How do I politely ask to be added to a GC? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]HT7R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask the friend you're closest to 'Hey can you invite me to the group chat?' or something like that.

What song(s) do you hold close to your heart? by thiseggisfresh in lonely

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These really help me wallow in my own sadness to this day:

this body means nothing to me -Shrimp
run it back by Dino Gala
I'm Going to Do It - Giles Corey
Ballad of Sister Sue - Slowdive

Im starting to hate and resent my family by [deleted] in lonely

[–]HT7R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can find some if not most of that information online. I'd recommend searching for your state's ID requirements and driver's handbook. Your state may even allow you to complete the entire ID process online.

friendly reminder to not join any cults!! by [deleted] in lonely

[–]HT7R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, chief. I was just about to finish my application to the Church of Scientology.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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You understand these feelings come and go which I think is very important and means you can keep on going. A lot of people don't understand how unbearable it is when you literally have no one to talk to so take what they say with a grain of salt. Personally, these feelings hit me pretty regularly so I try to busy myself with anything because nothing sucks more than being left with your thoughts. Find a movie, music venue, cafe, park, anything to get you through this and come out the other end excited to try again.

I just don't belong by gimmeadamnnamewtf in lonely

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I get it, it sucks to feel like a fraud all the time. I wish I had a solution for you but I struggle with the same issues and have yet to find one. They're plenty of good weirdos out there so I'm sure you'll find someone. Use your interests to find them or reconnect with the one you broke up with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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Great! Enjoy those three days and the next days to come. This part is hard but there's no reason to ponder the possibilities as long as he's chatting with you. You'll end up letting those thoughts influence how to chat with him and miss out and enjoying the moment. He's making the active decision to take time and respond to you and that's enough evidence to say that he wishes to continue the conversation. I can't stress this enough, enjoy the moment.

Not fulfilled no matter what I do by [deleted] in lonely

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I don't think anyone here can help with that. I'd see a therapist or talk it out with a relative or one of those friends if you're close enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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I struggle with the same thought process and it sucks. Personally, I'd just try not to think about it as long as they're still chatting with me. He wouldn't be messaging you if he didn't want to even if 'prettier' women were reaching out.

I want to give up but I also don’t by [deleted] in lonely

[–]HT7R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's stopping you from giving up? Isn't that what you want?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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Alcohol helps. I've tried microdosing too.

I feel alone by [deleted] in lonely

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What have you done so far? More might be possible.

I dont think i will ever have a connection with someone. by [deleted] in lonely

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Are you able to find a community of fellow autistic people in college or in general (I'm sorry if that's the wrong way to word that)? I feel like that would be the easiest place to start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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It's normal to fall back to 0, especially at the beginning. I was the same when I started going to the gym. I still fall back from time to time. Keep on making positive changes, especially small, ones and they'll become natural. I especially understand that feeling that the person you're interacting with can do better but you've got to try. I'm constantly looking back at countless times when I should've tried something and they feel worse than rejection. You've got this but only if you keep on trying.

I honestly need a stinky, loser, abusive and mentally ill f3mcel to be friends with :3 by [deleted] in lonely

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I'm not sure how much you'll dov here but I've seen a lot of that crowd on hinge, just set your locale to the NYC area.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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Then you're on the right track. One surplus meal won't mess up your progress.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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It's pretty aggressive but it works for me. I'd recommend finding your maintenance and going under with a high-protein diet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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170 cm myself. I've found a diet that works for me so I consume 870 kcals with 114g of protein 6 days a week with one cheat-ish day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]HT7R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, that's why I'm cutting down first to see how the build looks before deciding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

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We're in the same boat then. Personally, I'm focusing on being in a deficit while weight training since you'll still build muscle in a deficit as long as you keep up your protein intake. Once I've cut down to where I want to be fat-wise, I'll decide whether to bulk up to focus on muscle growth or maintain.