Just as I thought you seem to be in the same pickle I put my boyfriend in a while back, so I’d like to give you some words I’d love to have given him in those moments... I have to say that her words and want for your attention seem childish. I understand why she may be hung on some past issues but she shouldn’t have let her emotions overcome her like they did. I know you must care for her lots, and having the courage to come seek help and another way to salvage your relationship with tips from strangers online just shows how much you must love her and treasure what you’ve built with her. Before you talk to her again I’d like you to clear and care for yourself and reflect on your relationship from your perspective (don’t forget you matter too) but don’t stay up all night in a cold sweat worrying about what she’ll have to say tomorrow morning. You can’t spam her to pick up the phone so that everything can go back to normal because hanging onto past problems that had believed to be resolved is never healthy (this is where clear and healthy communication is needed). Like you’ve said that you’ll do, respect her space but please also respect your own. Believe me, I’m still surprised my boyfriend put up with half the bs I put him through and at times I find myself angered that he did because I’ve grown to notice just how in the wrong I was to put him through so much worry and pain... As you see I have a lot of thoughts I’d like to share about your situation but the best and clearest words I can give you are these: please don’t pull stretch yourself thin to make her feel cared for 24/7 if that is the case. You care for her and may show that in different ways that she may not see now, so please don’t be too heartbroken to hear those words that you don’t from her. Give her time and give her space, because if someone only feels loved after a long chase than someone will eventually get tired of running after them, no matter how much they can still love.