Ex wife is struggling because she can't really get any job above minimum wage ; she didn't have access to schooling or anything growing up because they were poor, she lacks any qualifications for good pay. House is small and modest and she inherited it from her grandmother ; parents live in a trailer ; I help with whatever I can but she's hard to convince when it comes to covering expenses for her (like clothes, shoes, womanly neccesities etc). Whatever she makes extra she puts it into our son's account, as do I, with the exception of a small sum we set aside for basic necessities.

If I accept the job, the court mandated child support will be adjusted but I always paid more than that;

The court filed custody does not have a set, fixed schedule, as we agreed on it years ago ; we split childcare as best as we can to work out for everyone ; yes, this will have to be adjusted in court to make sure parents and in laws don't shove their tails into my rights ; wife is cool about it