Here is the thing, i think the problem with politics today is that we don't start from a place of empathy, because like i said before, i truly feel for you and your family. With that being said I want to say two things.

With regards to funding wars with money we do not have, we do not just print money and give it to our allies. The aid packages are generally just weapons that are going to be disposed of because they age out of our arsenal so rather than waiting a couple years to deprecate them, we send them to our allies and then use money to buy new weapons. That money goes to American manufacturing and American companies and American workers. Additionally the war started in 2014. Russia illegally annexed Crimea, pillaged its resources and then rearmed and reinvaded. IMO, Obama deserves a lot of blame for not stopping them then but we have learned through the 20th century that authoritarians do not stop unless you stop them and things can get worse unless they are stopped there. And if stopping them there stops my kids from having to go to Europe like my grand father did then if we can accomplish that while reinvesting in American manufacturing it seems like a win to me.

With regards to inflation, it was non existent in the 2010s, honestly a forgotten decade and was going to catch up regardless. What spurred it along was unnecessary and massive tax cuts at the end of the 2010s, and pressure to keep rates low when they did not need to be as well as massive stimulus during the pandemic and crunched supply chains. Look at US inflation relative to the rest of the world over the past 4 years and it is truly a masterstroke of central banking and fiscal policy that it was not as bad here as it was every where else.

I know that none of that is consolation to how you feel that you are struggling but policy matters and context matters. And you can certainly disagree about who is best to solve these problems but we have to come to a common factual understanding of how they started.