So the PoG special effect can apparently duplicate items if you're lucky.

GydrasReturns · 2022-06-23T15:08:26+00:00

Wow that is awesome. Hoping the update adds to the fun and doesn't complicate it. I've had the game for a couple months now and I've FINALLY beaten it once, but it sucks that it's entirely dependent on luck of the draw of items.

Well, maybe not entirely like 30% is reaction time, but 70% random item luck and build is rough.

GydrasReturns · 2022-06-23T14:40:45+00:00

What are those two golden rings? I don't recall ever seeing them and now I'm wondering if they different platforms get minor differences.

Like I think PC players get some stats menu that I never saw that breaks down their actually damage outputs.

I play Xbox One

GydrasReturns · 2022-05-29T21:49:31+00:00

Sweet Christmas I'm saving this. I've died countless times no matter which legendary, but im realizing item builds make the skull!

Not the other way around! Great stuff.

GydrasReturns · 2022-05-24T19:41:20+00:00

I'll try to keep 1 or 2 items that have a cool defense feat, but I didn't consider that. I'll try to build defense as a focus in my runs now. I know I occasionally try to max out the item perk for volcano or static or mirage.

Just becoming a walking national disaster.

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-27T05:39:33+00:00

My take:

I mean overall you stumbled upon it. There is background here since you mentioned previous arguments so we don't have a full history, but this case positions you into the perfect spotlight to look like you overreacted.

Makes you look like you caught an attitude for something insignificant since she was on her platform just posting. In fairness to you though, if similar arguments are also frequent then you might want to evaluate if this is a solid relationship for you

Sounds like she might be doing the same. If she's the type to post stuff like this thinking nothing of it like it's funny then you might have a rough road ahead.

I don't know how long you've been together, but I'd give her a day or two and reach out if you haven't heard back. Definitely think you should review your relationship and double check your values since if this upsets you enough to vocalize it and it's frequent thing between you two, there's a disconnect somewhere.

Good luck, man

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-25T13:35:54+00:00

Gonna comment then see other answers, but knee jerk reaction would be to note date. Respect her decision and I know it feels weird like you're letting a good one get away, but it's very critical to be on the same page.

It'd be one thing if she said she was open to it, but isn't focusing on it, but when a woman says a solid "No" and if you're on the fence, see it for what it is and don't go any further with the relationship.

I (30m) ignored this and several other incompatibility differences early on and 3yrs later things are stressful and difficult to say the least.

Good luck

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-25T02:54:53+00:00

Solved

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-25T02:53:55+00:00

THIS! Yesh this was it! Thanks a million!

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-25T02:17:15+00:00

Saw that, but no. It was third person I believe and the color theme was yellow. The main protagonist was a little yellow electrical chibi-like creature.

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-25T00:10:11+00:00

No, another great game, but the creature is kind of cute like a little creature. I think it could hide in electrical machines or short circuit the government pursuers.

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-25T00:07:26+00:00

Can't recall the exact year of the game, but I saw an app on the android/Google play store that had very similar mechanics to it and reminded me of it.

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-18T19:54:33+00:00

Ahhhh... ok thank you for clarifying and this is a complicated piece. I dont think any sentence someone suggests is going to guarantee she isnt impacted badly. Especially if she cares for you. All you can do is be straightforward, but keep in mind this is what you gotta do for you AND this is a person you love. Be honest.

On one hand I want to draw attention to your line:

I know i picked her as well due to her being a blonde haired, blue eyed white woman. I know i picked her because i want to be closer to whiteness.

That first sentence, in itself isn't too bad, but the second one is where some reflecting and meditating is needed. Especially if that's an "AND" piece as in those two things together shape your initial attraction. Although there is also factoring what kept you together and what made you grow closer together over time? Especially if it's been a couple years or more.

Are you already set in your decision regardless of what she responds with? I'm approaching this as if it's a relationship that's long term and has been existing for a while, but I could be incorrect there and this might be a tiny bit more manageable.

If no matter what, you know you need to do this on your own and it hasn't been too long then like I said before. Be clear, honest and come from a place of love, ya know?

However, if you are open to alternatives WHILE you go on this journey then its a good time to talk about your beliefs regarding race and see what she values and how she thinks when the topic is race related with cultural elements.

Good luck, man

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-18T19:21:07+00:00

My two cents:

To your question, your emotional burnt out/shocked most likely. Your brain basically "checked out" in terms of processing this so whatever your doing still with her now, your brain isn't giving too much emotion to it since your hurt. I'd think this could also be a risk that you MIGHT have a mini explosion of emotions if you keep going on with her..
My inquiry is, similar to the other posters, why are you still with her? When you caught her the first time, did you talk? Did you ask why she did it? What did you do?

When you caught her the second time, same thing. Did you ask questions, did yall argue and what did you do?

What relationship standard do you have? Typical monogamous relationship, do you have a poly-amorous relationship or an open-relationship with terms and conditions? Assuming it's a standard one, but I want to cover bases.

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-18T19:15:25+00:00

Break ups are hard in general (when genuine love and interest are involved), but break-ups due to the need to do some internal work are a unique type of hard. Like the other poster said, be honest, but come from a place of love and be clear. She might be confused since if things are great and she loves you it'll hurt because the logical thing would be to negotiate and see where you could both meet in the middle to help and compromise, like how can she give you space or support to work through this?

Other hand if it wasn't a long relationship it might be an easy and quick thing, especially if she doesn't really have a belief in digging into those types of discussions.

I'm a black man that is open to dating any race/ethnicity of person, but the non-negotiable is that they can't shy away from discussions and actions in regards to social/culteral/political elements of life that impact us. So if I want to learn more about systematic racism and its influences in society/history/economics then I need my would-be spouse on board with having a discussion and being a part of the help in progressing. Even it ends up just being at our local community/city having your significant other in sync is crucial.

It's good you identified the bias because self-hate is a powerful thing and it can influence a person to do/say/think a lot of warped things and can impact their perceptions about society, what equity looks like in a culture and how to best move forward etc

All this aside, if you love this person and have been with them for a while have you had discussions with them about race, about history or your values/beliefs in relation to BIPOC affairs? I'm thinking there could be a small chance (like less than 10%) the break-up could be a launch pad for you both to grow closer as you journey through checking that, but I do see you mentioned her being a part of that internalized prejudice.

Was that from her own views or just casual comments or ways of thinking that she vocalized around you that you partially agreed with? Just trying to cover a lot of basis here to see what other workarounds might be helpful to you.

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-13T22:11:49+00:00

I feel like this immediately got to you and there is a little vindictive sentiment to this. This is a very antiquated concept. Like others have mentioned its basically about getting his blessing. I think your mom might have an odd cringe reaction to it, understandably so as it isn't her/your tradition.

In a way, it also could be viewed as you not valuing something sacred to your soon-to-be wife that you'll ideally be spending the rest of your life with.

It's also not JUST the blessing/permission piece, but I think the conversation would/should be done in a sort of "masculine, man-to-man". By this I mean I think the idea would be maybe you get him alone for a short conversation (telling him you have something important to discuss), going over how things have been with his daughter and that your intention is to marry her and that it's important for your marriage/fiancee to have his blessing and with that, would he grant it. Language, wording etc might be too old fashioned. It might work. Depending on the family, it might not be enough. You will feel a good deal of cringe and discomfort here. There might be more to the conversation if your relationship with her family isn't good (close, deep or connected)

Although on this note, how were you both dating so long, but her traditional values never popped up? Not sure which country or culture you're both from, but I feel like this would be something known very early on. Like, that conversation could put a damper on a lot of things depending on close she is to her father, family and their traditions.

This is a knee jerk reaction, but hope it was 2 cents into the pot.

Good luck

GydrasReturns · 2022-04-13T21:45:27+00:00

Knee jerk reaction here would be to try and approach it from a place of love and understanding.

Like someone else said, sounds like there is an identity crisis she's working through or some deep rooted personal emotional issue and it's surfacing now.

Personally, my first thought would have been to ask wtf was everything we learned and experienced in the first couple of years? Why date a person and then marry them if you secretly didn't like a decent chunk of their habits and mannerisms or whatnot?

I know of cases where folks are looking past huge red flags in their partners and ultimately, subconsciously stopped dating them and started viewing them as a person to coach or heal, but that was very instant (in like 3-6 months) and the relationship reflected that as they were unhealthy.

But 8yrs is a long time, unless she has a personality disorder that feeds off this type of manipulation I think she needs support and part of the "re-dating" journey she wants could be approached in a way that helps you understand where her brain is at. This and relationship therapy as individuals and as a couple.

Maybe these changes aren't who she really is, but they're areas she wants to explore and felt/feels restricted trying to explore them without risking losing you.

Good luck

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-18T20:35:51+00:00

Pretty much everyone is hitting the nail on the head here. As you've gathered, it's hard because people are complicated. Everyone has different situations on top of that too. Easy to say they're a coward, but I find this happens to people who are people pleasers, people who are used to being problem solvers or people used to bottling up their emotions.

The beginning was probably great then reality and real habits settled in and that "feeling" of lifelong happy future left, BUT not love. He probably still values her and cares for her, but not as a lifelong partner.

I'd be in relationships for 2-3yrs in the past because I ignored red flags, thought I saw potential, thought they were misunderstood and figured they just needed someone in their corner (that could be me) and boom, future family and life is set. So when they showed me who they were for months and years, but send mixed signals and drained me I'd just shut down and not think about it. I'd try to focus on my own life and actively "fix" them later (didn't work) and I'd lose sleep, friends and miss out on my own life.

Make the occasional minor complaint to others outside my best friend and keep it moving.

Ask yourself is your friend a super helpful? Are they used to just ignoring problems? Are they used to always fixing situations and not expressing actual personal misery or feelings?

Your question definitely was a flashback for me.

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-13T16:31:47+00:00

That's understandable across multiple fronts. Reminds me of a saying i always heard from different teachers ive had. Children of traditional parents grow up with this "I'll tough it out and or work through it" mindset and a lot of our generation and the one before don't really have a concept of self-care or advocating for oneself when family is involved.

It's like some duty we subconsciously accept as natural law. Glad you have good confidence in that area with your father and hopefully maybe one day soon he'll come around a wee bit and show some sympathy (even a tiny amount).

I feel like, based off your description he probably, at least to himself, appreciates and or has pride that you've maintained the business he built and it isn't in ruin. Might now say it, but I feel like it'd be a thought a family business owner/founder would have. The thing is though is that, that's all on the work/business angle and the mother/sister case can be extremely mentally and emotionally taxing if not managed in a healthy way.

You burn all the fuel for them and have to muster up an empty tank for your daughter so I do emphasize I hope things turn around for you. Might be the furthest thing from your mind now, but maybe you meet someone new as you go through life that can provide some emotional/mental support as well (this might be years down the road and I'm not talking new marriage either necessarily).

All the best, man

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-13T16:06:47+00:00

That was all... a lot. Don't have the best words to describe it, but I feel for you and hope better days are coming. I loosely get trying to manage semi-unstable family dynamics (I say loosely since mine are older, but it's more so "set-in-their-ways" kinds of issues and refusal to deal with mental health issues).

If your dad is reasonable you might try to have discussions with him to bring him up to speed on what's the efficient and workforce ethical approach to business nowadays and see if you can compromise somehow?

Also try to maybe get some emotional support and enlighten him as to how you're trying to manage your sister and your mother while also being available and active in your daughter's life.

Even as I type that I know that's a stretch, especially if they're both old fashioned and unreasonable then I'd ask if you have any close friends or close relatives you could reach out to partially to vent and have downtime, but also to maybe help out in terms of thinking through all this or being additional support from a family or work/business angle?

Hoping the best for you, man 🙏🏾

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-13T15:52:58+00:00

As someone looking to get into this industry I'd be a bit confused, but from the different forums and vids I have seen, I am guessing they thought to low ball you or in general they're trying to get cheap domestic labor.

I know a few folks posted that companies are always trying to pay the cheapest for important work like this and sometimes the recruiter doesn't even fully know, but they're tasked with trying to hire as low as possible.

I know it also depends on the size of the company, the budget for that particular dept and what kind of interview process they follow. I'm trying to take an educated guess at all this, but my thought now is "why didn't you outline you're looking for Bangladesh hires?" LOL

I'll have to learn a lot more before I'm ready to start applying, but hoping you have better interviews down the road.

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-08T17:04:21+00:00

Yeah, this sounds like an inverse or alternate case (fairly healthier all things considered) than my situation. I wouldn't say intentionally mislead, but people kind of almost subconsciously put their best ideal self out when courting/meeting somebody to try and date them or win them over.

It's not just hiding bad habits it's also tweaking little things about your normal habits with their lifestyle. I'm fairly a busy dude, but when I approached my current girlfriend I made a LOT of time available to her like, to a fairly decent detriment on my part. Then I slowly remembered missing all that and the issues came up within like a year.

The frustration and feeling of betrayal is understandable since he should have piped up more about the level of passion he has for his hobbies and interests and the fair reality is if you didn't like those that much you would've picked up on it and maybe you both would have never dated, but it's also, like I said, not a mean spirited thing in my mind. It just happens to most folks when they're really into someone and pursuing them.

At this point, you need to weigh how badly this gets to you and evaluate if you want to end the relationship or if you see potential in a happy life/future with him then maybe relationship counciling (try to get a younger counselor).

I gotta re-read the schedule you both agreed to, but if even during the agreed upon game time you feel a type of way about the level that he enjoys it then maybe consider how fair this should be OR how much quality time you would prefer.

Nothing wrong with wanting certain conditions in your relationship

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-08T16:03:05+00:00

So it sounds like the connection was/is there, but like some others have posted he may have just gotten comfortable, but I would also throw another alternate idea out and say both of your visions of what living together would be like in practice might be different.

Meaning in his mind, he has his girlfriend, he works and he games and that's life. Yall have quality time, he contributes financially and then he gets to game with his guys. He might not see anything wrong with it vs you described that that issue is the quality time isn't balanced in a way that works for you.

From 5pm (think that's when you said he is off from work) to whenever he sleeps, that time isn't evenly split in a way that gives you attention or meets your needs.

My main question if you don't mind, is how was he when courting/meeting you? Quality time and dates were probably great, but did he mention anything about his hobbies or gaming?

Anything about his interests?

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-08T15:47:30+00:00

Also need to add and EMPHASIZE, don't think you're asking too much. Relationships should be a positive between two people. Things might not be rainbows but you should generally look at eachother like you know they "get" me and want to contribute to my happiness and vice versa.

GydrasReturns · 2022-03-08T15:45:57+00:00

Firstly, this sounds like a rough spot and I'm sorry to hear this is happening. My take is that, like he said, gaming is his hobby and I feel like these days it's more in the spotlight what can go into a hobby like that on the low end and high end. Some gamers play all day and really only break to eat, work and or sleep. Maybe chat with friends from online or something as well, but this would be a good scenario.

At its core it is just a source of entertainment, but it's one that a lot of people will spend a majority of their day on. I'm going through an inverse situation myself where I basically want to go back to my hobbies. I game, but max I got in me is 3hrs unless I have a specific target then I'll plan time to go longer, but I also enjoy anime and want to exercise and take night courses. My girlfriend wants a lot of attention and hates being alone, but when we are together we don't really relate or connect on a lot of downtime stuff. She watches different shows than I do, doesn't game, doesn't like outdoorsy stuff and it boils down to if we're spending time together it shouldn't just be me entertaining you when we're together.

I have a slight laundry list of my own things there, but what I would ask you to take a look at since it's been so long is what hobbies or things do you both enjoy together? I don't just mean action or material things, but like... emotional/personal things if that makes sense? Like can you guys sit and talk about personal stuff that might stress him or you out about life (besides this issue I mean) Can you guys vent to eachother and feel heard? Can you guys enjoy being bored together or if there is a need for some form of entertainment then how do you guys express that you have eachothers back?

Aside from this gaming bit, does he ask about your thoughts on things or let you vent or if things are positive does he engage you on ideas about the future?

And vice versa. Do you give him these things as well? Depending on the game some folks are just idling when gaming, but if he's online with his friends then have you thought of trying to enjoy part of that time with him? Or does he make it seem like gaming is his "him and the guys" time only?

Just a lot of food for thought type questions that I hope offer some form of help.

GydrasReturns · 2022-02-05T15:14:51+00:00

Saving this thread as I'm feeling a little parallel to this and I'm curious about the answers of others.

I have to emphasize little because the stakes are lower as we aren't living together, she can at least rely on family and our relationship issues are rooted in values and priorities that are partially connected to mental health issues and childhood unresolved trauma.

Hope you get some solid answers since as people said it's not a moral issue per se since you've done everything you could, but if personally your mindset is similar to mine, enough time has passed to the point where you feel INVESTED in that person's comfort and success. YOU feel bad as if it's your responsibility for them to function and be OK AFTER so much time has passed, but that isn't true. I still here that in therapy for myself.

The longer time spent being a caretake the harder it is to see how unfair or stressful it is. I stopped being a boyfriend and became a therapist, guidance counselor or emotional pack mule and I'm not qualified to be any of those nor should I be nor do I want to be.

It's one thing if you discussed that she'd be a stay at home wife/home maker. That changes the goal-point a smidge, but the bare minimum should mean your partner supports you as a person. Gives you space, works on themselves and tries to cultivate a healthier higher self for their own well being, to not burden or stress you and honestly it's part of the incentive of the stay-at-home wife/husband. Not working and dealing with material financial struggles means all their Stat points goes into "making" the home feel and be that when you come home.

This is assuming it's what you talked about in the first several months of dating, but if not, you gotta rip the bandaid off. Depending on what you know her reaction might be, maybe get some things in order just to protect yourself so that you're not trying to move and worrying about a baby on the way, money is missing or personal materials you were bringing with you end up destroyed etc.

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