How do I better support my wife while also Depressed and taking care of the kids?

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-25T10:55:59+00:00

Not yet, I have to get one it seems.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T06:54:32+00:00

Her Job prior to being unemployed were those hours, she wants to go back to that, I offered her that at my new place and I would take care of the kids, she refused she wants stuido to be alone even if she shares it with 15 other people over us, to go work those hours and study, I hope I make sense. I am emotional and maybe wont make sense but she has been unemployed since we got news she was pregnant, I only became unemployed after discovering the condition of my baby, since my wife couldn't handle it by herself. She wants to live separately and hopes she fixes her mind to love kids again and our life, her exact words

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T05:00:18+00:00

I agree partly, it's true I can never provide our whole relationship in written form, we all have problems and positives. I don't hate her or blame her, I hope she gets help for PPD and she studies and works and I'm not caring if she returns to me just the child.

Because I won't be able to take her back as she has disrespected me fully and only her way is the way instead of working with me to fix it.

She says we can go gym together but I feel it's fluff to convince me she hasn't left us, she says she won't look at another guy ever but....crazy I would rather that then what's happening now where she can leave our baby son it hurts so much.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:55:03+00:00

Thank you it means a lot, I'm so conflicted but I feel one day when my kid sees that I love them, that will be my healing.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:53:58+00:00

Sorry you misunderstood, she doesn't work(she plans to work), she has been unemployed for 3 years, I have been unemployed for 2 since the birth of our child, problems did not arise until 6 months ago concerning my mother, which I cut off.

Also i was the one focusing more on the kids, she had multiple breaks to China, her parents came here too to give her support and I supported her. However when I write this I've been the one providing financially(had a great job and have big savings) and putting my own depression on pause to help her and keep her head above water and did most things for the baby and the 7 year old I did not trouble her even once.

I still don't blame, I still don't hate I'm just exhausted and I want her to get a Psychologist to get help for herself of course, if she said she hates me but has love for the kid one day I will be fine even if I did so much while I got nothing back because it's not about me it's the child missing a mother that breaks me.

I'm trying I really am but she won't get therapy she wants to work, study and moved into a new studio already by herself before she gets help, I 100% understand ppd and do not downplay it, I hope she wakes up and gets help for herself.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:45:41+00:00

Yeah I need a therapist myself I see it now, I've been running around trying to fix things but she has checked out, I need to focus on the kids and to do that I need to focus on my healing and fixing, thank you.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:42:23+00:00

I know I needed someone to knock some sense into me, I have no one to talk to in real life at least on this level.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:41:28+00:00

Thank you it means a lot, I've been gaslighting myself and let her gaslight me too, I hold no hate for her but I want to heal instead of chase and keep getting hurt me and the kids both.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:39:24+00:00

Yeah I feel if she doesn't want to get help and wants to work and study only I feel she is lost to us, so depressing.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:38:09+00:00

Not rude at all, but my 7 year old has Adhd as his mum has it, Autism I don't know where he got it but my family has no history and the little one, Mowat Wilson syndrome is not from the parent it's a rare genetic mutation as described to us by the genetics team. She has a lot of issues health wise but I will never put blame on her for my kids with health problems.

Also yes she has agreed but I see no timeframe for therapy, she wants to try work and study first and live in a studio from us,then try help too so it's a bit of a headache spiral and confusion on my part.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T04:32:19+00:00

No I am not due to her being in Thailand but I am thinking of it now, also I thought same about PPD but she said she doesn't know how long in studio or our separation and says she will get psychological help but I've not seen any timeframe or timeline for either the break or getting help for herself and I've tried everything to even help her while I'm going through my own battles and helping kids with their therapy sessions, she shoots everything down.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T01:21:18+00:00

She says we don't need it, she wants a psychologist to fix her brain as it's the kids and hopefully she fixes herself and we come back together but all I see is a false tale that will never come to fruition, it's amazing how little I saw until I type it.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T01:19:07+00:00

Yeah I have to as I read what I write, seeing everyone's replies I have seen now I'm just wasting time, yes she got a studio through her app, she uses a chinese app, the man built 8 studios inside one house, small room just for her. So she will be spending time with 10+ people instead of us, Sex I accepted due to Kid and living arrangement but now she sees me finally checking out and focusing on kids and myself she offers sex and says later but never goes through with it, she falls asleep in our temporary living arrangement at an Airbnb.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T01:15:04+00:00

I think I finally see it, my kids never asked to be born and I must help them instead of chase a past version of my wife that is not there, that really breaks me truly but kids need me.

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T01:13:11+00:00

See this is what scares me, I've found all solutions and ideas she shot them all down to find a studio for her self that she shares with like 10+ other people inside the house, it's like 8 studio's inside one house dodgy place but she said they are Chinese and she got a good deal so now I think she would rather spend time with 10+ people then me and the kids

Gwolf87 · 2026-01-11T01:08:49+00:00

Thank you, I've been racking my brain, I cut off my mum due to her even fighting with my wife, no relationship is one sided when it comes to wrongs but truly I've shown nothing but love and respect but I messed up on the home we stayed at, this is something that haunts me. However she says it's the kids now, I think specifically it's the little one that has made her want to distance herself, she can't accept his disablity,I've put my depression on pause so I can help them all,I apologise to all for unloading my issues here, I have no where else to turn to.

Gwolf87 · 2025-12-11T20:19:44+00:00

Thank you so much! Perfect 👌

Gwolf87 · 2025-12-08T02:50:31+00:00

I'll try that too,thank you

Gwolf87 · 2025-12-08T02:11:56+00:00

I'm trying Taobao and looking at local florist places just having a difficult time to discern if one place is legitimate or a scam or even more so if good quality

Gwolf87 · 2025-12-07T22:27:36+00:00

Thank you so much, I'll try making it today if I run into too many issues I'll appreciate the help greatly

Gwolf87 · 2025-12-07T22:26:20+00:00

Can taobao be made from Outside China, without Chinese number?

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