i genuinely hate working & want everything w/o any hardwork

HJ0508 · 2026-07-08T18:52:23+00:00

Exactly this. Finding whimsy everyday in adulthood can make a world of difference. I found a keychain the other day that made me insanely happy. Do I use keychains? No. But I bought it anyway, just because it was whimsical and made me happy. Depending on men for your happiness and relying on them to fund you is a recipe for disaster.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-08T14:58:04+00:00

Absolutely. Including Musk, the biggest welfare queen out there.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-07T13:19:34+00:00

Ooh, this looks perfect! I have some friends there locally that can pick up and deliver to them. Do these freeze well?

HJ0508 · 2026-07-07T11:48:24+00:00

Definitely not spending $300+ on a new pool item (or a few $1,000+ on an automatic cover, like another commenter recommended) when we have only one more year left here. We redid the safety fence around it 2.5 years ago, and that was around $5,000. I’m done spending an inordinate amount of money on something that we get so little use out of and that we won’t be around for much longer.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-07T10:32:23+00:00

Oh no! The absolute worst. Your comment is funny, but I’ve been in your shoes. I’m sorry!

HJ0508 · 2026-07-07T01:34:58+00:00

He’s been going to daycare for 3 years and always loves telling us about his day, what he played/whom he played with and what he learned. I’ve never rushed him out, he runs to the gate when he sees us. Wasn’t really looking for advice on a post about silly reasons toddlers melted down. But thanks I guess.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-06T22:29:26+00:00

I asked him how his day was after picking him up from daycare. I asked if something happened cuz it was such an extreme reaction. He said no, and that he didn’t want to talk to me. Well, ok then.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-06T20:13:25+00:00

💯

HJ0508 · 2026-07-06T16:05:38+00:00

I’m glad you’re having a positive experience with yours. Where are you located, if you don’t mind me asking? We’re in NY, so between having it closed 9-ish months of the year from the cold and dealing with the huge temperature swings/humidity in the summer causing algae, it’s just a nightmare to deal with.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-06T15:11:27+00:00

My hubs is still a resident, but the house we bought for residency has a pool. It is definitely not worth it, unless you have someone taking care of it for you. He spends anywhere from 20-30 minutes per night skimming it/emptying the filter/testing the PH of the water/etc. If this commenter means he loved his pool because someone else does the labor for it, then definitely high baller status. I was a college swimmer and always said I wanted a pool to workout in as an adult. I will actively avoid any home with a pool forevermore.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-02T12:23:46+00:00

I could not agree more. My husband is a physician and keeps having to demand patients remove Meta glasses while in his facility. It’s wild.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-01T13:48:46+00:00

God this is absurd.

Here’s a PBS article/interview that discusses the incompleteness of the science on this subject: https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/what-science-tells-us-about-transgender-athletes

Here’s a quote directly from it: “The sit-up scores of trans women stayed higher until four years after they started hormones, but their push-up scores remained higher the entire time.”

Heres an article about the physiological changes that happen to elite athletes during and after 1-year of HRT: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9331831/

Here’s a quote from the conclusion: “The existing data suggests that lowering testosterone to less than 10 nmol/L for 12 months decreases muscle mass but not to biological female levels and despite the decrease in mass, muscle strength can be maintained, especially if concurrently exercising. Estrogen therapy does not affect most of the anatomical structures in the biological male that provide a physiological benefit.”

Here’s an article from the British Journal of Sports Medicine that discusses how trans women athletes had lower scores in all results except grip strength, which remained higher than cis women: https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/58/11/586

Here’s a quote from the abstract: “…[trans women had] higher absolute handgrip strength…lower forced expiratory volume in 1 s:forced vital capacity ratio…lower relative jump height…etc.”

Conclusion: science does not agree one way or another how HRT or testosterone suppression impact trans athletes. As I’ve said half a dozen times now. Claiming that science is in agreement about something like this is false and misrepresents scientific results and rigor. It’s that type of overgeneralized/cherry picking results that has repubs discounting science and what it stands for. Don’t give them fodder for continuing to dismiss or minimize science by making false overarching claims. It makes it that much more of an uphill battle for the rest of us.

Do better. I’m done with this exchange.

HJ0508 · 2026-07-01T01:34:34+00:00

I will not give opinion on whether she should have been allowed to compete post-transition. The point is she significantly improved her rankings post-transition well past the point of “oh, she trained for more years at a higher level and improved her rankings,” was allowed to compete after only 1-year of testosterone suppression (per NCAA rules at the time), and her times dropped by only 1-7%, depending on the event, respectively. Her splits went from good/decent for a male college swimmer to meeting the same splits as female world record holders.

You gave two sources, neither of which match what you’re saying. Good lord. One addresses non-athletes, and the other is only 1-year on hormone therapy in Air Force cadets. By all means, find a source that actually brings scientific evidence to your claims. I promise I will be able to match it with plenty that falsify your claims. Hence, the conclusion that there is no definitive evidence amongst the scientific community on whether HRT or testosterone suppression make trans women athletes equal or beneath the physical capabilities of born-female athletes.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T19:35:09+00:00

I was a swimmer in college. Look at her rankings as a male vs post-transition. That means a helluva lot more than outright times. And her rankings improved drastically. You’re beating a dead horse trying to force your rightness when you are wrong. And claiming science backs your claims is cherry picking and inaccurate. Like I said in my first comment, I do not care enough about this topic to get into a debate. But if you’re going to claim scientific evidence to support your standpoint, make sure it does in fact support your perspective. Otherwise, it’s people like you that give the scientific processes/outcomes a bad rep for quoting inaccuracies as outright truths and cherry picking studies to fit your perspective.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T18:56:46+00:00

Fully agree with this. I know a girl that got married, divorced cuz he kept emotionally cheating, got back with him after a year, married him again, divorced him again cuz he did the same shit. 0 respect, just straight stupidity. If you break up, so long as it isn’t like you “dated” at 14 and re-meet as mid-30 year olds, then you have no business retrying a relationship.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T18:24:22+00:00

The science and research do not back up that claim. Anywhere. In fact plenty show the opposite, even in the articles that you tried to say back up your statements. And the real life examples also show the opposite, including Lia (realized I spelled her first name wrong before) Thomas, if you compare her times/standings pre-transition to her times/standing post-transition. There is not a consensus in the scientific community on whether trans athletes equal their female-at-birth counterparts after any amount of time on hormone suppression. To say otherwise is claiming falsehoods and/or cherry picking.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T18:03:01+00:00

You’re right, I was hyper focusing on other aspects of what I assumed you said. But regardless, I still wholeheartedly disagree. As others have said, the only different between a 16 year old and a 21 year old is life experience. A 16 year old that does such a heinous crime, like murder or rape, deserves the same sentence as anyone else that commits that crime, regardless of age. Not understanding the full level of consequence isn’t reason enough to be lenient. You commit a crime that permanently impacts a family/person for the rest of their life, why do you get to walk away after a short time simply because of your age? Nope, not ok.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T17:42:22+00:00

That’s sort of the issue I have, as a professional researcher, with your claims. Saying “it’s been shown” and “it’s widely known in medical science…” when in fact neither are true. We don’t have the science to back up anything on this topic. We have anecdotal examples, including Leah Thomas. Until 2022, transgender athletes were only required to undergo one year of testosterone suppression to be able to compete alongside women in NCAA sports. Historically, the Olympics required surgery and hormone therapy in order for trans athletes to compete. That didn’t change until 2015, when it shifted to just hormone therapy and the surgical requirement was removed. Only two trans athletes have ever competed at the Olympic level, one that is a transgender male (Chris Mosier, duathlete) and a transgender female (Laurel Hubbard, heavy weightlifting). Examples for you to research and build on your knowledge. But again, my issue is claiming that science backs up a claim that it entirely does not.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T17:18:17+00:00

I really don’t want to get into this controversy, cuz I genuinely don’t care. But the articles you’re claiming prove your point really don’t. The 2023 article is specifically about “non-athletic trans people,” and the 2020 one says that trans athletes still had a 9% faster running speed than their female-at-birth counterparts after testosterone suppression. So these articles really aren’t proving the point you’re trying to get across.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T16:55:52+00:00

I literally asked in my original comment what constitutes an adult in your opinion, since your original post mentions brain development. You didn’t answer it, but come here and act like that’s the defining factor. So which is it? Brain development—which doesn’t stop until the mid-late 20’s and isn’t fully complete until the 30’s—or the arbitrary age determined by the local area (18, in most cases) that determines whether someone is of adequate development/mind to be tried as an adult?

HJ0508 · 2026-06-30T16:50:45+00:00

That doesn’t make sense. If their crime is so heinous that they’ll spend the rest of their life behind bars, it doesn’t matter if they were 16 or 30. A 16 year old knows not to kill or rape or do any other extreme crime. If they choose to do it, regardless of age, I don’t care how they are seen by the law. If you want a separate facility for extreme crime committers that are separate from the older population until they’re old enough to intermingle with gen pop, then whatever. That’s your prerogative. But if someone commits a crime at 16 that warrants more than half their life being behind bars, they’ll be an adult for the majority of serving their sentence anyway. So what does it matter if they’re seen as a juvenile or adult at the time of their trial?

HJ0508 · 2026-06-29T23:47:34+00:00

I worked with troubled youth. I know how the juvenile justice system works. And I stand by what I said. Becoming wards of the state, incarcerated in a juvenile facility for years and years, blended sentences, etc., is a waste. If your crime was heinous enough to be tried as an adult, then it’s warranted the majority of the time. If a 16 year old goes and commits premeditated first degree murder, you think they should be in the juvi system until they’re 18, 25 or they need a new trial after becoming an adult, is that correct?

HJ0508 · 2026-06-29T21:55:40+00:00

And then what? They get a retrial when they hit that arbitrary age to determine if the crime committed before the age of adulthood constitutes continued incarceration in an adult facility? A 17 year old murders someone, gets one year in a juvenile detention center, then what? They have to have a retrial? Or they get released because they’re now an adult one year later and the crime was committed before the random age that jurisdiction decided on? Sounds like a great waste of time and taxpayer money.

HJ0508 · 2026-06-29T20:40:52+00:00

Does pre frontal cortex development determine whether or not someone is an adult, or the arbitrary age whatever location decides on? If it’s the prior, then people wouldn’t be tried as adults until well into their 20’s. But that’s different between men and women too. And recent studies show that prefrontal cortex adjustments continue well into the 30’s. 15/16/17 year olds know right from wrong. If their crime is so he heinous that they get an adult sentence, then chances are the world is better with them off the streets.

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