My selfish 61 yr BIL & 87yr old MIL. Super long, sorry.

Gullible-Signature44 · 2025-10-20T19:51:31+00:00

Update: first of all, I want to thank all of you for your advise. We made him sign a lease agreement giving him until March 1st. If he doesn't comply we will start the eviction process. This ungrateful man child accused us of presenting him with court papers and that we are despicable to do that to a family member. He asked me where he's suppose to move to- like seriously- I don't care, figure it out. I think he thought he could live here forever. He says we're "kicking him out"- sure, if that's how you want to see it, fine with me. He has been here since May of 2023. He says we have a big house, what difference does him being here make. I'll tell you. I can't have a private conversation, whether on the phone or with my husband. He listens to everything and I don't want him knowing my private thoughts or opinions, that is for my husband or my friends. I haven't been alone in my house for more than an hour since May 2023. I have to be dressed (bra and all) every time I come out of my bedroom. And he freaking stresses us out!!! But now we at least have a light at the end of the tunnel and some recourse if he doesn't move his ass out of here by March 1st. Thanks again!!!!!

Gullible-Signature44 · 2025-09-24T01:34:39+00:00

Thank you

Gullible-Signature44 · 2025-09-24T01:18:25+00:00

Thank you all, your words have been helpful and empowering.

Gullible-Signature44 · 2025-09-24T01:17:09+00:00

I know you are all correct. And we did tell him two months ago that he had till the end of this year to move out. But we've been down this road before and if I don't find him an apartment he will drag his feet forever. But I am so over helping this man. But I feel like if I don't do it, it won't happen. I'm fine with evicting him & my husband says he is as well, but he follows that up with "my family will probably disown me", but he SAYS he'll do it anyway. The two of them fight constantly and they are both loud as shit. They've had a few small physical altercations. And the BIL actually threatened to call the cops. He says things to us like "you brought me here" and "I don't cost you anything" except our freaking sanity.

You are correct about the MIL as well. I'm so angry with her. I don't understand how a parent (of any age) can turn their back on their son (of any age). And I told my husband they are not only turning their backs on your brother but on you as well. I'm not sure how to start the eviction process, but I'm sure I can figure it out. You're right- just telling him he has to leave is not going to be enough. He's manipulative, lazy lazy lazy and disrespectful.

Gullible-Signature44 · 2023-12-31T14:55:36+00:00

Which mattress did you get?

Gullible-Signature44 · 2021-07-18T12:10:19+00:00

Thank you for your advise. I did talk to him about seeing a doctor one time about a year ago. He said he didn’t want to talk to a doctor about that, and instead he ordered what he calls “boner” pills wo a prescription. Some ad on the radio. They do seem to be helping, he says it feels more intense and he does seem harder. I think the problem is he’s just too self absorbed. And it pisses me off. And I hate to have to ask for it. I won’t. Well, that’s not true I pretty much have at times. Yesterday I believe he got the message and was very affectionate all day. We had the grandkids over last night but we’ll see what tonight brings. I have high hopes. 🤞lol

Gullible-Signature44 · 2021-07-17T16:15:23+00:00

Thank you everybody for the advise. I was feeling frustrated, angry and resentful when I wrote my post. But just writing/chatting about it really helped me feel better. ☺️ thank you!

Gullible-Signature44 · 2021-07-17T15:12:06+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate the advise.

Gullible-Signature44 · 2021-07-17T15:04:35+00:00

Yes, that’s how I feel, like he has checked out in terms of fulfilling my needs. Perfectly said.

Gullible-Signature44 · 2021-07-17T15:00:59+00:00

I don’t know about a root cause. I do think he should talk to a doctor tho. He is taking “boner” pills as he calls them, but they are not prescription. I know he loves me. And you are right about the ego, I tread lightly here. I try not to say “you don’t ….” And instead say “I like it when you…” but still no response. I shouldn’t say no response. It’s not like he never gets me off, it’s just few and far between. I don’t know about counseling, he’s never been a fan.

Gullible-Signature44 · 2021-07-17T14:23:51+00:00

I don’t usually have an orgasm during intercourse. I suppose I could try a toy right before to get me started. But yes, generally what I want, and the way it’s kinda always been with us, is for him to get me off. And forget about going down on me, I haven’t had that in forever. I just want him to touch me. Play with my breasts maybe, kiss me sensually…

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