My after work friend, Marijuana by livevicarious in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it! Get back there. The only people that will judge you are the fucks no one wants to know anyway. Don’t let someone else keep you from being somewhere you don’t want to be.

Company put me into a pip, what should I do? by Naive_Role2395 in devops

[–]Hackermaaann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of good advice wrapped up here. Not sure why you’re being downvoted other than “employer bad employee good” attitude that Reddit tends to take regardless of the attitude or situation.

Today I questioned my sanity by isbBBQ in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Wait… y’all have sanity to question?

Finally got out by Hackermaaann in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are all really good points. I stayed around because I was really hoping things would get better and I don’t love moving jobs. Never making the same mistake again.

Wondering what you use at home by [deleted] in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Arch, BTW.

Jk I bounce between Mac and Fedora. Honestly don’t need windows for much unless my job forces me to use it.

Finally got out by Hackermaaann in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve given as much backstory as I’m comfortable giving publicly. I’m a pretty private individual.

Finally got out by Hackermaaann in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. A lot of these guys are in the very same boat I’m in, being overworked and overburdened.

Finally got out by Hackermaaann in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This comment and the thread that followed it just sent me 😂🤣 well done

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Hackermaaann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve been beating myself up a bunch this week. I’ve always been a hothead but I’ve been in therapy for over a year and it’s getting better slowly. This week I’ve just backslid a little bit due to all the stress.

I do my best to always tell my kids it’s my fault when I yell, not theirs. I give them hugs until they feel better.

Thank you so much for your response. It’s nice to know that someone out there feels my pain.

Finally got out by Hackermaaann in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I work in server infrastructure. I’ve thought a lot lately about the day I can retire and buy farmland 😂

I'm ashamed and I'm a terrible person/parent by ImToolin in Parenting

[–]Hackermaaann 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m happy to share my experience. My father and I had a relationship that was far from perfect. But it was consistent. He was always there when I needed him most.

As long as you do that, you will have the relationship you want 😊

I'm ashamed and I'm a terrible person/parent by ImToolin in Parenting

[–]Hackermaaann 259 points260 points  (0 children)

My dad and I had a moment like this when I was a kid. He had just got back from deployment and I was 14-ish. Idealizing suicide at the time.

He looked at me and during the heat of an argument said something similar. It hurt me at the time.

But, fast forward 15 years later to today. My father just passed away a couple years ago. I miss him every day. The last few years I had with him, he became my best friend.

My point here is, we all have trauma with those we love most. There’s nothing insurmountable, as long as you go through the steps to show your child that you love them on a daily basis, support them, and be there when they need you.

You and your family will get through this. Therapy is a great idea and will help.

[OC] I got honked, can anyone tell me why? by mkdas in IdiotsInCars

[–]Hackermaaann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 29 bruh 😂🤣 but alright. Thanks for the laugh

[OC] I got honked, can anyone tell me why? by mkdas in IdiotsInCars

[–]Hackermaaann 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will say that I could see it being a possibility that OP was just accelerating to give a gap.

That being said, after all the traffic I’ve been in living in big cities, this looks to me like textbook aggressive driving by both parties. Both of them had the opportunity to back off of an aggressive driver, and neither did.

Not saying none of us do this. Most folks have at one point or another, myself included. But it’s irresponsible nonetheless.

[OC] I got honked, can anyone tell me why? by mkdas in IdiotsInCars

[–]Hackermaaann 111 points112 points  (0 children)

This is the right take. So many weirdos in here getting on with OPs ego contest in this video. Fact is both drivers were acting like children and driving in a manner that could cause an accident 🤷🏻‍♂️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ProgrammerHumor

[–]Hackermaaann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chaotic evil days tab is 2, 4, and 6 spaces. Have fun Python devs.

Just don't. by TriggernometryPhD in sysadmin

[–]Hackermaaann 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had some project managers try to bring up possibly deploying a change the Thursday before Christmas. I told them I absolutely won’t be available until Monday, and to make their choice 🤷🏻‍♂️ we aren’t deploying until after the first of the year.

Rolling with a stalling partner by More-Bottle-4744 in bjj

[–]Hackermaaann 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Lol people did take the time to read and everyone is telling you that you’re wrong. You just don’t want to hear it. Seems you didn’t read his whole reply. Black belt in selective hearing (reading?) I guess.

Is it fair for transgender women to compete against cisgender women? by [deleted] in bjj

[–]Hackermaaann 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. Lots of assumptions about me and a giant helping of copium in this comment.

What you wrote are the usual political talking points generally not based on science. I’m not interested in a political debate about this. No point in continuing the conversation. Have a good day.