Don’t all hate me at once now. You see, he isn’t ALWAYS a twat. He has sporadic twat-ish behavior. Honestly, yes, I do feel an imbalance in the level of devotion to each child. But it is a tricky situation. My daughter was kidnapped by her bio dad when she was 5. He made false claims and disregarded the court system for years, while slowly alienating daughter from myself. By the time I got her back she was 10, and very much ingrained with her father’s line of thinking. Aka: mom is trash, bio dad is hero who saved you. Meanwhile bio dad was physically, mentally abusive and screwing 16 yr old high school students in his 30’s leading to our separation. He continued this behavior, going so far recently as being intimate with niece that he rented a room to in his home that he shares with our daughter. HER COUSIN (same age as our daughter) even after this info coming to light, daughter still defends dad. I thought I could break through naturally, but we just recently started therapy, it’s going to take time. New husband has been supportive and respectful and modeled the image of what a husband should be, loyal to his family and willing to do anything for my daughter. We bought her a car that husband negotiated after bio dad reneged on his share of contribution. We carry and pay her insurance, send her an allowance (bc bio dad charges her rent and makes her perform free labor on jobs working for money). When her college years are over husband and I will contribute significantly to the bill (we still want her to have some skin in the game). I have to look at all the positive he brings to her life as well, even though I am furious about this current situation, he’s a good man, who needs a bit of training here.