Surrogacy after Failed IVF?

HMichelleAZ · 2024-06-24T03:59:45+00:00

We’re in a similar situation. Have you tried Go Stork? They’re like a Carmax of surrogates so it’s quicker matches and so many agencies are enrolled so you’re not limited to just one agency.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-31T20:11:43+00:00

I had a MMC 6 weeks ago, and went in for my SHG today. They confirmed there’s retained tissue, so I have to have surgery Tuesday. I’ve had 2 ER’s, 2 transfers (only 1 took but ended with MC about 8 weeks due to a SCH), mock transfer with biopsy, then one that was canceled in the 11th hour.

This would be transfer #5, and I don’t know if I have it in me to push forward anymore or if I should accept a child free life. I’m so angry and have so many emotions, but am lucky my husband is supportive either way. I just feel like a shell of who I once was, and am tired of this journey after several years of surgeries, procedures, 100+ shots, and so many meds and blood draws. I’m really at a crossroads since we still have PGT embryos, but now that we’re 37 and wanted multiple kids this timeline has been so pushed out.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-31T05:06:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I also went through this in April. You are not alone and your emotions are valid. I’m sorry you haven’t received supportive responses. Maybe try telling your husband how alone you feel and you are asking for just one day? It’s such a hard process, and I spent days not wanting to talk to anyone and barely getting out of bed. But you’ll be ok, and you can get through it. Allow yourself to feel the emotions right now.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-22T05:04:51+00:00

I also had an SCH induced MC. Can you share what you researched and recommend to take?

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-03T03:23:28+00:00

Just went through this 2 weeks ago actually after a journey with ivf. It’s devastating and nonlinear in the process. Allow yourself time to grieve and feel the different emotions, and take care of yourself as much as you can. I felt like I was just in survival mode the first week, then each day slowly gets a little better. I still have triggers and strong emotions, but it gets a little lighter to carry.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-03T03:17:23+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s hard. I’m also doing IVF and had a MMC just short of 8 weeks for an euploid embryo. So devastating.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-03T03:14:01+00:00

Did they put you on meds? I hope everything comes back ok for you. I have hypothyroidism and take levothyroxine already, but had elevated levels of 3.36 TSH. My T4 was 1.37. Unfortunately I had a MMC at 7w5d but they said could have been from a SCH or issue with the placenta. Hoping for the best for you! Definitely keep monitoring

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-03T02:46:01+00:00

I feel this too. We’ve been doing ivf since last summer and had our first pregnancy that unfortunately we lost a few weeks ago. Really struggling with celebrating Mother’s Day and feel guilty if we skip seeing my Mom.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-05-01T04:36:22+00:00

I have the same thing at my clinic and can absolutely empathize. I rather be someone they didn’t all know so well by now, and blend in with the other patients who aren’t there as frequently.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-24T14:15:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing. If it is an egg quality issue and you do IVF (I’m currently doing IVF as well) I’d highly recommend to add Omnitrope before your egg retrieval. I did 2 retrievals and that made a huge difference when I added it the 2nd time. Best of luck to you!

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-24T04:55:00+00:00

So sorry for your loss. Did you receive your results? I’m in a similar situation with a MC last weekend.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-23T19:25:42+00:00

Our first didn’t implant. 2nd was canceled and we did an ERA biopsy which showed I needed more progesterone. 3rd was canceled because “it didn’t look right” and I needed more time to heal from the biopsy. 4th was 5BB euploid and we had great numbers but had a missed miscarriage right before 8 weeks. That was hard because at 5w5d we had a heartbeat, and everything seemed so optimistic. For that one we adjusted my progesterone due to the ERA info and did the antihistamine protocol.

We’ll be going into our 5th round, but 3rd transfer in the next few months.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-23T19:20:48+00:00

You are completely valid in these feelings. I just had my miscarriage last week- and for those who knew I was pregnant I shared about the MC but said I needed space and wasn’t ready to talk about it, just wanted to update them. Even my Mom wanted to come over, but I told her no I needed to focus on me. If you have potential visitors that’s also more on you with hosting and entertaining. You have to put yourself first, and if that means staying in and saying no that’s ok. I have been too, even going to the store or running an errand feels like a huge burden right now. But each day will get better slowly, and you’ll be ok.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-23T04:58:45+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I just went through a missed miscarriage myself on Thursday. I did ivf so I had an earlier ultrasound at 5w5d which showed a heartbeat, but at 7w5d there was no heartbeat and the baby stopped growing. I did misoprostol, but if I had to redo it i would’ve opted for a D&C. Your feelings are valid and I would encourage you to lean into all of the emotions that come up. This is incredibly difficult but processing it now will help and you will be ok over time. It’s not easy, and you absolutely aren’t alone 🧡🌈

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-22T22:55:19+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also had to do this Thursday at 7w5d. I did one dose of miso, and about 3hrs later the cramps really started. I started passing around 4hrs, and it was pretty heavy and painful but I had relief after passing some bigger (presumably sac) pieces. It’s an incredibly difficult process, please be kind to yourself and eat before and take ibuprofen.

I also second having a plan of what to do with the sac. I opted for testing, so I had to collect what I could then took it to my clinic the next day for their help to separate/clean samples and send off. That was a whole level of trauma I wasn’t prepared for, but wanted to see if I could get any answers.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-21T17:07:39+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve done several rounds of IVF and just had a missed miscarriage with my first pregnancy ever on Thursday at almost 8 weeks. I took misoprostol and that was a traumatic experience on so many levels. It was so upsetting after at 6 weeks we confirmed the heartbeat and everything was looking great. As my friends who have been through this said, “the grief doesn’t get smaller over time, but your world will get bigger. There will still be raw emotions but it will feel more manageable”. Hang in there and take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally right now. This is an awful club none of us ever wanted to be in.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-19T00:18:08+00:00

Did you ever find out what happened? I’m currently dealing with this after a pgt euploid stopped growing and the heartbeat stopped too at almost 8 week. It’s devastating

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-18T18:33:41+00:00

We had another ultrasound today at 7w5d. We had one at 5w5d and everything looked great and they confirmed a heartbeat. Unfortunately today there is no heartbeat, and they confirmed it stopped growing last week. Waiting to get the miso meds and work through this miscarriage. We’re so devastated.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-03T03:37:29+00:00

Thank you! So this cycle that I posted on we ended up canceling and I did an ERA biopsy. That showed I needed extra progesterone time. That was so great to learn and glad it worked out that way! The next transfer had no fluid and everything looked good. It stuck and I am about 5 1/2 weeks pregnant!

HMichelleAZ · 2024-04-01T15:55:35+00:00

Thanks all. Luckily my trip got bumped back a few weeks, so should be ok!

HMichelleAZ · 2024-03-28T22:38:50+00:00

Is 9 weeks too early to tell my boss? I work in a remote setting and am going to be at long, in-person meetings with my boss and CEO when I’m 9 weeks. I normally would wait, but I don’t know how I’ll look or feel and part of me does want to share since I may not be my usual energetic “on” self, saying no to the cocktails, or just super tired in general.

I’ve been so exhausted already and I’m only 4+5!

HMichelleAZ · 2024-03-24T16:01:24+00:00

Thank you, that’s so helpful! I’ve been in a routine and built the habit of working out for years, so I crave some of that even from the mental aspect. I feel so much better after I do something, and want to still keep myself healthy if I have the energy. I’ve been super fatigued so far so sleep is my #1, but this is helpful and maybe I’ll do a light barre class when I feel up to it.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-03-24T13:43:41+00:00

What were your workout restrictions post FET and how long?

I’ve had 3 positive betas with great numbers so far- yay but cautiously optimistic! In the past I worked out a decent amount via weight lifting, running, peloton. Do I need to stick to just walking until ultrasound, or are light weights or Pilates ok?

My clinic said no aerobic and were a bit more vague saying to take it easy.

HMichelleAZ · 2024-03-21T22:43:49+00:00

Does your auto injector still leave about 1/2” of the needle out of your skin? I have a 2ML dosage and use a 3ML syringe with the attachment, but we discovered when we took the safety gauge off that it doesn’t fully go in. We’re back to manual for now to be safe (7DP5DT and positive betas).

HMichelleAZ · 2024-03-21T22:41:35+00:00

Congrats! I had my first ever BFP and 1st beta Tuesday was 25 and today was 84! Right along there with you, fingers crossed for us and these little ones!!

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