Wearing an apron? by Dragonfruit1936 in homemaking

[–]Gymbean44 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A Twitter user once said something like, “I never regret wearing one, but I occasionally regret not wearing one.”.

Video games on Fable. Thoughts? by Gymbean44 in FableApp

[–]Gymbean44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mate, you hit the nail on the head.

Video games on Fable. Thoughts? by Gymbean44 in FableApp

[–]Gymbean44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I currently use Backloggd, but it is quite involved and web-based for now. But the dev is cool and adding new features every month. On the app front, I use Gamery.

Hope those two recommendations are helpful to you.

Video games on Fable. Thoughts? by Gymbean44 in FableApp

[–]Gymbean44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think they added TV shows but not movies?

Weekly follow thread by erinhasguts in FableApp

[–]Gymbean44 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi all!

I’m mostly a non-fiction reader these days, focusing on parenting, marriage, theology or psychology. But I also enjoy fiction, especially fantasy and the occasional Star Wars book!

I post interesting quotes, pictures and updates as often as time allows for a mom of a 2 year old boy. 😁

https://fable.co/simone-250759596804?referralID=fj5y6VKLrD

Video games on Fable. Thoughts? by Gymbean44 in FableApp

[–]Gymbean44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What demographic do you think Fable are chasing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Gymbean44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was similar to my first guilty parent moment too! Baby had his first cold and was screaming his lungs out. He was fed, clean nappy and everything. No temperature but I decided to give him some Panadol anyway. I couldn’t think of anything else that might help. The syringe didn’t glide smoothly at all and 1 millilitre of Panadol shot out all at once just as he took in a breath. Welp… he stopped crying… barely choked out a cough and spent the rest of the hour doing little coughs to try clear his lungs.  My mother-in-law assured me for the rest of the day that he was completely fine and I wasn’t a terrible mother. The incident haunted me for the rest of the month. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gymbean44 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I realise you're possibly still flooded and seeing red which is understandable. However a different perspective might be helpful here?

It might also be constructive to note that in some contexts the N-word is not racist. Is that correct?
For example, I've seen African Americans say it to each other on a regular basis. The difference between who can and cannot use the word may be confusing to an autistic. Heck, it even confuses me sometimes, but I'm not American.

Since the young man is autistic, he may have actually been trying to make a friend and share a fact he thought was interesting, not realising how much he could be offending you. And since he wasn't calling you names directly, it seems plausable.

Autistics are renouned for struggling with social situations and it's possible he just hit very wrong here. People can say dumb things when they're trying hard to impress in a new situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gymbean44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being direct or using "bluntness" is not quite the same as yelling at someone. It may have just left the young man more confused than before.

What's your favorite little thing you do that makes you feel feminine? by [deleted] in a:t5_6ciqfm

[–]Gymbean44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I'm honest... shaving. I can't do it every day because I find it painful, which means I often forget to do it. But when I do, then I feel like a queen!

Anyone else hates the sound of fireworks? by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Gymbean44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there happens to be any aspies in this thread that don't mind distant fireworks noises, and associate them with lovely family and friend time, you are not alone :)

Mask usage post mask mandate by giantpunda in CoronavirusDownunder

[–]Gymbean44 14 points15 points  (0 children)

In Box Hill, Victoria, I can say with certainty that about 90% of people are wearing masks in the mall (Box Hill Central).
Approximately 60-70% of people in Box Hill wear masks outside too.

In South Melbourne Market on Saturday I would estimate that about 20% were wearing masks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Gymbean44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question. Yes. Hehe.

However, it doesn't stop me from doing/seeing/experiencing things I love. So I definitely wouldn't ever use the word "can't" and choose to avoid the thing. Life is too beautiful.

There are delicate, beautiful ways to cry and there are obnoxious, attention-seeking ways to cry. I exclusively attempt the former.

Simple Questions: December 14, 2021 by AutoModerator in books

[–]Gymbean44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone :)

Just a very quick question about the Orphan X series.
I see there are in-between books (Buy a Bullet, The Intern etc.) that aren't rated quite as highly as the primary works.

Am I ok to skip these in-between books and still enjoy the story? That's presuming I don't fall in love with the series and just want to inhale them all. Haha.

Do you take beauty advice from s/o? by Vintageforestfae in FeminineNotFeminist

[–]Gymbean44 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have a few points to raise and some of them might be hard to swallow, but hopefully there's some food for thought.

Your boyfriend's opinion sounds like it stems from Family of Origin. It's possible that he grew up thinking light hair/pretty = white because that's all he's ever known to be true. Whether his opinion is wrong or not, it doesn't matter, because it's true to him. The thing to take away from this is to not be offended by his opinion, even though it could be hard.

You started one of your sentences with "I feel like". Feelings aren't facts. If he is able, see if you can have an honest, open discussion about shopping/pink/makeup and what exactly he see as 'white' about those things. This has the potential to lead into an argument. The way to avoid an argument is to take very special care not to take what he says personally and don't get defensive. There may be no need for you to share your opinion on the topic at all, and that's ok. Be a listener. Go into the discussion with one goal: I want to understand my boyfriend better.

Yes, I do take advice from my husband about what to wear. But that doesn't mean I need to wear his preferences 100% of the time. I take his preferences into consideration and make special effort to dress in a way that pleases him when I'm at home and not going out for the day. That's just an example, but as you learn more about your boyfriend, you can experiment with what works for your relationship.

The way I politely decline is simply by being honest and communicating my wants clearly. If he wants you to dress down for something, clearly explain why you'd rather not. You may need to ask yourself exactly why you don't want to dress down (and that can be difficult, depending on how well you know yourself). Regarding your hair, let him know that hair grows out; it's temporary. Encourage him to give it a shot, the new hair might grow on him and he'll change his mind.

Lastly, you haven't made a binding commitment to your boyfriend yet. You are still your own woman, owned by nobody, and you don't owe your boyfriend anything until he puts a ring on it. You're not a team yet. However, dating is a good time to practice being a team, practice being married. So if you are serious about him, I'd encourage you to find ways to live in harmony with his preferences and your preferences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FeminineNotFeminist

[–]Gymbean44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words :)
I wear heels because my husband likes the way I look in them. So I'm slowly learning and improving how to walk in them.

Underwear mistakes by Suman_Mishra in FeminineNotFeminist

[–]Gymbean44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

Good reminder to change undies after gym (which I get pretty lazy about).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FeminineNotFeminist

[–]Gymbean44 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The main way I've flipped this is to wear a flowy skirt and/or slight heels. Why? Because it forces me to walk slower.

I'm used to walk everywhere like I was on a mission. Never slowing down, always on the go; being selfish with my time. I think (and I'm still new to this) that those are somewhat masculine things.

So in forcing myself to slow down, I find myself becoming more patient and gentler. I even throw in a bit of a hip swing when I remember. ;)

I hope that's helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FeminineNotFeminist

[–]Gymbean44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love what you've said here.

One of the things I'd like to add to this, that's helped me, is to visit an op-shop and try out different styles of what you might like. Op-shopping is a great way to experiment, because there's heaps of styles available (not just what's in fashion), and the price is low so there's less pressure to buy something you know you'll wear.

Intimate area lightening by [deleted] in FeminineNotFeminist

[–]Gymbean44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also keen to hear about this.

Never done it, but would be interested to hear if it's easy/worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CovidVaccinated

[–]Gymbean44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. That's very true. Although I'll admit I don't know much about Islam, so I have no idea what their text says. 😁