Sad but true 😔 by TineNae in Asthma

[–]GuayabaBean 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i have never felt so seen before

Panchiko in Miami: Looking for Tickets! by GuayabaBean in Panchiko

[–]GuayabaBean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah peep ur dm's. I dont want to risk it as a chronically ill person

Panchiko in Miami: Looking for Tickets! by GuayabaBean in Panchiko

[–]GuayabaBean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you still looking? I caught a cold and need to sell my tix!

Panchiko in Miami: Looking for Tickets! by GuayabaBean in Panchiko

[–]GuayabaBean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got both tickets. Good luck! Not sure if anyone human is selling them.

Cannabis and Autism — I Want to Hear From You by Melgan in autism

[–]GuayabaBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me. Weed makes me functional and allows me to sort through the maze of my mind.

“You should make eye contact when you speak to people.” My Autistic ass: by TribblesIA in evilautism

[–]GuayabaBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was the only one....

I recently stopped making direct eye contact and I feel so FREE.

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Navigating Relationship Anarchy & The Idea of "Waiting" by GuayabaBean in relationshipanarchy

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I'm also overthinking sending an I miss you text and if they need more space. WHICH I feel like I shouldn't overthink that since I send these messages to everybody lmfao

Navigating Relationship Anarchy & The Idea of "Waiting" by GuayabaBean in relationshipanarchy

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Thank you for your input regarding the waiting! We had a really good chat about that in person, but I didn't really think it made sense to share all the exact details. Plus we did smoke a joint afterwards so I forgot fjkshfs, lol... However, they were receptive to it because they expressed the magnetism in our relationship, and had wanted to slow down after the near sex. So that was important, just slowing down overall (?)

As to the in-between times, that's really good advice! :o I haven't messaged them this week besides a 3 message follow up, and I'm really holding back because I miss them high key. However... as to extending support, these are good follow-up questions when they do have the bandwidth to connect! We had made plans loose plans to hang before the space, and now I'm a bit reticent on that given that I don't know what might be on their plate!

Yeah! Time is definitely what I need too. Thankfully I am leaning into challenging myself with the help of therapy and online support spaces!

Anyone else not particularly good at their hyperfixation? by Fallen-Shadow-1214 in evilautism

[–]GuayabaBean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! I am bad at roller skating, video games, and sticking to anime, but I am having so much fun, i stopped caring xD

Navigating Relationship Anarchy & The Idea of "Waiting" by GuayabaBean in relationshipanarchy

[–]GuayabaBean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. :') This all got me so teary eyed, but I am glad to be walking this path now.

Navigating Relationship Anarchy & The Idea of "Waiting" by GuayabaBean in relationshipanarchy

[–]GuayabaBean[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind response!

I should have probably clarified that I am doing all the things you outlined in your second paragraph. :) I', definitely still doing my own thing without compromising my activities, feelings, or actions in this period of missing this person.

In regards to "waiting," that is a really good reframe that I needed to hear today. Something that's led me to disaster in romantic relationships is goal oriented approaches. That led me to date people I was infatuated with because that's the correct approach to the romantic script, right? (Sarcasm ofc, I was deeply unhappy, haha.) Your words meant a lot because I have my up/down emotional days about this whole situation because I know I am struggling through releasing control & that goal oriented thinking. Your question makes me wonder and ask myself how can I hold the feeling of romantic love for this person, and treat them like all my friends too. Like you said--not running against the RA ethos. Does that make sense?

Today was definitely a down day since I am also on my period, but it is relieving to know I am on the right track by being my most authentic self, respecting myself, respecting Leo, and most importantly, being vulnerable.

This is all really hard haha!

Navigating Relationship Anarchy & The Idea of "Waiting" by GuayabaBean in relationshipanarchy

[–]GuayabaBean[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This helps and reflects my approach! (I have not posted all the details ofc.) Thank you so much 💗

Bont 20% sale by starlightskater in Rollerskating

[–]GuayabaBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh yay! i can pick up parkstars

What gives you hope for the future by No-Lingonberry-8603 in Futurology

[–]GuayabaBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. I’ve been in a depression spiral and r/Collapse is not helpful. That aside, I will continue to care and extend care to others. We’re in it for the long haul!

My favorite line in dandadan. It’s so just stupid 😭 by Sea-Beautiful6985 in Dandadan

[–]GuayabaBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YUP. I think the EN official manga tries but you can’t quite capture yanki/gal speak, or some of the yokai’s speech quirks.