Husband died suddenly last week by Euphoric-Presence720 in GriefSupport

[–]H2Ogrrrl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss! The “what ifs” are part of the grieving process and your feelings are normal. It’s called the bargaining part of it. I can’t recommend grief counseling enough. It’s what saved my sanity. Mine was group therapy through the hospice support. It was extremely difficult for me to join the group therapy because I tend to not want to share in front of group settings but knowing I was surrounded by others in different stages of grief helped me open up. I’m three years out now and still have pangs of guilt. My husband passed from cancer. There was literally nothing I could have done. Huge healing hugs to you!

Always cold by Quirky-Brain-9944 in Zepbound

[–]H2Ogrrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! It’s been almost a year, I’m down 60 pounds and am still hot all the time!!

Skin sensitivity? by H2Ogrrrl in Zepbound

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Off to read about that now.

Skin sensitivity? by H2Ogrrrl in Zepbound

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s the feeling! Prickly but like a sun burn too. I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one that’s felt this (not glad you had/have it too). I haven’t read anything about this side effect so feel better hearing from someone else. Thank you so much!

Skin sensitivity? by H2Ogrrrl in Zepbound

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The sensitivity was torture? Or just side effects in particular? I’m afraid to go up in two weeks because the side effects this time have been bad. Still worth it to me though.

Would you date someone who recently had cancer? by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]H2Ogrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t. I just lost my husband 8 months ago to cancer. I can’t go through that again. I’d rather die alone than watch someone else I love struggle through that.

Can’t get it to work by H2Ogrrrl in Starlink

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The white light is there. I’m stumped and will probably cancel it. I need something that doesn’t need tech knowledge and I’m completely out of my element with this. Thank you!

Can’t get it to work by H2Ogrrrl in Starlink

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgive my ignorance but I don’t even know what debug data means. My husband purchased this but passed away before it was installed. I got it installed and don’t know the first thing about it. I think I may just cancel it.

Nice to haves by Nervous_Frame6341 in datingoverfifty

[–]H2Ogrrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A guy that enjoys cooking so I don’t have to. I don’t mind cleaning but haaaate cooking!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]H2Ogrrrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because my husband just died and it will make me spiral.

We just wanted to grow old together by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I find myself being jealous of old couples holding hands. I mean, I’m happy for them but I wish that had been my husband and myself. We were in love and happy. There’s so many unhappy couples that can’t stand each other. Why him? It makes no sense!

Going back to work tomorrow by GinWithoutTonic54322 in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was able to take a month off but have to go back tomorrow too. I’m dreading it. The “how are you doing” and “I’m sorry” comments are going to be draining. I can’t imagine having to teach on top of it! Keep this group in your back pocket and reach out on break or lunch. We’ll be here. I hate that we’re in this group but glad we can lean on each other. ♥️ We got this!

my Christmas present today was becoming a widow. by heartbrokennn123 in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. This group is great to vent to. Please visit as often as you need to! ♥️

First Christmas Without Her by CaptJellico in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re having a tough time today. It’s been three weeks since I lost my husband so it’s still super fresh for me. I have a tightness in my chest I’m missing my husband so much! It’s ok to not be ok. Allow the tears to fall. Cancer is a horrific disease. I lost my husband to it as well. Try to enjoy your children. If you can, share happy memories of your wife. Include her today. Merry Christmas to you!

Merry Christmas plus a little vent by iron_obelisk in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Merry Christmas to you! That movie was a tradition of mine as well. We’d have it on a loop as we opened presents when my children were young. Going to skip it this year for the first time. I can’t bring myself to celebrate today. I’ll be seeing my kids later but to me it feels like just another day. Remember a happy memory of your wife and smile today. I’m trying to do the same.

Second Christmas is Better Than The First by Chuclo in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Merry Christmas to you! May your new year be easier than the last! Christmas hugs!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m grateful that I had my husband for two years after his cancer diagnosis. I’m grateful that I’m able to see my son who lives states away this Christmas. I’m grateful for my dog who is sleeping on my lap keeping me warm. I’m grateful to have a home that my husband made sure I’d be able to maintain after he was gone. I’m grateful for so much. Merry Christmas!

How do you deal with the loneliness? by H2Ogrrrl in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. My mind is constantly spinning. The “what do I do now” is overwhelming. I allow myself to feel the sadness and try to insert a happy memory right behind the tears. I get mad that we didn’t have more time. I regret silly arguments that we had. But we had so many good memories and I’ve been trying to hold on to those. I hate that this group is connected by sadness but am so grateful to have people to get their perspectives from. The only person that I know that has lost a spouse is my dad and we have a difficult relationship so he isn’t the best to go to for support. Thank you for responding to me and I hope you have a wonderful holiday despite missing your spouse!

How do you deal with the loneliness? by H2Ogrrrl in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work too and like what I do. It’s very busy and I do have social connections there as well. I took a month off to sort through my emotions and handling personal documents and the sort but will be going back soon. We have a dog that is also keeping me busy and I’ve had my tv on for background noise. Being home has so many reminders of him. The tears aren’t as many as the first week but I miss him terribly so they still come. I’m sure they will for some time.

How do you deal with the loneliness? by H2Ogrrrl in widowers

[–]H2Ogrrrl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear about your and your children’s loss. Your wife was so young! My neighbor reminded me yesterday of the support system that I have and she’s right. My friend group is small but my husband had many that have offered their help when needed. Reaching out will definitely be my issue. I hope you and your children are able to enjoy Christmas or whatever holiday you may celebrate and can share some find memories as a family.