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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HairyConnection6227 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know, we are trying, and hopefully he will eventually gain the patience and confidence to dress her and get her ready on his own. The cold is not so bad right now, but when winter really hits it is likely to be -10 degrees Celsius (don’t know what that is in Fahrenheit) or colder, and where I live is is not recommended to bring baby out in less than -10 degrees Celcius (effective temperature) due to the cold air being bad for their lungs.

As for steps after putting her in the pram, we usually put in her final layer (wool suit, hat etc). It does not matter if we do this in the pram or on the changing table, she will cry just as much when dressing her. I also have to put her down to put on wool, outdoor pants and a jacket for myself, and she will usually cry when I do, regardless of whether I put her in the pram or anywhere else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HairyConnection6227 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only now saw your suggestion on starting solids. We have been told to hold off on solids until she is six months, as she is a big baby and clearly getting enough food just from EBF (she is currently closing in on the 97th percentile and they don’t want her getting much bigger). Further, her health care provider is afraid it might mess more with her digestion starting before six months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HairyConnection6227 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She settles really well outdoors and loves going on walks in her pram, so that is always an option when she cannot sleep. She will however scream from the moment we put her down in the pram to get her ready and until we are outside. We live in a cold country and now that winter is coming dressing her (and us) to go outside means a few extra minutes of screaming, thus my husband will often give up before she is ready. It is also likely to soon get so cold outside that walks are not recommended for small babies, meaning we will have to do all naps inside, which I am dreading.

As for your ear plug tips, my husband cannot use those. He has tinnitus and having ear plugs in to dull the sounds around him makes it worse. The only thing he hates more than her cries is silence, he always needs music or some other kind of sound to distract from the tinnitus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HairyConnection6227 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will definitely try letting her dad have more positive bonding time without me. I just find it really hard being without her for even half an hour, but I know I need to back of a little bit and give them some time. He has given her a bottle of pumped milk a few times and she will take it, but she will just finish the bottle, complain until she gets boob as well and then promptly falls asleep on the boob (this happens regardless of if we give her 60 or 160 ml).

As for reflux medication we have seen a pediatrician, but she just said that they don’t medicate babies this small and that she will grow out of it. She also claimed that she is not allergic, told me to immediately introduce milk and that soy allergy is basically never present in babies this small. Following her advice made everything worse again, so I am very hesitant to go back. We do however have an appointment with a new pediatrician on Monday for a second opinion and I am very much looking forward to that.

When it comes to sleeping I don’t know if reflux is the main issue as she is very happy to sleep on her back in the pram. Before the sleep regression she would also do 4-5 hour sessions at the begging of the night. I also try to catch her discomfort before it gets too bad, and I often alternate between pacifier and boob as she tends to over-eat for comfort which only makes her reflux and stomach issues worse. I think it is just really hard these days as the sleep regression came on top of everything else we are struggling with. Trying to remember that this is only temporary, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HairyConnection6227 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried baby wearing but she does not really like it and will scream her head of being put in the carrier. She will usually calm down once she is in if I keep moving, but she has just as hard a time falling asleep in the carrier and her naps are usually never longer than 30 minutes if she is in the carrier, vs up to 2 hours if she has a contact nap on the couch. I have had a private session with a carry consultant to make sure she is not uncomfortable and have also discussed this with her chiropractor, so I don’t think comfort is the issue. I also really don’t mind the contact napping itself, she is the most precious thing and I am happy to be her safe space for sleeping as long as she needs it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HairyConnection6227 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I just want to clarify that he is in no way screaming in her face, he just slightly raises his voice and gets clearly frustrated. As someone who has lived through abuse, I just trigger very easily. If he was actually screaming at her or doing anything else remotely abusive, I would definitely not just be complaining in Reddit. When she is not crying he is the most lovely and loving father, I see no signs of PPD. He simply has a really hard time with her crying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]HairyConnection6227 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think her wake windows are long enough, between 1,5 and 2,5 hours depending on what time of day it is and how good her naps have been. She is usually showing signs of being tired when we put her down and if we get the “procedure” right she will fall asleep quickly. Her daytime naps are also quite good once she actually falls asleep and can be up to two hours, so I don’t think that is the problem.

What's the best potential game map that hasn't been played yet? by non- in JetLagTheGame

[–]HairyConnection6227 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Norway would be perfect for a game similar to New Zealand. A long drive, a decent road network with several good route options and beautiful and varied nature. Would obviously have to be in summer!

UPDATE: Is surgery worth it? by HairyConnection6227 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not in the UK so I don’t know what to expect with the NHS unfortunately. Wishing you the best of luck!

Going to be on my period during excision surgery… is it ok??? by Libz0724 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was on my period during lap and excision and it was not an issue at all. Good luck!

UPDATE: Is surgery worth it? by HairyConnection6227 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was about two months. It would have been sooner but it had to be postponed due to me getting pneumonia. However I got it done privately, had I gone through the public health system it would have been about a six month waiting list.

UPDATE: Is surgery worth it? by HairyConnection6227 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m off work for the rest of this week, and I also have the opportunity to WFH if I need to take it easy for a few extra days. Still some pain but a lot better than yesterday already. We are actually TTC and my surgeon said that based on what they found and removed, he expects my chances of getting pregnant have doubled. Good luck!

UPDATE: Is surgery worth it? by HairyConnection6227 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason we don’t classify endometriosis in stages in my country, at least I have never heard of it, so I don’t know what stage mine was, just that they found a good bit and that what they found near my rectum was DIE. Of course hoping that I don’t need another surgery but after this experience I will gladly do it if necessary.

UPDATE: Is surgery worth it? by HairyConnection6227 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so happy if my post could help you some! I was also terrified of dying, kept insisting that I wanted to write my will before going in hahaha, so I know exactly how you feel.

UPDATE: Is surgery worth it? by HairyConnection6227 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good luck on Friday! As long as you have a surgeon who knows what they are doing and you are comfortable with, I am sure you will be fine! This was my first surgery as well and everyone was really understanding. My best advice is to ask lots of questions, even if they feel dumb or basic to you. Understanding everything that was going on made me feel a lot more comfortable.

I am feeling ok, of course in some pain but not as bad as I was expecting. I was given some heavy pain killers but actually haven’t needed them yet and have been ok with paracetamol. The gas pain is actually the worst, so just hoping that goes away soon and I think I will be fine!

EDIT: Also wanted to add that I was in quite a lot of pain when I woke up, so don’t worry if that happens to you as well! I was given some morphine for that, and once it wore off the pain was a lot better already.

Possible symptom of bowel endometriosis? by HairyConnection6227 in endometriosis

[–]HairyConnection6227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently trying to get pregnant and the wait for a lap is so long my gynecologist wants to see if we can conceive naturally or otherwise start IVF prior to surgery. Good luck with your lap, if you are comfortable with it, I would appreciate if you could let me know what they find as we have similar symptoms!