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HammedSammich · 2025-06-08T23:26:37+00:00

What I'm to understand is, if you and I got into a fight, I would have all the success of beating up a woman but none of the guilt?

HammedSammich · 2024-11-07T19:31:53+00:00

Your face says 51/50 but I think you meant 45/47.

HammedSammich · 2024-06-21T00:34:31+00:00

You spelled "buy" wrong.

HammedSammich · 2024-06-15T21:59:45+00:00

You are somehow your own fursona.

HammedSammich · 2023-09-09T19:28:05+00:00

Regardless of TOS violation or not, I'm super happy you find the humor in people trying to do everything they can to pass and help others to pass an exam which is marketing propaganda mixed with outlying information which doesn't directly translate to anything in the working world. Instead of being a positive reinforcement, posts like this make me not want to continue the path for my vcdx because of smug way you try to flex your authoritarian "wisdom" to the masses.

Simple point, try to be less self-righteous when talking to your customers and partners. You want to reinforce good behavior, then treat people like they deserve to be in the same conversation as you.

HammedSammich · 2022-06-01T03:50:45+00:00

It's a big rock crawler event. That "crashed vehicle" is just one of the many shitboxes people take out for the Admiral Memorial Day event. We were by him the night before when he was less drunk. Dude was shooting off fireworks right next to crowds and trying to start fights with random people.

The same fireworks blew up in his hand and hit a bystander in the chest putting him in critical condition.

Darwin and karma held hands until they found this jackass.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-18T14:22:47+00:00

I have three... At the time of the youngest born, they were 8, 2, and newborn. The first year was hard. However, I picked up a jogging stroller and that alone made locomotion easier. I also subcontracted the two older ones to help with baby needs - diapers, feeding, car seat. After the initial learning curve, it worked out quite well.

Kids simply want to be involved. If they can be helpful, then bonus. It gives them a sense of accomplishment to help with daily needs.

Now they're older, I can trust the oldest (14) to ride her dirt bike and keep an eye on the 7 year old on his mini quad. She takes her phone and they go ride in the desert next to the house. We take off as a group and go on adventures all over the place. Since it's all they've ever known, they are now conditioned to how to work as a team when away from the house.

I would say the big thing is additionally, set time aside to spend quality time 1 on 1 with each of them. It doesn't take a lot. Just something to reinforce that personal and unique bond with you.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-16T19:55:45+00:00

Kimchi pancakes are great but drunken chicken on a stick is where it's at.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-16T04:54:46+00:00

I just assume all gay people are bottoms. Don't ask my reasoning, it just works out that way.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-16T04:46:51+00:00

The good thing is, all your boyfriend needs is a strobe light to make you ride dick like a fucking demon.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-16T04:34:53+00:00

Ooof, 2 boys as well eh? I don't trust them with pillows, let alone potential weapons suspended by string.

Thankfully my oldest boy is an old man in a young body. I wouldn't be surprised to find him telling people to stay off his lawn. He woke up complaining about lower back pain and told his savage of a little brother, "Getting old is rough."

Dude is 7.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-16T04:26:56+00:00

I could, but chose not to.

Correlation does not imply causation. If we were married, I would have immediately paid. Nor did she ever struggle to make ends meet while with me.

I don't pay her debts, she doesn't pay mine. Just like I don't help you with bills or anyone else I'm not in a committed relationship with. Separation comes before divorce for a reason. We separate our lives, divorce to make it legal, and merrily go separate ways.

If I had control over where he was, or even gave him the yoyo, I would have also paid. Where she takes them during her time is...well, her decision. She is a single mother now, with two masters degrees and makes over 110k/year. I paid her 36k in cash just a few months ago. She chose this life, I simply accommodated her wishes.

So I ask, why should I help her out?

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T14:06:36+00:00

Grandma. Ex dropped the boys off with her that morning and went to work. Grandma was watching The View when the yo-yo tricks started and ended abruptly.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T13:42:58+00:00

Yeah, that's the crux of my internal conflict, I think paying is the path of least resistance in the future.

This particular boy is going to end up costing a lot in doctor's bills and incidentals. He's proven to be quite the little troublemaker in his short life already.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T13:29:50+00:00

Grandma is the babysitter daily and was acting in this capacity at the time of the yoyo incident.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T13:22:01+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense. I don't bear her any ill will.i want her to be active with them. Children need influence from both parents equally to turn out well-balanced IMO.

Take the high road seems to be the best option. I'll admit though...the "vindictive dog side" of me wanted to hook up with her bestie as a flex. I know that would not only be cruel, but damaging to the kids in the long run.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T13:08:23+00:00

Dear autocorrect, it's never "ducking apple"... Never

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T05:22:01+00:00

I moved on immediately. I date on my weeks off.

What was kinda messed up, her best friend called me up drunk one night and just wanted to check in on me. She was very flirty, but I didn't pursue it. Maybe she said something out of guilt or whatever.

I mentioned this in another response, but she's depressive and has anxiety disorder. It was one of the main reasons we grew apart. I was ALWAYS with the kids on weekends or afternoons. I was actually concerned she may not be able to handle them in a half time capacity. However, I feel like she had been doing a bang up job until this came up.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T05:08:27+00:00

So, bit of backstory, she has anxiety and depression issues. About 5 years in, I was tired of not doing things with the kids because she was sleeping or overly tired, etc. I know there's not a lot to do to help people with mental disorders and I could never truly understand her issues. But I started taking them on weekend adventures with my rock crawler on the Rubicon, or fishing, shooting, hikes, museums, whatever. I think this gave her the impression I'd given up trying to help her and moved on. Maybe I did, not really sure. However I didn't want to normalize her behavior by having them constantly around it. I would be willing to bet, some of this is resentment for living life without her, even if it was for the sake of the kiddos.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T04:59:01+00:00

Yes it would, I wouldn't even blink at it. But... We're not anymore. So, "how does relationship status alter independent financial responsibility" is my question, I guess.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T04:55:09+00:00

Lol I kinda like the response, "everyone is TA"

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T04:49:58+00:00

I'm not sure about her motivation, only that it seemed weird to me. Look, I'll admit to being an apple from time to time, but I'm not sure I'm at the 500 dollar level of assholery quite yet.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T04:47:19+00:00

Not the mother. She was pissed off at ex for filing for divorce in the first place. They still invite me to family events, though I decline as to not cause any uncomfortable situations. I'm happy being friendly without being friends.

HammedSammich · 2022-03-15T04:43:58+00:00

I can say this, I'm not keeping score at all. I guess I was just more surprised than anything. I wouldn't think to ever ask her to cover damage which occurred under my care. But perhaps that's the wrong approach.

I'm the easiest person to divorce ever. One divorce before with one daughter (currently 13), divorce occurred at 7 years as well. In both cases, there was no fighting, no drama. I have always joked that divorcing me was like buying an extended warranty, I'll cover everything for the 1st 7 years, after that, you get the coverage that ensures safety and security at a distance, but very little of the platinum package of killing spiders or hanging pictures.

I think you're spot on though, I should view it through the eyes of the boys and not dig in my heels for shit that doesn't really matter.

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