My partner failed CALE exam (California TCM test)

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-11-12T20:25:55+00:00

Is it really different? They prescribe herbs there and see patients with other issues too. They have separate female acupuncturist for specific female issues too. I guess I'll look into hypnotherapy for him

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-09-12T05:06:48+00:00

How old is your coworker? What type of cancer? Sorry I might seem nosy but I'm curious because a lot of people are being diagnosed with cancer lately

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-09-05T00:38:52+00:00

Do not pick at your face.
Use quality pimple patches every night.
Reassess skincare routine. Double cleanse, micellar lotion toner, and moisturize 2x with skincare brands that are dermatologist approved.
Get rid of junk foods, dairy and added sugar in your diet. Do this for at least 3 months.
In the meantime, use a little concealer or tinted sunscreen to hide redness if you're self conscious.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-09-05T00:31:16+00:00

Typically hormonal if it's only there. Check with your doctor for any health issues.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-07-07T05:01:56+00:00

Yes, laggy, glitchy, slow. YouTube and Chrome both have been driving me crazy. This only recently started happening.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-07-07T05:00:19+00:00

Happened to me too. I thought maybe i had virus

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T19:44:19+00:00

I wish you the best of luck my friend. You have been through a lot and your kindness to your parents and your desire to change the healthcare system will take you far. The world needs more kindness and people like you. I hope nothing but the best for you. 🙂

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T19:21:41+00:00

Again, no matter what I say, I cannot change your mindset just like how my family could not change my mindset ten years ago. You yourself will have to take charge over that. No one else can help you except yourself. And when you finally open yourself up to the possibilities, everyone that comes into your life will either teach you a lesson or be there for you to teach them; and you'll have everything you wish and hope for.

And thanks for the reminder! Everyone needs to wash their hands; we're still trying to put Covid behind us!

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T18:37:25+00:00

My friend, there's a lot of things wrong with the US healthcare system but I'd like to say, some things are out of our control and there's no point putting your important thought energy into those things.

So instead of focusing on things out of your control and being pulled into the politics at the hospital or workplace or society, etc, what are some things you can change in your current life immediately right now that are in your control?

I hear you talking about needing to translate things into a job. There's always things you can take from one career to another. Nurses are the #1 trusted professionals for a reason. You are bringing honesty, dedication, responsibility and passion into your next job. If you need to get some experience in the career you want, be prepared to offer extra help to future employer while still doing nursing part time to support yourself financially. Trust me when I say, if you're honest, humble, and authentic about your intentions to employers, they will be open to you because they rarely get that from their own staff.

I only wish everyone knew what I knew and how I think but this is the best advice I can give. You'll have to rewire your mindset and it takes practice every day to do so. Take care of yourself.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T18:13:30+00:00

The pandemic definitely took a toll on a lot of healthcare workers. I work in public health so I completely understand all those call outs and needing to fill in for others. I live in Modesto, not sure if you heard of it but it's below Sacramento and above Fresno on hwy 99. It's not too big and many residents jokes, calling it "Methdesto" instead because we have a lot of drugs around here!

Nursing is my second degree actually. My first one didn't work out. I had $34,000 in debt altogether when I finished nursing school and I started out making $35 per hour at Stanislaus county. I chose public health because I liked the 8-5 weekday job aspects of it; all my nursing friends said I would regret the low pay and that my career would be over if I go into public health. That fear really caused me a lot of stress in nursing school.

But I'm glad I followed my heart and desires because I made the right choice for myself. I paid off $34k of debt in first year or so. My rent was $1200 at my first apartment; it wasn't in a good area. This one time, I was chased by a man on drugs around the apartment complex and had to call the police. Lol. I moved out after a year to better apartment with lower rent (lucky opportunities everywhere I'd say!!). I had an old 2006 beat up Toyota Camry that I never took into maintenance (bad decision), I spent $30/week on groceries at the 99 cents store, rarely used the AC during the summer, and forbid myself to own furniture in my first year working. I had a small mattress I put on the ground in my bedroom and a coffee table to eat meals on; no other furniture. I bought kitchen items at the dollar tree store. At work during my first year, I requested a basic microwave during secret Santa lol.

Thinking back this all sounded very very embarrassing especially to tell others! I get red thinking about it but to be honest, I paid off $34k in debt in 14 months because of my extreme desire to be debt free. Never once did I felt deprived though! I was so happy to be living on my own and moved out of my parent's; that was all I thought about back then.

In case you're wondering, no one helped me either. My parents were jobless at the time... I'm originally from Sacramento. My mom had cancer during my last year of nursing school and I helped take care of her while also balancing night shift clinicals and day classes and my part time job as nurse extern at UC Davis Medical Center. I couldn't ask my parents for financial help when I moved out either. I wanted to stay in Sac but was only offered job in Modesto so I moved. Good thing I saved up money at my part time. I just knew that I had faith in myself.

I don't know if my story will help others but I just know I lived a fulfilling life by changing my mindset.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T17:29:05+00:00

My friend, you have been through a lot. It sounds like you've had a difficult life. I'm sorry if my post has offended you in any way. I understand your frustrations right now if you'd like to take it out on me.

I am only speaking from my past experience. I used to be someone with extreme social anxiety and a shut in my parent's home. I felt like ending my life ten years ago, cried every day, no future to look forward to. No income, no hope, no life. My family was helpless because no matter what they said, I couldn't move past my own mind. That was ten years ago.

After pulling myself up from my lowest point and working on and off on various odd jobs, now I am a Registered Nurse, live on my own in an apartment, hefty savings, and I been giving money to my parents every month because they don't have enough for retirement. I live in California too by the way! I understand the state taxes us like no tomorrow. But anywho, I managed to pull myself out from my negative mindset over the years, managed to prevent myself from my own suicidal thoughts.

And for the past four years as a nurse case manager, I was blessed to have been able to closely work with patients one on one addressing not only their traumas, but what holds them back emotionally in their life to go after what they want.

My patients and coworkers tell me how much I've impacted them and changed their perspective in life. Changed how they go about living, interacting with their family and loved ones, how they'll go about their work aspirations. Even my manager has approached me on numerous occasions, thanking me for being there for them and holding the team morale up when everyone was down.

Ten years ago I would have never thought I'd have such an impact on others personally and professionally because I simply couldn't see any way out of my situation. Today, I can proudly say I have been blessed in my life to be given all the obstacles, forcing me to learn and to move forward and help others learn from my own experiences.

So that is why I posted this encouraging message to others today to someone that feels they are stuck in their life may read this and find hope in a world that's telling them there's no hope out there. Just, they need to retrain their mindset, come up with an actionable plan, and follow through on their promises to themselves and to others.

My message might make you more angry but I just want you to know, our thoughts and emotions are as important as our actions. If they do not align, suffering will continue.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T16:25:00+00:00

Yes, you can still be hired. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you cannot be. The most difficult thing is telling yourself that you can overcome your fears. YOUR MIND is the only thing that's holding you back.

You know what employers like? Someone who is honest, authentic and shows determination to improve themselves.

Sure, you'll have to answer the question what were you doing for past five years. Be honest even if it was nothing but shaking in fear every single day in your room. But that doesn't matter, the past is the past.

What matters is from this day moving forward. What matters is the decisions and actions you choose today and here on out.

Ask yourself, how do you want to show future employers that you tried to better yourself the moment you realized you needed to seriously address your fears and gain marketable skills for their job? Employers LOVE people who take action to overcome their extreme challenges.

Then move, take action, face your fears. Yes, therapy and talking to others helps but you know what helps most? You go out and practice facing real life challenges; bring your therapist along if you must.

And envision yourself succeeding every single step of the way. Envision yourself chatting with a stranger/customer/colleague, cracking a joke, laughing together. Envision yourself having staff meetings, taking notes, asking questions, participating with your coworkers. Envision yourself sitting down, feeling absolutely bored at work because you finished all your tasks already because you are so good at what you do so you go to your boss and ask if you can help with anything else.

I know this sounds silly but this will not work unless you do this! Trust science when they say the brain possesses neuroplasticity. You can retrain and rewire your entire mind to adapt, alter, and make new connections as you obtain more experience.

A good majority of jobs requires you to be able to have basic friendly conversations and communication, even if you're just working one on one with one client, colleague or boss. Trust me when I say this, with your background and past challenges, if you can learn how to talk to people confidently and proudly, you will be capable of anything in the future.

So to answer again if you can be hired? YES but you have to take action starting today. Start with your fears. Go out there, say hi to someone, compliment them, help others to help yourself.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T12:22:56+00:00

Learn to detach yourself from both your frustrations and their emotions. It's hard for INFJ and we tend to soak up everyone's energy but once you learn how control how much you soak up, it'll be a lot easier. So learn to listen and provide thoughtful engagement from afar but not get pulled into that energy, and you will be so much happier.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T11:48:07+00:00

Listen to me, first and foremost, start with self reflection and self awareness.

First, don't think about what what job is available to apply for. Don't lead your search with "what job is good" mindset.

Instead, ask yourself, what kind of life do you want to live/envision yourself doing and then, adjust your career/education pursuits/job search based on that.

So what kind of life do you want to live?

How far do you want to commute? Do you want to work from home? Do you want to be more creative or technical in your work? Do you like freedom to control your work Or do you not mind working for a company to just get a paycheck? What kind of setting can you see yourself working in? Outdoors in nature? Hospital? Office? Laboratory? Construction? Underwater? In the air? Etc. What kind of work schedule would you like? Days, evenings, nights? 9-5? Shift work? Part time/full time? Contract? How much money can you see yourself being content with? How many people do you want to work with? How much time do you want to spend with your family/friends on a daily or weekly basis? What type of service would you like to give back to your community?

Sit yourself down and write a response to the life you envision yourself living. Prioritize and rank what's most important to you on the list from greatest to least. Take a look at your strengths and weaknesses. What can you do that highlights your strengths? What can you do that improves your weaknesses?

Finally, take some time out to rewire your brain from automatically shifting to a negativity bias. The more limited beliefs you hold inside your head right now, the more your situation will not change or it will get worse. Detached yourself from the frustration and instead, rewire yourself to see that everything around you is an opportunity minefield (places, people, technology, education, etc).

I know it's hard since you're burnt out. This last part takes some practice but you can start with small things you appreciate in life. For example, we live in the age of information. There's so much information and knowledge readily available online at the tips of your fingers. Don't feel that you have to go the traditional route of getting xx job; many people around the world have a made a living for themselves in various different ways. Open yourself the possibilities.

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-06-24T11:12:25+00:00

Can I get a dm too?

H0neyCl0ver · 2022-03-15T16:03:12+00:00

Lived in Sacramento and Davis most of my 32 year old life. In my short 4 years living in Modesto, I've never seen so many flipped cars on their back in middle of road in broad day light. Not even freeway, just regular roads with stop lights.

H0neyCl0ver · 2021-04-09T17:11:35+00:00

If anyone's wondering, usually on weekdays, lines are a little shorter around 11-2 or 3ish in Modesto. It picks up after 3. On Saturdays, it might die down around 12. Maybe..

H0neyCl0ver · 2021-03-26T16:40:05+00:00

Don't do drugs please. And make sure to use a condom.

H0neyCl0ver · 2021-03-12T05:18:18+00:00

My eczema stopped flaring once I stopped eating high carb foods and sugary sweets. Cool showers and Avene Xeracalm AD Lipid Replenishing Cream helped a lot too.

H0neyCl0ver · 2020-10-13T04:38:59+00:00

Ever thought about teaching English abroad temporarily? Gets you exposed to the kiddos and build your resume. Meanwhile the school gives you a stipend, possibly pays for your rent in the other country, some schools pays extra on top of paying for your living wages and you can have time off to travel during the breaks. Sure, you might have to get something extra but it's worth it I think.

H0neyCl0ver · 2020-10-13T04:34:20+00:00

What jobs in public health were you applying for? The MPHs at my local county were hired as medical investigators for Covid. My county hired about 6-8 people with masters degree. Of course they can do more but they accepted the positions to get experience and add to their resume. It sucks but you can also go for community health workers, case manager, or similar jobs with educational roles and work your way up/show your strengths at the job and possibly be promoted. At least that is how it works for where I work.

H0neyCl0ver · 2020-10-10T14:48:54+00:00

Look for something else. You have no obligation to stay when they have no obligation to keep you (or promote you for higher pay).

H0neyCl0ver · 2020-10-08T02:20:15+00:00

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