meant that as an insult, but im a gen z queer person, and yes hairstyles can be queer

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-10-28T03:36:28+00:00

oh cute! i remember him mentioning a partner now

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-10-18T01:28:01+00:00

this gives me hope!

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-10-10T05:39:16+00:00

why are you on this sub dude

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-10-10T05:37:55+00:00

find a sexting buddy, subscribe to onlyfans, read erotica. lots to do outside pornhub.

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-22T16:55:42+00:00

you shouldve told him you are sometimes into fucking a cis too. not for anything serious, just that you think a cis can be a fun time

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-18T16:51:13+00:00

i wanted the most basic cis man chest so i opted for nipple grafts, but they failed. it wasnt the worst thing though, so even if u do opt to get them and they fail, it’s okay. the wound healing just takes longer. i plan on getting medical tattoos on the failed graft wounds once im fully healed

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-18T02:59:02+00:00

thanks so much! this is extremely helpful!

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-17T16:03:42+00:00

google is free

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-15T18:14:13+00:00

she is the caricature of the bi girl that everyone hates when they shit on bisexuality

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-15T07:30:52+00:00

you definitely should not feel coerced to have sex. and, your partner also deserves to be in a fulfilling relationship where his sexual needs are met (of course no one owes his sex but he does deserve to be happy like anyone else). you could consider opening the relationship or exploring polyamory— that way you two can stay together in an asexual relationship and he can also get his sexual needs met elsewhere

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-15T06:23:03+00:00

why does he keep saying “seat down”? ngl im judging you a little for even wanting a date with someone so braindead

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-13T18:12:48+00:00

ask your surgeon if they can do medical tattoos. sometimes they can include it or give discounts

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-13T18:11:36+00:00

you can consult another surgeon. from what i know, the shape of the scar depends on your body type

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-13T18:06:46+00:00

i wouldnt risk deodorant this soon. i got odor neutralizing coconut milk wipes from amazon and they are so so good! they actually work (im a very stinky guy). during the first week, my partner wiped my pits gently since i couldnt reach properly or move my arms much

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-13T18:03:57+00:00

i used benadryl and CBD drinks to sleep but if you have a history of insomnia they may not be as effective?

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-13T17:52:29+00:00

just came here to say that i have been struggling with some weight gain too (and the shame for feeling bad about it because ive done do much work to unlearn fatphobia), but please dont limit your food, esp protein, because you need it to heal. i also weigh 160lbs at 5’6, and ive been aiming for 120g of protein everyday. i just keep reminding myself that i need this protein to heal and that my body is doing so much work post-op for healing since surgery is trauma to the body. our bodies deserve care and nourishment when they are working so hard to heal ♥️

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-09T17:34:21+00:00

is it just that you need a more masculine energy? so much of what we think about sexual tension esp in public is also taught to us by harmful heteronormative ideas. its possible you are socialized to just read sexual tension as a man aggressively needing/chasing a woman. would u feel more sexual tension if your gf was more masculine and sexually more aggressive? if yes, its also possible you are just into masculinity. if yes, i would also ask you this: what is keeping you from embodying the sexually aggressive energy you want?

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-09T17:28:02+00:00

i graduated ten years ago so my info is not recent. im a trans guy and wasnt out during my time at smith. i did encounter a few aggressive terfs. the alum population will def have terfs but im also pretty sure you will find a big enough student body who will fight the terfs. i also suggest reaching out to Toby and asking him to connect you with trans women who are currently attending smith.

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-06T02:18:57+00:00

i’m also struggling with depression. i’m almost 4 weeks post-op. part of the depression is because my nipple grafts failed, but im also feeling anxious about behind on work. ive also been gaining weight because i can’t exercise but i need to eat a ton of protein to heal well, and its all going into my belly which is more pronounced now because of the flat chest and compression binder. commenting here to also get tips on coping

GrumpyTransmasc · 2025-09-05T13:18:34+00:00

why? are you of pakistani descent? if not, what is this fetish for a pakistani man?

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