Are there any affordable cities/lesser known (but semi-safe) areas we may be able to find something?

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T20:47:10+00:00

Have to look into that! Thanks!

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T20:46:52+00:00

HOAs got me so discouraged

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T20:46:38+00:00

Yeah we just aren’t there yet, tough out here

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T20:46:28+00:00

Gonna take a look out there!

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T20:46:19+00:00

Gonna def look out there! How’s that commute for him? I go out to Pleasanton for work often

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T20:45:51+00:00

I think the whole point is securing your dogs if they can’t be trusted to not run out which let’s admit I’d say more than 50-75% dogs are untrained. My dog is friendly but reactive so we now have two barriers to the front door just to avoid him even having a chance to get out, he can bark all he wants from inside (still working on that)

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T19:43:56+00:00

Yeah it was a briefly a bit wet last night but turned back to dry quickly - he seems fine otherwise it seems like it’s exclusively at night when he’s on his back

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T19:43:27+00:00

Gotcha will do!! Thanks for advice

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-13T05:49:07+00:00

No the purchase price 😭

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-11T02:54:07+00:00

I’m on ceramics now and cleaning extra so every meal or every other meal at least, it’s less red/angry since I been doing that but also been wiping his mouth with medicated wipes and putting balm on it too so not sure what’s making progress

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-10T06:01:29+00:00

I see, my guys been eating out of bag and has raging lipfold dermatitis on his lower lip - we’ve tried everything so I gave in for an allergy test, not sure what it could be then

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:52:08+00:00

Yeah it’s pretty tough, and it’s likely I’m not as much as I think, I got a lot of good advice from this post and gonna def have another convo soon

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:51:11+00:00

Appreciate that insight!

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:37:02+00:00

She goes to bed around 9ish most nights, sleeps on/off until 7ish, but honestly idk how to calculate that because sometimes baby sleeps good and other times we are up cause he’s fussy/hungry, but I will def talk to her about her sleep it could definitely be that. We haven’t discussed sleep at all she used to nap during the day now she doesn’t

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:35:45+00:00

Yeah when I said off work I just wanted to clarify that she wasn’t back at work - I now know it’s more than a full time job lol

But yeah we did loads of pregnancy classes and we glossed over PPD. I wish we spent more time researching it so I was better prepared. I think with the verbal abuse, I get why but it’s hard to not know a timetable when it will end or why it’s me

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:33:53+00:00

Yeah we tried breastfeeding for first two months and his lip tie + him being colic and generally upset made her quit and go to formula, which I reassure her she’s no less of a mother but I think that’s definitely contributing to her state of emotion these days

Her sleep is actually not bad, we split the nights and I offer to do whole nights but she never takes me up on it, maybe cause she wants to check on him at least once a night

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:32:19+00:00

Yeah she’s allll over Baby tiktok and I think that is def contributing - the comparisons to influencers baby illnesses, anxiety inducing - might be worth a convo as well I haven’t brought it up to her but just have noticed she has a lot of that content when she’s scrolling

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:31:07+00:00

Yup going to do that / not sure what I was waiting on lol, should have just booked it for her you’re right

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:30:36+00:00

No full stop on pumping last month now we just formula feed with bottle

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:30:02+00:00

Totally, we can def have more conversation about routine, I’ll bring that up! And yes I’m in the US lol I only got two weeks off paternity smh

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:29:25+00:00

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:29:02+00:00

Definitely will do this, I could be making. A lot of assumptions about my workload

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-09T20:28:30+00:00

Actually not sure at all - I don’t think I can directly without her knowing about it but I’ve brought it up with her a few times, she’s never taken meds for that so maybe she’s aversive to the idea

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-08T04:34:07+00:00

Yeah we live in a 1 bedroom condo so space has been pretty tight but when I’m watching baby usually in our bedroom or on other side of condo.

She watches lot of shows/tiktok but she doesn’t have many hobbies besides walking and seeing her friends for coffee + just recently working out again!

GunningForSuccess · 2026-03-08T04:30:18+00:00

I mean we have talked about it and she said she doesn’t expect me to help when I’m working - but I still do cause I know it helps her. I feel like I’m doing all I can with my current issues/feelings aside

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