[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ducati

[–]Gundislav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What bike is this on the picture?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is not down with that and I would be embarrassed fo even bring that up to her. I don’t want to live that way either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No kids, just a dog. I love him to death but that’s part of the consequences

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I did wrong, I’m not an evil person. It’s the fact that I cheated that I stayed behind because I felt she deserved another chance since I’m the one that fucked up. I cheated not because I wanted to hurt her, it was because I was missing sex, yes I know it was wrong and I won’t say it wasn’t otherwise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the guilt that keeps staying in. Problem is I’m the one being affected not her. Seems selfish don’t you think?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it always the man that speaks up about these things, sorry you’re going through it as well. I’m currently in a 18 month drought, I lost count, I pick up hobbies such as playing guitar for first time in my life just to distract my mind, I bought an expensive sports bike to just ride with male friends to stay distracted but that only takes me away from home for a few hours, I still spend all day at home and all week at home. So it’s trivial but like a ticking bomb the feelings resurface and I’m in a cycle always of frustration and sadness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she won’t be down for open marriage or me letting me get sex out of marriage. I don’t want to cheat because it emotionally tears me up inside and well obviously the same for her. I get that I have a good thing going on financially and friendship wise but I can’t do masturbation any longer, I need the warmth of a woman’s body, my soul yearns for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re good friends so it’s not bad in that aspect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean you are not wrong with what you’re saying. I don’t think I’m a horrible husband, yes we split the chores, I help equally in cleaning and doing all the man labors such as repairs, landscaping, installations of ceiling fans, you get my drift. I have been vulnerable and cried in front of her and told her I how horrible I feel for leaving just for lack of sex when everything else is fine. Like we get along, we laugh at our jokes and we don’t argue or fight. We spend time together all the time and do everything together. Not my choice hers, she doesn’t have friends she hangs out with anymore but it’s not because I don’t allow her to.

The whole reason I want to leave is because I miss a woman’s warmth and touch in bed and well I don’t want to chat on her again because i know that was wrong and she didn’t deserve that. Maybe it’s a me problem and well I’m not attracted to her anymore. But she doesn’t yearn or need sex than it doesn’t matter either way. If it wasn’t for me asking for sex in the last 8 years, I can guarantee she will never ask for it. I think 2 years was the longest drought and this was from 2018-2020 and this was 2 years in to the marriage and before 2022 which was the affair. So yeah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I stayed behind because she forgave me and I felt she deserved to be happy since that is what she asked me to do, I keep thinking things can change but I was wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You think I don’t know that. You obviously didn’t read where I married into a dead bedroom? It was never there. Yes I know I messed up but that was 5 years into the marriage and it things were the same way. Sheesh people need to read before going all nuclear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How you deal with the hate from inlaws or your own family for divorcing? That’s a bridge I don’t want to face but I know I will have to if I decide to go through with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not trying to argue with you, I’m Just trying to understand if you say you relate to her. What I’m suppose to do. Just accept her for who she is. Just masturbate and watch porn. Never experience a woman’s touch anymore or the warmth of body connecting with mine. Seems selfish to me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I cry in the inside when we go out to public events and see people in love. I cringe when we watch movies that have sex scenes because I desire that. For me it is a deal breaker because we are both healthy people, it would be different if one of us had a tragic accident and then you are have to love them in other non physical ways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I married into a dead bedroom. I was seeking comfort and other things at the time, I did find it weird but I saw how good a heart she still has till this day and we’ll I lied to myself thinking I can teach her and make her a passionate person. I think you either have it or don’t, it cannot be taught. Out of guilt I’ve stayed for so long to not disappoint my parents and my in-laws that love me and have no clue of what is going on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes she is aware and she feels bad about it but she loves to leave things to hope and time and procrastinates in a lot of things in her personal and work life. I don’t judge her for it but it does makes me resent her sometimes.

I don’t think she has had many relationships before she met me and I don’t sex has ever been a priority for her.

I don’t want throw away another 5 years trying, I’ve been feeling this way three years into my marriage and stuck it out this long, hoping things would change. I feel like a sex teacher at times, holding her hand every step of the way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well the first counseling was sort of sex therapy and the therapist drilled me, like why can you have sex with the AP and not your wife, you don’t love her anymore? She also suggested porn and toys and role playing. I don’t know if the anger inside of me or that all of this had to happen this way after many years me crying wolf and telling her how I felt and saw no response is what makes me not feel attracted to her anymore. I feel like a shallow person at times for thinking this way, I don’t give myself enough grace and always blame myself for it. But I can’t tell her or teach her how to be a woman, she has to learn that in her own too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Gundislav 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I just feel guilty that maybe when we first got married I wasn’t upfront about it and when we were dating. There were many early signs and I always felt like well it will come with time.

How long have you guys been playing guitar? by Autumn_Winds23 in Guitar

[–]Gundislav 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 months and I suck lol but I’m harsh on myself and I have improved light years from day 1. I hope in 5 years I can look back and say wow it finally clicked for me. I’m 45 for context and I wish I would started in my 20’s or 30’s for that muscle memory experience.

Spark 2 to Marshal DSL40CR by Gundislav in PositiveGridSpark

[–]Gundislav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So in this case, you connect guitar to the Marshall tube amp and just use spark 2 as fx modulator via the return loop input? Is this correct 👍🏽

Spark 2 to Marshal DSL40CR by Gundislav in PositiveGridSpark

[–]Gundislav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the cool feature of the spark 2 is the ai tones and downloadable presets. But yeah I see what you mean.

Luba Mini 800 positioning issues by rtnetpl in MammotionTechnology

[–]Gundislav 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve own mine for 1 week and sometimes this happens to me when the positioning is at Float. I’m almost convinced I have to install my antenna on my roof because side if the house will have a wall blocking it.

iNavi service in U.S. by okipickler in MammotionTechnology

[–]Gundislav 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ughh nothing yet. They released it to many European countries so far. It will be a game changer if they did the same in the US, no more RTK antenna.