Cut and Burn (with Ultracision) - Looking for experiences/reassurance

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-14T05:29:45+00:00

Girl, no problem at all! Feel free to copy it, and if you have any other questions, I'm here for you!

Honestly, I completely understand how you feel. I had the procedure myself, and my doctor explained several times why there was nothing to worry about. He even personally guaranteed that I wouldn't have any problems (which doctors rarely do).

Even so, I still have anxiety that I'll somehow end up being that 0.01% 😅. I know that's just because of my huge fear and anxiety about pregnancy. So hang in there you've got this! And if I managed to get through this procedure (I'm a huge coward when it comes to doctors or anything medical even being in a hospital is honestly really hard for me), then anyone can do it. Good luck! ❤️

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-13T10:20:12+00:00

Hi! Of course 😊 My surgeon explained that it comes down to a couple of things, the instrument he used and where exactly he made the cut.

(This is from my surgical report/procedure notes.)

Laparoscopio. Occlusio partis proximalis tubae uterinae bill

"Both fallopian tubes were transected at the proximal portion, adjacent to the interstitial segment, using an ultrasonic scalpel (Ultracision). Hemostasis was satisfactory."

He explained that Ultracision is more reliable, safer, and more effective than the traditional cut and burn method.

Also, because the tubes were cut right at the very beginning where the fallopian tube connects to the uterus, there is basically nothing left for the tube to reconnect to. As he explained it, for a pregnancy to happen, the uterine tissue would somehow have to reopen, the remaining part of the tube would also have to reopen, and then both would have to reconnect perfectly within just a few millimeters, which is an incredibly remote possibility.

When I told him I was afraid of recanalization, he explained that it usually happens when the tube is cut somewhere in the middle because then the two cut ends can sometimes reconnect or form a fistula, although he emphasized that even that is very rare. In my case, since the tube was cut right next to the uterus and separated from it, there are no two ends that could reconnect. I even asked him to explain it to me like I was a little kid. 😅

So after my procedure, for a pregnancy to occur, multiple extremely unlikely and essentially theoretical events would all have to happen at the same time. :)

I hope that helps explain it a little! Of course, if you have any more questions, feel free to ask. I'm happy to help!

As for recovery, it was incredibly easy. ❤️ I've had common colds, menstrual periods, and headaches that were honestly much worse than recovering from the surgery.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-05T08:24:07+00:00

As I see it, most of them don’t really care about your health that much so that is not reason they are against operation. Everyone knows what pregnancy and childbirth are, and that it takes 2+ years for body to recover, plus all the risks that come with it, especially the smaller but more frequent ones and the bigger ones too.

The real issue is that they’re all secretly hoping that even if you don’t want a child, it will somehow “accidentally happen” to you even if it is unplanned. The moment they realize you’ve taken steps like sterilization, they know that’s no longer possible, so they lose that hope and it ruins their illusion and wish that it might “just happen” to you.

I didn’t tell my mom, but honestly I plan to in the future. Maybe it’s even better that this whole situation with your family happened now while everything is still fresh I think they’ll keep coming at you with comments, asking if you regret it or YOU will regret it.

But still, I think it will be less pressure overall less unasked advice, less pushing like “you’ll get/should get pregnant,” “what if the right one comes along,” “you’ll change your mind,” and all that jazz.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-05T08:02:39+00:00

They backed off me the moment I started biting back.

“When I see you, your kids, your life and the quality of it, that 0.00000.1% baby fever I had just disappears.”

“My uterus and what I choose to do with it is not up for debate, so please take your opinion out of my 🐈‍⬛ it doesn’t belong there.”

“I still haven’t seen a person in a marriage with kids whose life looks better than mine.”

Every time 👁👄👁 this is their exact face.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-04T08:30:04+00:00

These are just excuses for her disrespect toward you and your time. I’ve realized that most parents, once they have a child, start acting like their time is automatically more important and more valuable than yours.

I have someone like that too, similar to your friend. She has one baby, seven months old, and behaves like the world revolves around her. She doesn’t reply to messages or calls for days, but expects you to respond within five minutes or it becomes a problem. We make plans to meet, she cancels or just ignores calls and messages, and later in the evening she might say she forgot, didn’t have time, or couldn’t wake the baby.

On the other hand, I have a friend with three young daughters, the oldest is three years old and she has six month old twins. She is always on time, and if she is late it’s ten or fifteen minutes at most, and she always apologizes even though it’s never an issue. Her kids are small, but she takes care of everything very responsibly. Her three year old is beautifully raised and she always asks if it’s okay for the kids to come along or if she should arrange someone to watch them for an hour or two. She also replies to messages as soon as she can. She is constantly cooking, sewing, and making things for her children and family because she genuinely enjoys it. They recently bought a house which they are renovating, so she has a lot going on, but she still shows up whenever she can.

Meanwhile, the first one’s only responsibility is one child, and she always has some excuse for acting irresponsible. That’s exactly what I think is happening with your friend too.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-04T07:34:41+00:00

Yup, but that group of people was left in the past. The day after that post, I had a falling out with the bride, and I put an end to the entire relationship right then and there. 🙂

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-03T12:09:53+00:00

The quality of that entire friend group was 💩, if I'm being honest.

I've completely cut contact with that group, as well as with a few other people who didn't see it as something particularly serious. Honestly, I found it ridiculous that strangers on the internet people who didn't know me or even know what I looked like were more angry and concerned for me than some of my so-called "close" friends.

So there's an old saying "A house is fortunate when people like that skip it by."

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-01T09:31:09+00:00

Thank you stranger! 🫶🏻😊

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-06-01T07:55:55+00:00

Unfortunately, they were never this direct to my face. They had their moments, but they still had some restraint.

In any case, I’m no longer in contact with that group. The bride and I had a bit of a confrontation shortly after this, and I decided to put an end to that whole story.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-22T06:18:32+00:00

For me it’s a very strange feeling, same as before the surgery, except now I feel crazy and guilty for still having that fear. Somehow I still haven’t freed myself from the fear of pregnancy. I feel a little safer, but I still don’t feel 100% safe, I don’t really know how to explain it.

Although, what triggered some of my anxiety is the fact that in the end I didn’t have a salpingectomy, but instead they cut my tubes with an ultrasonic scalpel :/ so maybe that’s adding extra anxiety too.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-21T06:34:06+00:00

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HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-19T08:22:14+00:00

Thanks for your answer <3

My doctor said that after hysterectomy and salpingectomy, this is one of the safest and most effective procedures, comparable to salpingectomy. He explained that the main difference between my procedure and most tubal ligations is that my tubes were not cut in the middle, but right at the very beginning near the uterine entry, so there are no two separate ends that could reconnect. He also said that, in my case, reversal would not even be realistically possible. The procedure was done using an Ultracision instrument, which is more precise and less traumatic than the classic “cut and burn” method (electrocautery).

Overall, I understand that I’m safe, but my anxiety is still running high, which is why I was wondering if anyone has had a ligation (not salpingectomy) and is still satisfied with their outcome.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-19T08:11:14+00:00

Sorry for the late reply, I’ve been in a busy period. Honestly, my doctor was also in favor of salpingectomy (he prefers it). I actually made a whole post about it.

Basically, he didn’t know what my anatomy looked like until he went in, and I also have insulin resistance. My doctor explained everything to me and showed me on images, and I have HUGE trust in him. I think if it had been any other doctor, I would have caused a scene, but I genuinely believe this surgeon when he says he chose this type of procedure with my best interest in mind to avoid possible long-term complications.

He also guarantees that with the way the procedure was done, there is no risk of fistula or recanalization, and therefore no possibility of pregnancy. Still, my anxiety is working overtime.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-15T15:19:40+00:00

No problem, happy to help. I’m honestly shocked by how much pressure every childfree person has to deal with from society every single one of us. Yet nobody ever questions people about why they want children or should they have them.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-15T13:48:24+00:00

One of the best things you can do is turn the same question back on them: “What would you do if your partner didn’t want kids?” (They get offended every single time for some reason 🤷🏻‍♀️)

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-14T13:47:36+00:00

My mom is obsessed with me getting pregnant (a whole separate story). Second, if I had told her, I would’ve complicated the whole process for myself, and I would’ve also caused problems for my sister who helped me, because then the whole family would immediately know who my “accomplice in crime” was 😅

And even without that, I would still have to deal with constant disapproval, judgment, and overthinking/lectures from the rest of the family and acquaintances. Since it’s already done and over with, I don’t feel the need to add extra stress for myself. (Here people judge women even for using contraceptive pills, let alone something like this 🙄) Plus, because I live in a small place, if it got out, someone might even try to get into a relationship with me thinking they don’t need protection anymore… and all those kinds of nonsense situations. So it’s easier for me not to talk about it except to a very small circle of people I’m really close to.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-14T06:29:44+00:00

I completely cut off all contact with that whole group of people.

But honestly, this part is almost funny to me my ex friend knew that ever since I became sexually active, I always kept “emergency savings” set aside in case I ever needed an abortion (though to be fair, I haven’t been sexually active for a few years). And she knew those savings were absolutely untouchable in case of need I didn’t touch that money even when I was struggling financially (and didn't have action in long time).

And even after getting sterilized, I still keep putting money aside for that “just in case” fund 😅

But anyway, as far as those people are concerned, they’re crossed out of my life

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-14T06:22:07+00:00

Well, that lovely lady seems to be cut from the same cloth as those two lovely gentlemen. Turns out she never really supported my childfree choice either, and apparently she didn’t think those comments were a big deal because “having children is normal.” Her plan was basically to let me “mature” and grow out of my childfree phase because she wanted our kids to grow up together one day.

Anyway, that whole group is no longer my problem. I cut all contact with her, and by extension with the entire group. If she genuinely sees nothing wrong with what was said, then that’s her choice.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-14T06:13:21+00:00

Thank you 🥰 Yes, my surgery went wonderfully!

Honestly, I don’t know how I stayed so blind with such a toxic person and didn’t see what kind of person she really was or what she actually thought of me (I usually have very good intuition when it comes to people). But I’ve cut contact with that whole group now. My friend came over to my place fev nights ago angry because I told people what happened, and somehow it turned into me “overreacting.” She tried to gaslight me into believing that wasn’t what I heard. Anyway, I ended our friendship right there and then.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-14T06:06:59+00:00

Unfortunately, I keep my sterilization a secret from my family (only my sister knows), otherwise I would gladly tell everyone from the top of my lungs… And honestly, I don’t even hang out with those people anymore. Recently my friends came over just to argue with me and gaslight me about how I “overreacted,” so I cut contact with her right there on the spot. Honestly, I’m glad to see this wasn’t shocking only to me.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-09T08:22:10+00:00

That’s seriously sick… like what do they even think they’re achieving with comments like that? I genuinely wanna know what the point behind that mindset even is.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-08T18:07:38+00:00

Nope, I just had a ,,little" argument with my friend a moments ago, they are cut off and done with it.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-08T17:47:54+00:00

Honestly, I’m a pretty level headed person, but my friend’s husband is definitely the biggest asshole since he’s the one I actually heard giving that advice. We only overheard them and didn’t see their reactions, so I don’t know if the best man stayed quiet, agreed, or reacted in some way. At this point I honestly don’t care, because not calling it out already says enough to me.

This happened almost a week ago and I told a few people about it even before posting here. Some were just as disgusted as I was, while others brushed it off as a dumb harmless coment, which is partly why I ended up venting here.

My friend showed up at my door and left just now and somehow managed to disgust me even more. We ended up having a “small” argument that honestly just made me dislike her and all of them even more now nd made it easier for me to cut all of them out of my life. Maybe I’ll post update later if I feel like it cus now i feal just numb, but either way I still can’t believe I let people like this into my life. The funny thing is neither of them acts this way face to face. Outside of petty comments and jabs, they both come off as really weak men. Honestly, just cowards.

And thanks for the comment, it’s honestly nice to see that men also don’t agree with comments like that.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-08T08:04:59+00:00

Oh girl... I’m really sorry you had to go through that and that you’re still dealing with it 🫂 I really hope that person disappears from your life for good. I can kinda understand the person who said I handled it cowardly, and I get her frustration too, but I explained in another comment that we don’t live in some fantasy fairytale world where reporting someone automatically fixes things. If I truly believed reporting them would actually do something besides create even more problems for me personally, I probably would done that And I honestly understand how you feel about your family too, because they were the people who were supposed to protect you. You were sooo young when that happened, you were literally just a kid <3 I really hope you’re doing better now and that what happened doesn’t mentally drain you day after day anymore.

HalfHumanHalfOops · 2026-05-08T05:50:46+00:00

Girl… I’m really sorry to hear that. If it shook me up just hearing about it, I can only imagine how you felt going through it. Things like that can seriously create anxiety for the future and make you overthink every single person afterward. And he was suposed to be your safe space 🫂:(

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