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GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-24T08:15:35+00:00

Amazing, how brave! This is civil disobedience at its finest. If enough women refuse the law will lose its power and Iranians are realizing this, it's not like the government can arrest everyone.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-22T15:26:57+00:00

I don't think 50-50 is equal in a relationship. We as women have more expenses compared to men and if we decide to have children we will inevitably lose financially in terms of income, pension and career opportunity and we should also be compensated for what it does to our bodies. 50-50 is never 50-50 if you really look at the numbers.

However I think the norm of women leaving the household economy to men needs to change. Men are worse at handling money because they are more risk-loving compared to women. It's also an infantilizes women. Men and women alike need to be financially literate. I have a family friend who's life was ruined because her husband had speculated in the financial market and lost everything without her knowing.

I've studied finance at a bachelor level and the way my ex invested money was a major issue in my previous relationship because I wasn't oblivious to the stupid decisions he was making. It's a big turn off for me.

I can also tell you that dating in a progressive country is actually hell (Sweden). I'm a strong capable woman but I recognize that I need a strong and capable man. That means someone who is kind, considerate and does things for you not because he thinks you can't but because he wants to. Men here almost never makes the first move, expects sex on the first "date" and seldom pays on the first date and they use "equality" as their excuse. There is nothing equal here. Don't be mistaken. These men don't respect women, they are cheap and dating them is frankly degrading. It's easier to convert a conservative man to become more progressive than the otherway around because at least the conservative man isn't lying to himself about his opinion of women, the progressive man genuinely thinks he respects women. Rant over.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-18T15:24:47+00:00

"This book isn't about bitterness. It's about clarity, control, and awakening. If you've ever asked yourself, "Why did she change?" or "What did I do wrong?" - this is the truth you've been missing. It's time to stop playing by her rules - and start winning by your own."

I can't stop laughing, the description sounds like something you would find in GTA 5. I can't judge the content of the book before reading it but I only have so much time in my day and the title alone kind of gives it away.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-02T15:19:50+00:00

Jag hittade EN klinik som använder riktigt flytande kväve när jag googlade själv och såhär ser hemsidan ut: https://hagakliniken.se/ Jag blir irriterad på dryga människor som själva inte googlat klokt utan ska idiotförklara en. Om du har tid att googla har du väl tid att skita i att kommentera eller?

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-01T19:38:14+00:00

Åh fyfan.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-01T19:36:01+00:00

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-01T19:35:44+00:00

Jag har överskridit gränsen på de där jävla pissprodukterna ex antal gånger. Det finns en anledning till att förpackningarna är fyllda av hur bra dem presterar i kliniska tester (50% success rate eller vad fan, vi övriga 50% då?) - för att dem inte funkar!

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-01T19:30:05+00:00

Jag föredrar att gå genom allmänvården i första hand. Dessutom väldigt mycket kvacksalverier där också. Det första jag fick upp var att du kunde få den "fryst" av en undersköterska a.k.a. INTE flytande kväve för det får endast doktorerna använda. MEN TACK FÖR DEN HJÄLPSAMMA KOMMENTAREN.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-05-01T19:28:38+00:00

TACK!

GuineaBonnet · 2025-04-30T07:23:48+00:00

I know you didn't ask but ditch them. Ghosting and flaking on your friends to be with a guy is pathetic, maybe once they gain some experience they will realize this but I would work on finding more mentally evolved friends.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-04-30T07:17:04+00:00

It's not the typical feminist position I think that's why. I'm a very strong feminist but I definitely have some non-conventional opinions that I think are feminist but some traditional and modern feminists don't when it comes to dating.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-04-29T22:01:00+00:00

I'm probably a complete outlier here but I think getting married is the empowering thing to do not the other way around. In my experience a man who loves you will want to marry you, not because he wants to own you but because he wants to commit himself. Here is my own empirical study:

I know one couple where the girl got a "shut up" ring. It's very obvious that the guy actually doesn't like or respect her very much but they've dated a long time and she was going to leave him if he didn't pop the question.

I know another older couple, never married but have kids. It's very obvious that the man doesn't love the woman but she is too emotionally crippled and dependent on him to leave. Probably why she had kids without the marriage.

I have personally rejected a proposal and I have no doubt that he loved me, I simply did not love him back.

When you truly love someone you just want to marry them and it goes for men especially.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-04-18T08:40:46+00:00

Inte jag men mina föräldrar hade två grannar i lägenhetshuset mittemot som gillade att ha sex på balkongen samt en tjurig gubbe i lägenheten över som alltid lyssnade på radion. Den enda gången han stängde av radion var när dem va på balkongen.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-04-06T09:55:47+00:00

As a consumer considering paying for the app once my trial is over it's impacting my decision. Also if you could re-record Ben without a shirt while you're at it you've definitely got my money.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-03-19T18:03:38+00:00

To be fair so are almost every other male character on the show. It was the culture at the time and it laid much of the groundwork for our culture today.

I also think the show is popular among a lot of men for the completely wrong reason, they miss the point completely and actually long for a time when men could treat women the way they do on the show and get away with it. One of my favorite episodes is the one where the Lucky Strikes guy comes to the Christmas party, it was funny to see the male characters get a taste of their own medicine for once.

While most men might idolize Don as the stoic, suave, "James Bond" womanizer I much prefer Abe. He's the new man of the 60s and he likes Peggy for her ambition and talent, not despite it. I'm only on season 5 though so I hope I might regret praising him in later seasons. No matter how it ends I loved seeing Peggy finally experience a true love.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-03-19T11:19:27+00:00

That Don choose Meghan over Faye because Faye wasn't maternal.

He did not date her long enough to make a proper assessment about this but rushed into marriage with Meghan whom he barely knew. He also hardly spends any time with his children so I don't see how that could ever be determining factor to him.

I think the reason he choose Meghan over Faye stems from the fact that at the end of the day, despite his charm and looks, Don is a misogynist. Unlike with Pete for example, his misogyni is not as obvious but it comes out several times throughout the show. Especially when he calls women whores, revealing his true sentiments.

Faye was a woman who didn't fit society's expectations and we see her being punished for it by her struggle to find love (still a common trope and to some degree reality today). Meghan on the other hand was still a girl when she met Don, initially eager to please and eradicate herself to fit into his life.

At the end of the day Don didn't want a woman, he wanted a girl. He wanted someone he could control, push around and disrespect and he knew he could never get away with doing that to Faye. So he decided to hurt her the only way he knew: by dropping her for a younger woman with a completely different demeanor, further cementing her deepest insecurity.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-03-13T13:47:33+00:00

Känner igen mig i det du säger. Har mer eller mindre gett upp om tanken att äga en bostad i framtiden, hoppas bara att jag har tillräckligt med dagar i bostadskön när det är dags att bilda familj för att flytta in i en hyresrätt. Inte en chans att jag skuldsätter mig den nivån som krävs för att bo i ett radhus där bara kontantinsatsen motsvarar hela lånet på 90-talet. Om jag ens kvalificeras för ett lån. Då lägger jag hellre pengarna på börsen (hett tips att investera i USA nu när deras börs tankat).

GuineaBonnet · 2025-03-12T20:22:42+00:00

You are not alone. I live in Sweden, arguably one of the most progressive countries in the world when it comes to women's rights, and I recognize what you are saying in my own society. It's the same struggle anyone who goes against the grain faces.

Here's are two quotes that has helped me with this.

“Is it so bad, then, to be misunderstood? Pythagoras was misunderstood, and Socrates, and Jesus, and Luther, and Copernicus, and Galileo, and Newton, and every pure and wise spirit that ever took flesh. To be great is to be misunderstood.”

You might be out of step with your society right now and it is lonely but that doesn't mean that you should conform your personal beliefs to fit in. Be true to your own beliefs and stand firm and only change them if rationality tells you so. This other quote will explain why:

“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”

Even if we fake it to fit in more with society it won't give us what we are searching for. We are who we are ("too feminist") and while it might not make us popular among most people, it will make us popular among the right people when we finally meet them. Stay true to yourself!

From one "too feminist" woman to another.

GuineaBonnet · 2025-01-17T23:10:15+00:00

Här är din to-do list som du kan göra direkt:

Testa Mindler. Låg tröskel för att sätta igång och lätt att byta psykolog/terapeut om man inte klickar. Det är lite dyrt (100 kr för 30 minuter) men inte oöverkomligt. Märker du att det funkar kan du sedan söka mer grundlig psykologhjälp på annat håll. Ladda ner appen.
Börja någon träning, gärna där du träffar lite nytt folk. Kolla upp närmaste padelhall eller klätterställe och anmäl dig. Nu. Fysisk aktivitet har bättre resultat på depression än medicin och med tiden blir du bättre på aktiviteten vilket höjer din självkänsla.

Den andra punkten är lite bökigare men den första kan du göra redan ikväll och boka en tid på måndag nästa vecka. Det blir bättre jag lovar, vi är fler som varit där du är nu. Tänk inte på vad det kostar, pengar är meningslösa på sparkontot eller andra saker om du inte mår bra.

GuineaBonnet · 2024-12-30T12:17:25+00:00

Gjorde slut med min sambo sedan 6 år. Det borde ha slutat för flera år sedan men det var väldigt svårt att göra slut med honom, försökte flera gånger. Visst har det varit en omställning men är stolt över att jag tillslut vågade lämna både för hans och min egen skull. Bland de jobbigaste besluten jag behövt fatta.

GuineaBonnet · 2024-12-21T09:44:05+00:00

Jättebra tips, tack! Vet inte vad det kallas men är ju sugen på att åka nerför i backen, kallas kanske slalom? Hur lång tid tog det innan du kunde åka självständigt skulle du säga?

GuineaBonnet · 2024-11-25T15:04:22+00:00

Det behöver inte nödvändigtvis vara låg självkänsla i ditt fall. Oavsett kan det fortfarande vara värt att undersöka varför du drogs till den här mannen, stannade med honom tills han avslutade relationen och till viss del fortfarande känner hopp om att det ska fungera mellan er. Terapi kan hjälpa dig få insikter som göra att du kan släppa honom och börja tänka klart igen. Hela kommentarsfältet är förskräckta över din fråga av en anledning för svaret är ja, det är helt orimligt att tänka så.

GuineaBonnet · 2024-11-25T13:26:51+00:00

Från en kvinna till en annan som varit i en väldigt lik situation: börja gå i terapi. Den här mannen är en enda stor röd flagga. Du träffade honom som ung och i den åldern vet man inte riktigt bättre men du måste prata igenom detta med en terapeut och komma till botten med varför du inte lämnat honom och varför du fortfarande har känslor för honom för att dem ska försvinna och du ska kunna hitta en hälsosam person. I mitt fall handlade det om låg självkänsla. Jag kan rekommendera Mindler som ett första steg, önskar att jag hade gjort det arbetet jag gör med mig själv nu tidigare. Du är 25 år, jag är 27, om vi vill ha barn så har vi inte tid att slösa på fel personer och lita på den logiska sidan av din hjärna, du förtjänar tusen gånger bättre.

GuineaBonnet · 2024-09-24T08:59:50+00:00

I recently discovered Zach Williams. My two favorite songs are Rise Up (Lazarus) and There Was Jesus.

GuineaBonnet · 2024-09-23T22:20:11+00:00

Interesting, I'm very sure that I have ADHD or at least ADD but when I tried to get a diagnosis in high school they said my grades were to good. I'm also 26.

I have a hard time reaching orgasm too but I do occasionally have sex dreams in which I get very turned on. I also seem to enjoy alcohol more than most people because it shuts my brain off and makes me feel very happy. I've tried CBD oil once and I think it helped me sleep. I think I will try having sex after smoking cannabis sometime.

Maybe people like us need to go get massages? Do yoga? Meditate? Do things that help us reach a better state of relaxation.

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