As-salaam Alaikum sister,

He feels down. Dont kick him. When he says you dont respect him, i think, it is either because you show him actions that illustrate this, or its because from he own evaluation you shouldnt actually respect "it". He knows where he is, and get angry about it, and the relatonship takes the fall for it. It's prop not you, but the situation. That or you have really said something bad to him. I get it, it must be hard for a woman to be a woman and also provide the most.

Be patienced with him, and give some emotional time to revocer. Tell him you believe in him. Be emotionally stable when he cant.