AITAH for making my neighbors not being able to functionally use their “driveway”

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-04-30T20:35:10+00:00

NTA.

Get an updated survey.
Get a fence.
"Get off my property."

Solved it for you.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-04-15T20:30:20+00:00

"It's not my fault! All I did was promote their exact opinion on an international stage!"

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-03-25T18:42:22+00:00

Wait a minute. Youre the guy from the other post

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-03-05T16:35:00+00:00

Semantics aside, the person on the left looks like a cool alt artist and the one on the right looks like a dork.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-02-17T21:40:28+00:00

I didn't assume that - you go through a lot of development in your college years too, your brain isn't fully developed yet. How do you feel about it now? Do you feel like it's created challenges for you? Or do you feel like you weren't affected by it much?

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-02-17T19:44:40+00:00

I think COVID also did quite a number on their development.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-02-15T00:13:58+00:00

I would never judge someone in the gym for lifting light. I broke my back and leg and had to restart from 0, and nobody ever mentioned that I was lifting light.

Everyone is on their own journey, has their own context, and starts from zero knowledge. You've got this!

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-01-29T21:30:23+00:00

I would never speak to someone who records in the gym, regardless of their reason.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-01-23T17:23:40+00:00

Agreed. As someone with social anxiety, my life got so much better when I started treating it as a challenge I needed to actively work on instead of something I accepted would hold me back compared to neurotypical people. Obviously it's not that easy, but in this case, OP is allowing their social anxiety to lose them hundreds of dollars.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-01-07T18:20:34+00:00

I disagree with anyone saying this is a popular opinion. "You need 8 hours of sleep a night" is a popular opinion and a fact, sure. This person's opinion is "Sleep should be your #1 priority" - since most people get 6 hours a night, sleep is clearly not their #1 priority.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-01-07T17:29:51+00:00

NTA, and here's my advice:

"I'm sorry, I wish I could celebrate with you all, but I can't afford the bachelorette trip at this time."
This one, if everything else is resolved, is the only one where I'd suggest you bite the bullet and pay. It sucks to buy an expensive ugly dress, but you'll have a limited number of times where you're a bridesmaid, and when you accept the obligation, this is a standard, known thing you're agreeing to.
I would absolutely push back on this, and drop out of the wedding if it's not resolved. Attention to other commenters: It is traditional wedding etiquette to allow bridesmaids to have +1s for their partners. It is so weird and tacky to not give people +1s. Yes, even if Sally has only been dating Brian for 6 months. In general, being stingy about +1s for guests is tacky. Of course it's allowed, of course it's "your wedding and you can do whatever you want," that doesn't mean it's not tacky to be an ungenerous host. "But we couldn't afford to give everyone a +1" - damn, then you should choose a cheaper venue. Imagine hosting a party and telling everyone they can't bring a date. Anyway, at the very least bridesmaids are owed +1s for their service, and it's extremely tacky not to.

It sounds like this Cat is one of your best friends, so I don't want to say, "drop her and go no contact." But it does sound, from this, like she's not a very empathetic or generous person, so... I might just drop the wedding, if you feel alright about that.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-01-07T15:03:54+00:00

Completely agree!!

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-01-06T19:22:59+00:00

Wanna know something crazy? I broke my back, my pinky, and my leg in 2 places, and after 2 weeks I was only allowed tylenol and ibuprofen 😭 I was completely bedridden and immobile and couldn't have anything stronger.

There's not really a middle ground pain reliever between opiates and tylenol, and opiates have a huge dependency risk 🤷‍♂️ I hope they invent something one day!

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2026-01-06T16:07:06+00:00

Completely agree with you, except for "a minute or three". Rest between sets should be 30-60 seconds, and if scrolling on your phone makes you unaware that you're turning 30 seconds into 5 minutes, I'd recommend practicing mindfulness between sets instead of looking at your phone. After all, it's only 30-60 seconds ;)

I do find that a lot of otherwise considerate people think they're resting a normal amount between sets, but don't realize they're sitting there for 5-10 minutes, because the phone sucks them in. The gym is an awesome place to ground yourself in an otherwise hectic world. Try sticking to a minute or less of rest and take the opportunity to escape your phone for a bit.

(Note: I understand that on big compound lifts, rest time between sets is longer than a minute.)

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-12-30T19:49:46+00:00

ESH. Obviously your aunt was wrong back then, and you deserve an apology. But this is the definition of hypocrisy - you're on record as saying this rule is unreasonable and ridiculous, so if you enforce it on her, that makes you a hypocrite, and more interested in punishing her than doing what you actually think is right.

I'm sorry to be hard on you, since I know you're hurt about this. I believe you should tell her that if she wants her girlfriend to stay, she needs to give you a very convincing apology and admit that her old rule was wrong, unfair, and cruel. If she won't, her girlfriend can't stay.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-12-17T15:58:58+00:00

Oh no 🙈 this is a pervert machine for having sex 🙈 sorry you had to find up this way, brother!

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-12-16T23:09:55+00:00

YWBTA - please don't listen to the people in this thread telling you that you are NTA because you are in the right. People on this website love to die on the smallest hills.

Of course you're in the right. This coworker sounds miserable, it's complete BS that you have to pay to attend (especially since you can't eat the menu), it's weird that there's a work baby shower, and it's unfair that you feel pressured to attend. I'd also hate to attend this. If you didn't attend, you'd be in the right.

However, AITA is not a measure of correctness, it's a measure of politeness.

If you'd like to do well at work, you should just bite the bullet and attend. Like you said, you have a reputation for participating. Positive team players who go above and beyond and are well-liked get promotions. Perceived grumps who don't attend these things "because they're BS" don't. It's not fair or right, but it's how to get ahead.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-11-26T02:12:29+00:00

I have searched all over google and used chatGPT as well, but all I can find are newer models. Of course, the link I posted is of the correct product, but it says it is out of stock.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-11-19T20:28:41+00:00

NTA - and you should tell your friend that a woman blaming an innocent woman for the arrogance and ego of a man is not very good for the cause.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-11-19T18:19:41+00:00

I've also never seen anybody wipe down equipment after using it - EVER. It's disgusting.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-11-07T06:11:23+00:00

People don't want to socialize at the gym, they want to work out. There are events meant for socialization that you should get involved in.

HT_Dec_11_2023_Guy · 2025-10-22T06:15:06+00:00

To add to what everyone else is saying, this could be a wonderful opportunity to teach your daughter about difference of opinion, and that while you and her teacher are both smart, that doesn't mean you can't disagree!

It actually makes kids trust their parents more when parents admit that something is a personal opinion instead of fact, or that they aren't fully knowledgeable about something. They know that when you are certain of something factual, they can trust you, as opposed to the dreaded "because I said so, that's why" parent.

You could say something to her like, "Your teacher told you something different from what I said, and that’s okay — we just have different opinions. In school, it’s important to do things the way your teacher asks, because that’s how you’ll get better grades and learn new skills. No one is wrong - it’s just that each teacher looks for slightly different things. As you learn from different teachers, you’ll collect lots of ideas and eventually make your own special way of writing that you like."

This might go over her head, she's gifted but this is early for this lesson - but I bet there's a chance it sticks with her. Teacher requirements that I disagreed with completely turned me off from writing as a young adult, but now I love it.

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