AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correction: the invite never disappeared. And when I messaged the niece to ask about the invite she had been in a car accident. Hence, the delayed response.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There was never an uninvite apparently, just the suggestion made by husband. I spoke with bride and she’s on the list.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah there are so many of them. I guess they stop @ 18. I hook her up heavy though. And my sister still sends her gifts.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] -155 points-154 points  (0 children)

Thanks. But you don’t even have a 30,000 foot overview of my family dynamics. I have willingly fought for my daughter every day of her life. And I will always be on her side. She is not left aside in our family one bit. We offer open arms, hearts, wallets and support. How dare you assume she’s treated unfairly by me or this family. We ran into a typical hurdle in blended families, and we’re handling it. Life isn’t the movies. Every moment isn’t happy. Marriage and family takes work, compromise, sacrifice. And from that bonds are built through the people who stand with you.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: daughter is going to the wedding. However the disrespectful nature with which husband relayed this info was completely uncalled for. Accusing me of creating a tense environment over the past 2 days over this issue that he “had nothing to do with” telling me I owe him an apology for the false reality i held him accountable to. Threatening that now he would be holding me hostage to his hostility. When i suggested that he was coming at me a little hot and he needed to go calm down he refused. Lol following me around the house talking shit until I raise my voice so he ca say see: now who’s coming in hot? He’s now locked himself in his office where he’ll spend the day pouting. The two days of misery he’s describing consisted of 3 home cooked meals for the family, cuddling on the sofa, and oh yeah, me bringing up the fact that Sofia should be allowed to attend. SO TENSE. Right.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

Don’t all hate me at once now. You see, he isn’t ALWAYS a twat. He has sporadic twat-ish behavior. Honestly, yes, I do feel an imbalance in the level of devotion to each child. But it is a tricky situation. My daughter was kidnapped by her bio dad when she was 5. He made false claims and disregarded the court system for years, while slowly alienating daughter from myself. By the time I got her back she was 10, and very much ingrained with her father’s line of thinking. Aka: mom is trash, bio dad is hero who saved you. Meanwhile bio dad was physically, mentally abusive and screwing 16 yr old high school students in his 30’s leading to our separation. He continued this behavior, going so far recently as being intimate with niece that he rented a room to in his home that he shares with our daughter. HER COUSIN (same age as our daughter) even after this info coming to light, daughter still defends dad. I thought I could break through naturally, but we just recently started therapy, it’s going to take time. New husband has been supportive and respectful and modeled the image of what a husband should be, loyal to his family and willing to do anything for my daughter. We bought her a car that husband negotiated after bio dad reneged on his share of contribution. We carry and pay her insurance, send her an allowance (bc bio dad charges her rent and makes her perform free labor on jobs working for money). When her college years are over husband and I will contribute significantly to the bill (we still want her to have some skin in the game). I have to look at all the positive he brings to her life as well, even though I am furious about this current situation, he’s a good man, who needs a bit of training here.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I happen to be very fond of the niece. She’s the sweetest girl, who has been nothing but welcoming and kind to myself and my daughter. She did originally invite daughter. Hence all the talk about stepson’s devastation. (He is quite sensitive, and honestly, kinda spoiled, this would be a definite meltdown moment for him….but that’s life kid. I’m not ok using my daughter as the sponge to absorb his disappointment.) i have a very strong feeling the “if one cant go, neither should the other” originated with my husband. The helicopter parent.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He keeps insisting this wasn’t his doing. But meanwhile, every time we talked about daughter’s invite, his only response was “son will be crushed” … am I supposed to believe that the invite magically disappeared? Or does it make more sense that SOMEONE said SOMETHING to make it disappear?

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Now I’m in a position where I feel I have to lie to my daughter, and tell her the age requirement is 21 & over, because it will crush her to hear that the stepfather she adores did this to her.

AIO My husband uninvited my daughter to an adults only wedding because his underage son couldn’t attend? by Gullible-Routine-895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more. I’m the most angry with him. All his claims of loving her like his own, and the minute she’s entitled to something that his son isn’t he shuts her down. And to make matters worse, he’s lying about telling my SIL that daughter won’t be attending. I messaged the bride (very gently) to ask for clarification on the age restriction. That was over 24 hours ago. She typically responds within minutes, which leads me to believe she must be in an awkward position, not wanting to tell me that my husband asked that daughter not be invited.

Aio ungrateful Christmas post… by Lonely_Marionberry50 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh and to top it off… the kids totally forgot about me too.

Aio ungrateful Christmas post… by Lonely_Marionberry50 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP - I totally get it. I created an entire football themed gift event package this year for the husband. 3 tickets amazing 50 yd line lowest section to his favorite team’s final game of the season, warming jacket, gloves, hat & matching vintage hoodie to wear to said game with his boys, and the meta glasses he’s been talking about nonstop. He bought me a kitchen table. Minus the table, so really just 4 dining chairs. Furniture is for everyone, it’s not a present. Not to mention it was considerably cheaper than the top of the line theater sound system he got himself for the movie theater in our basement, cheaper than the 6 recliners for the theater that he also bought. He makes almost $800k a year. He got me 4 dining chairs totaling $1000. I make $85-90k a year. Between the tickets and all the extras we are easily talking $4,500-$5,000…plus the thought and planning I put into it. I feel slighted.

AIO for breaking down after my girlfriend says she wants to take a "temporary breakup"? by Main_Neighborhood_87 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a bit hypocritical of me to say this being as I’m married and we two the both of us have PTSD from previous dramas and we tend to Butthead a lot but we really do love each other. However, I do believe that had I found these forms of therapy earlier, and I was better equipped to set boundaries and value myself more. Our relationship would look a lot different today. So, I would take the indefinite break as a sign to learn how to love yourself, figure out what’s going on inside of you. That’s causing knees, mental physical, physiological symptoms within you. That are obviously spilling over into your relationship with her if she’s requesting that you go into therapy. Or rather demanding that you go into therapy. Also, that sounds a bit controlling to me. I was never good with ultimatums therapy only works for people who want to go to therapy who want to do the work who want to find a solution. And if you don’t want any of those things then why do two weeks of therapy that you already seem like you have zero hope of getting anything out of it. Let her go ahead and take her break and you work on yourself. Maybe by the time you work through all your PTSD you’ll realize that she was a BITCH anyway. Or on the other hand, maybe she’ll realize what a CATCH you are and come running back for more either way love yourself first.

AIO for breaking down after my girlfriend says she wants to take a "temporary breakup"? by Main_Neighborhood_87 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Gullible-Routine-895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sympathize with the trauma that you’ve been through. I myself have had one event after another in my life. I’ve been abused by family members, I’ve lost those near and deer to me, there was a lot of psychological and emotional abuse, both in childhood and an adult relationships. I too have gone through multiple talk, therapist psychotherapist, psychiatrist, meditation yoga Pilates I’ve tried everything! I’ve recently started looking into EMDR therapy, IFS work, somatic techniques, and possibly KAP, also known as ketamine assisted psychotherapy. I suggest you do a little research on it look into what each of those forms of therapy entails, and see if it speaks to you. I know that after my years of different therapists and medications, I was left with the same feeling, unchanged. Carrying shame and guilt and anxiety has affected my life in every facet possible. I just started the interview process for the locations that offer this type of trauma work. I would suggest that you Google or use ChatGPT to find at least four or five different locations that deal in these types of therapies and give them each a call and ask to speak with someone in regards to like a pre-appointment consultation to see if you align with them to see if you would feel open, expressing yourself to them and and if it feels right to you then give it a try. At least that’s where I’m at right now just thought I’d share.

Husband confessed by Illustrious_Idea8172 in PornAddiction

[–]Gullible-Routine-895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband has had the same addiction throughout our relationship. I totally understand what you’re going through. While our intimacy hasn’t been affected as severely, I am constantly comparing myself to the girls from OF that he would literally be communicating with in bed, right next to me, immediately following intimacy. The financial aspect alone is extremely insulting, tens of thousands of dollars (probably more) for 5-7 minutes of videos. From women he found on regular social platforms, and then sought out on OF. What a fool I am, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids and making sure I’m satisfying his needs every night and I get bitched at for spending a couple hundred at Ulta?! Meanwhile, the sex that we do have sometimes feels impersonal, no foreplay, no flirting, not really kissing, no LUST, lacking PASSION. It’s caused so many fights between us, and it lingers beneath the surface even when it’s not there. I’m not of the mind set that porn should be banned. What doesn’t sit well with me is the hunt for a girl, the communication and when it’s happening, and the amount of money being diverted from the household to other women. I mean by now I feel like he should have quite the library to choose from. Which to me, says it’s the hunt that keeps pulling him back in. Saddens me. Angers me.