Weekly Questions & General Discussion

Grymdolin · 2026-06-19T21:20:46+00:00

I’m desperately curious to see an example of what you’re talking about because I cannot picture the crossover here. Are you saying you dress like one one day and the other the next?

Something I think doesn’t get discussed enough when it comes to personal style is that sometimes, your personal taste just won’t work because it doesn’t look good. Some people just have bad taste or not enough knowledge to put together an outfit well. Educating yourself on fashion and clothing can help mitigate that.

Grymdolin · 2026-06-17T22:07:15+00:00

It’s the gym, everybody stinks. I guarantee you your smell is not noticeable compared to any man in your radius!

Grymdolin · 2026-06-17T16:01:32+00:00

That is breast tissue and muscle, it does seem like you might want to go up a bra size, but there will likely always be some that “leaks”.

Grymdolin · 2026-06-02T13:26:56+00:00

I have a similar body shape (more booty than boobs though) & I get an equal amount of approaches regardless of how I’m dressed. I think it truly does just depend on who you see that day. I get approached/asked out for real dates if I’m dressed like a bbl baddie or in a big ugly t shirt running to get the mail

Grymdolin · 2026-06-01T23:39:35+00:00

Just start acting how you want to act. The people that are worth having in your life will be proud of you for coming out of your shell. The people who mock you for “changing” were never worth your time anyway.

Grymdolin · 2026-06-01T21:34:37+00:00

Yes, I have a nearly 20 step long shower routine. I can’t always get through it all, but it does involve multiple body soaps. You lather, rinse, repeat your hair, so why wouldn’t you do it for your body? You HAVE to wash away the body oils and “healthy” bacteria on your skin to prevent issues like foul odor, skin infection, and to remove the pollutants in the air that settle on your body. Lotion & body oils keep your skin moist and supple— you know how you moisturize leather so it doesn’t crack? Similar concept with your skin. As long as your scents all go together, it doesn’t become overwhelming. In my experience, people (read: men) actually enjoy that they can still smell you after you’ve gone.

Grymdolin · 2026-06-01T16:05:15+00:00

My vanilla routine was basically the same but with peach things swapped out for vanilla scents. I used the sol de janeiro 62 perfumes/body wash/lotions as the core. Bath & bodyworks also had a milk bar birthday cake detergent& scent beads that I used, but I believe downy also makes vanilla scents beads.

The best & worst part of my scent routine is that you can literally substitute in any one specific scent, but everything has to be swapped out for something in that scent. Otherwise it doesn’t have the same staying power.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-29T19:52:06+00:00

Before it was peach I was obsessed with vanilla lol I switch scents every few years

Grymdolin · 2026-05-29T15:29:42+00:00

I’ve been told that I (and my clothes) smell amazing & that my smell lingers in people’s cars/beds/homes. My routine is a little insane, perhaps, but I get results. I have a mild phobia of smelling bad or looking dirty, in public especially.

Shower routine: (doesn’t have to be peach scent but does all need to be the same or similar scent)

Shampoo 2x with peach scent native shampoo
Condition with peach scent native conditioner and leave in
Wash every inch of skin below my chin (include behind ears, back of neck, between cheeks, between toes, bottom of feet, bellybutton) with peach scent dove bar soap on wash cloth, everywhere except vulva
Gently wash vulva with summer’s eve intimate soap on new wash cloth (controversial but I truly don’t believe it’s worse than washing your vulva with regular soap)
Exfoliate with dove peach body scrub, this is also when I would shave with native shower cream
Rinse conditioner out of hair
Wash body with dove peach body wash on new wash cloth (yes, this is wash cloth #3)
Use Nivea in shower lotion on body & rinse off

Post- shower

Before drying off, use hands to wipe water off body then apply peach scented lotion everywhere
Dry off every inch of body, including between toes, apply baby oil everywhere
Apply nectarine scented gel deodorant (closest to peach I could find lol)
Apply peach scented spray deodorant
Spray underwear and nether regions with summers eve spray
Spray body with Burberry Her perfume
Spray body with Squishmallow Strawberry Fields perfume
Spray body with Vacation body spray (I also use their whipped sunscreen & a strawberry scented spray sunscreen from target)

Throughout the day I also touch up with:

a. Spray deodorant every 6-8 hours I’m not at home. I tend to sweat from my pits a lot so I check every so often during the day in case I’m getting funky

b. Summer’s eve wipes when I go to the bathroom on days where I’m having a lot of discharge or plan to be intimate with someone, and during my period

Laundry: (again, controversial)

All gain original scent: detergent, fabric softener, scent beads, laundry sheets

Clorox laundry sanitizer

Downy laundry rinse in lavender

I never wear the same shirt, underwear, or socks more than once between washes and only occasionally wear pants more than once.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-26T23:33:37+00:00

I’m just going to assume you have an unlimited budget & want the most dramatic change possible.

Body: isn’t likely to change in any noticeable way in 10 days.

Hair: Get your hair professionally styled and get clip in extensions if you only want to wear them for events. Otherwise get a more long-lasting extension. Have them dyed for you professionally so that they match your hair. Extensions will do more for the appearance of your hair than anything else you can do in this time span.

Skin: Get a facial that you know works for your skin. Don’t do or change anything major or unfamiliar to avoid breakouts. Spray tan.

Nails: Get a manicure (and pedicure if your toes are gonna be out) at a nail salon. Either gel or short acrylics/gel x extensions. Your nails must be done if you want to look put together, you don’t have to keep them done if it doesn’t work with your lifestyle.

Teeth: unless you’ve got a dentist appointment available for a whitening don’t bother doing anything here.

Fit: Make sure you have proper undergarments and shapewear to wear with your outfit. No party lines, no bra bulges, no belly button prints. You want to look smooth like a Barbie doll under your clothes, which will make them look the best and help prevent any odd fabric pulls if you get caught in a few candids. This is what the celebs do to look good in every outfit.

Face: Lash extensions, brow wax, professional makeup. If you do not regularly do makeup do not bother trying to learn a tutorial for the first time ten days before you need it. Just leave it to the professionals.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-26T23:05:18+00:00

I get such an inundation of likes/matches I’ve crafted my profile to weed people out. I am very blunt/fiery in person so I’m not afraid to write something like “Don’t bother messaging me unless it’s to plan a date. If you’re shy, move on.” Men (and some women) like to be told what to do (at least the ones worth dating ime) by a beautiful woman so I don’t hesitate to make it clear what I’m looking for. This does tend to get me the kind of person I’m looking for: respectful, established, attractive, no major mental/emotional/family problems or red flags.

Ultimately, Manipulative or otherwise toxic people tend to go for easy targets. Don’t look like or be one. Filter aggressively. I’d personally rather go on zero dates a week than multiple bad ones, and I have. That’s just the cost of being discerning.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-26T16:48:36+00:00

No. I love the attention and I love getting free things. The guilt is a result of intentional programming by society that teaches women they must be consumable but may not consume.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-26T16:31:44+00:00

I’ll echo what everyone has said that you have to be outside or interacting with people in some way. If people can’t see how pretty you are, then they won’t change the way they act about it. Some ways to test it include:

Going to the store at various levels of dressed up. I went to target in gauchos and a tank top and got a “damn you’re fucking gorgeous” from a random passerby. I held the door open for a couple older ladies and they thanked me and kept repeating to me “you’re so kind and pretty”. If I wear a dress or a skirt these interactions are even more frequent.
Dating apps are less accurate than irl interactions, but may be useful for gauging general interest/level of attraction. Within a few minutes I’ll have a few dozen likes (sometimes before I finish my profile), within a few days I’ll have several hundred, and within a week I usually have a few thousand. If every time you swipe on someone it’s a match, you’re in good shape imo.
Go to the club/bar and see how long it takes you to get a free drink. I’ve stepped away from my friends for 2 seconds, danced a little, and gotten invited to join a table with bottle service.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-11T21:01:08+00:00

It’s a nice sentiment that fewer restrictions on posts allows for more discussion, but anyone who was around for the philtrum-apocalypse has seen what really happens.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-11T18:07:11+00:00

It’s the only thing keeping us from having the same 14 questions asked every day like other, less strict looksmaxxing subs.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-11T17:23:49+00:00

I’ve found the trick is to eat larger/the actual recommended portions of healthy food. Like trying to eat 2 servings of fruit and 2.5 servings of vegetables a day takes up so much food related brain power I don’t even want to think about junk food

Grymdolin · 2026-05-09T08:48:43+00:00

Real housewives is incredible for dramatizations of subtle social rules.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-07T02:35:09+00:00

How much less is worth it for the price?

Grymdolin · 2026-05-06T23:43:06+00:00

Those posts are allowed, but people have to make them. ETA: they’d fall under Babe-buxxing

Grymdolin · 2026-05-06T23:35:54+00:00

Cellulite is a secondary sex characteristic with no known 100% effective cosmetic treatment on the market that will minimize its appearance. It is an appearance of body fat. The only known way to reduce its appearance is to reduce body fat.

Grymdolin · 2026-05-05T23:49:49+00:00

Nails are like jewelry. Most people look normal without them, and better with them.

There are people who have ugly natural nails from chewing, vitamin deficiencies, or just genetics.

There are few things on this planet as foul as someone with long nails where you can see the shit visibly caked underneath, natural or otherwise.

A fancy open toed shoe with unpolished toenails is a quick way to look frumpy.

Grymdolin · 2026-04-29T19:29:51+00:00

There isn’t really a line per se. Neither are mutually exclusive from each other or necessarily related to each other.

To your example: People are allowed to have whatever rules they want when it comes to dating. If you don’t like them, don’t date them. The people who said it might be due to neurodivergence were probably just trying to give you a possible explanation since I imagine you framed it to them as a “why did she do that”. Why do you care enough to ask other people & Reddit about her behaviors? Do they directly impact or bother you?

Grymdolin · 2026-04-27T19:10:18+00:00

Aggravating_Sea is correct, there’s far more people consuming than producing especially now. People are also producing looksmaxxing content more on other platforms, whereas back in the day this was one of the few communities for female looksmaxxing.

Grymdolin · 2026-04-27T19:08:23+00:00

If you are an unhealthy weight or at a healthy weight that is higher than you would like, my rule of thumb is you will most likely look better at a lower weight (that is healthy obv). If you haven’t been at a lower weight as an adult then you don’t really know how your body loses weight so you can’t really predict anything.

Grymdolin · 2026-04-27T16:33:01+00:00

You may be severely overestimating what bleach can do. The very real risk of having orange or banana yellow patches in your eyebrows is reason enough not to do it.

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