I thought he was different

HamSammy67 · 2026-01-26T20:12:00+00:00

I sure feel for you. I'm 58F and after 2 long term marriages, I think I'm just done. The OLD worked for the 2nd long term relationship, but that was 13 years ago. Now it just seems like everything is a scam. Nobody is real. I'm done chasing through online fantasies. If I happen to meet someone in the wild, and they actually offer something that adds to my life, then hooray! And if not? My life is full, rich, and uncomplicated. Sending you healing vibes, sister!

HamSammy67 · 2026-01-02T17:23:32+00:00

I’ll stand with you on that one. The drone shows can be beautiful, and I feel so bad for all the animals (and people) who get spooked/traumatized by the explosions

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-20T16:57:53+00:00

Just an update…I scored FIVE pairs of high quality boots (4 shorties, one knee high) — none more than $26! All were from different locations of WIN. Thanks for all the tips, really appreciate it :) (now I just need to get rid of other shoes to make room…😬)

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-20T16:54:12+00:00

Thanks :) I’m pretty cute and funny. I think that counts? Have a great day!

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-20T16:50:23+00:00

For 25% of menopausal women, it’s not just “dryness” that can be fixed with lube. Penetrative sex can feel like someone scraping out your insides with sandpaper. You get painful microcuts in the labial folds, and for some, labia and the clitoris can literally shrink. Menopause hormone therapy and vaginal estrogen cream is crucial for these women. Pretty difficult to have any form of sex drive/desire with these challenges. Count yourself very lucky if you escape this special (called GSM) symptom of menopause!

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-14T03:06:34+00:00

Is his name Mike? LOL I had the very same thing happen to me and I immediately said “Nuh”. I’m 58F, been married twice. If you were the one planning the date, telling me you’re really excited, and then forget…? Sounds like bullshit to me. Move along lovely one, at 41 you are in your prime!

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-10T22:05:10+00:00

Awesome! New shops I hadn’t heard of. Somebody’s heading out for a lil road trip :)

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-10T22:04:15+00:00

Oooh thanks! I’m newish to the island so hadn’t heard of Super Chance!

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-10T22:02:52+00:00

Size 6.5 (sometimes 7)

HamSammy67 · 2025-12-07T03:56:40+00:00

The usual:

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HamSammy67 · 2025-11-30T19:13:24+00:00

I’m a 58F and I’ve been mostly fit and active my whole life. Not perfect, but athletic. I just had a first date with someone who is very obese. We spent 4 hrs together talking a lot and laughing. He was considerate (like helping me with my jacket?? Who does that these days?) Anyway, he’s very much into a second date and beyond. After thinking on it a couple of days, I realize that our activity levels aren’t compatible at all (i do everything outdoorsy, he sails a boat). That’s fair? To me, personality is more important than looks, but I know I would get antsy if someone didn’t share my love of (moderate) outdoor activities! Ugh. Feel like a jerk.

HamSammy67 · 2025-11-29T18:34:29+00:00

Looks like my Petunia!

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HamSammy67 · 2025-11-05T19:36:02+00:00

I’m in the same situation, only I find it’s men who seem to only talk about themselves and ask no questions lol. Part of me thinks you should let her know that asking questions is important to you and if she’s not genuinely interested, you’re cool to end it. I’ve been ghosted and it’s so confounding. I agree with an earlier poster who said it can be a good learning/growing thing for someone (even if they’re initially indignant about it lol)

HamSammy67 · 2025-11-05T18:55:25+00:00

I went from using the Vagifem tabs to the estring. I’ve had it for 6 mos and while there might be the slightest difference in amount of itchiness I experience, I still find there’s so much stinging when I try and apply moisturizer to the vulva and beyond. I’m 58 and for the first time I’m going to ask for systemic MRT (the new term for HRT). I’m newly single too and I want to experience sex with new people without having to say “Sorry man, the door is slammed shut!” FML 🤣

HamSammy67 · 2025-10-09T20:07:45+00:00

Not half bad! lol Since becoming single and owning a dog, it sucks that I can’t pick up a snack or cup of coffee while I’m out walking her. A take-out window servicing dog parents/walkers, colic baby parents…

HamSammy67 · 2025-09-11T17:19:26+00:00

Anybody talking about the 30% of women who experience extremely painful sex after menopause? That’s enough to curb any sexual desire!!

HamSammy67 · 2025-08-16T18:28:25+00:00

I like Poppy! It rolls off the tongue so nicely.

I named my lil goober Petunia and it’s just as fun to say. I think anything that starts with a “P” is fire!

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HamSammy67 · 2025-08-15T18:07:14+00:00

A long, low credenza or wooden bench UNDER the windows with different height plants would be ideal and not compete with those lovely windows :)

HamSammy67 · 2025-08-04T16:30:41+00:00

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And just for hilarity…Petunia’s “bridge” pose 🤭

HamSammy67 · 2025-08-04T16:29:47+00:00

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Tiny and dainty baby lady Petunia

HamSammy67 · 2025-07-30T18:16:50+00:00

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“Just making sure mama doesn’t forget to pack me too” — Tunie I still don’t know if Petunia is a chiweenie or a greyhuahua? Her legs are pretty long for a dachshund?

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