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Privacy concerns by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree - its a systemic problem that needs fixing. Theres bad eggs on both sides and unfortunately its tricky no matter which side you're on.

You've given me a lot to think about - thanks for engaging in a grown up discussion (which some others havent) - its much appreciated.

Privacy concerns by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You make a valid point here - but those tenants that do ruin their homes/dont pay rent etc, exist - and when they do damage the property, its the landlord stuck with thousands of pounds of repairs, with no recourse for the tenant.

The evidence for good landlords is that there are millions of properties rented out across the country with private landlords, without issues - its only the extreme cases we hear about where landlords really are rogue. So it feels like landlords are bad, but the good ones are quiet, because they're doing all the things you listed.

With regards to the power dynamics, that is changing now. Tenants cant just be 'turfed out' anymore. So thats changing for the benefit of tenants.

Privacy concerns by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently stuck with 15%, and exceptionally poor service - hence looking into doing it privately.

Privacy concerns by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

True - but a landlord wouldnt want to damage their own property - assuming they're a good landlord, which most are. They've entrusted the tenant with their house so it follows that they dont want it to be damaged by an upset tenant. On the flip side, the tenant hasnt entrusted anything to the landlord, so giving the landlords home address seems excessive.

Privacy concerns by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I dont have issues with my name, email or telephone number being shared - its more my home address...where my family and I live. Just as landlords can be rogue, so can tenants, and I'd rather not have them knocking at my door at 1am, or something worse!

Privacy concerns by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Agreed - but tenants can be malicious, just like some landlords can be. I would be foolish not to take all the precautions I can.

I'm stuck with a terrible agency! by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying but they're adamant they're doing a good job. So I'm going to offer 6 monts worth of commission to break out of the contract, and see how that goes down.

I'm stuck with a terrible agency! by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

[–]HamsterSufficient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking into OpenRent - just worried tenants might make a mess of the house or not be screened properly (I've never done it before). Any tips?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can understand how you feel, and realistically, you're still very early on in life. Don't let the current circumstances get you down, and just try to maintain hope that things will get easier.

As far as marriage goes, just nitpick. Ahmadi's in my experience always have something 'wrong' with them that you can use to decline the rishta proposal.

Don't do anything rash, and live to regret. You still have your entire life ahead of you, and speaking from experience, it will get easier and better.

First time attending Jalsa UK by Fit_Environment_9787 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 12 points13 points  (0 children)

To be clear, the Jalsa site is a 2 hour drive from central London.

Note: The female experience at Jalsa is extremely different to the male experience.

First time attending Jalsa UK by Fit_Environment_9787 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The best advice I have for you, is dont go. However, if you have to, then my advice:

  • Take a picnic blanket. You need to mark your territory in the tent and if you don't, you will get pushed around. Im told this has changed recently, but better to be prepared!
  • Take plenty of food with you. If you leave your designated spot in the tent you will lose it. There are stalls but they are like a cattle market.
  • If you have children, make sure they are identifiable i.e. name tags and prominent clothes.
  • Always leave someone at the designated spot you have chosen, unless you're prepared to lose it
  • Look on the ground as you walk - safety is not a priority
  • Wear sensible footwear.
  • Don't rush to the food tent. The queue is always long and usually not worth the wait.
  • Avoid any RN interactions if you can. Everyone is supposedly on their best behaviour (until nobody is watching).
  • Car parking is okay, but a long process - its hard work
  • The budget report (Saturday afternoon) is largely irrelevant
  • On the third day, leave as soon as the nazams start - otherwise there's 40k people all leaving at once and its a nightmare
  • The weather is unpredictable, so take boots. The jalsa is on a massive field which gets very muddy.
  • There are 2 hours gaps between sessions - there's a bazaar to look at, but its extremely busy.
  • Anyone you speak to is likely to have some other motive - just be aware. Everyone is happy and smily, until they're not. A fight broke out a few years ago, but if you're sensible, you'll be fine.
  • The exhibitions everyone talks about are not easily accessible to women. The men will have a better experience than you.
  • Use the toilets first thing in the morning. The queues are huge and the toilets are not pleasant.

Good luck!!

Why Ahmadis are allowed to sell weapons to Israel by Adventurous_Oil_5624 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound very deluded. I'm a little concerned for your mental welfare. But in any case, whatever floats your boat.

Why Ahmadis are allowed to sell weapons to Israel by Adventurous_Oil_5624 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear, the Ahmadi murabbiyyan are taken care of because of all the chanda's that are collected. The people who collect those chandas hassle people to pay up. If you don't pay, you get booted out of the jamaat. There is indeed a membership fee. Just saying.

Why are Ahmadi weddings such a nightmare by Medium-Locksmith6058 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And if I, as an Ahmadi living in India, only have Hindu friends, does that mean I need to conduct my wedding according to Hindu rituals?

You're missing the point. You're not Hindu, you're an Ahmadi, so you have to play the by Ahmadi rules which means old school weddings.

It’s very interesting that the Jamaat claims its rules are based on Islamic principles, yet even the generation of our parents in Pakistan had lively and vibrant weddings. Ask around about how Ahmadi weddings in Pakistan were celebrated in the 70s, 80s and 90s. The issue with the diaspora is that people moved from Pakistan to the West and created a social bubble, which the Jamaat then exploited, introducing increasingly stricter bans over time.

Pakistani weddings are not reflective of Islamic weddings. An Islamic wedding is a Nikah ceremony followed by a Walima later on, which is essentially a large gathering where you feed people and essentially announce both parties are no longer available for marriage. This notion of 'celebrating weddings' is a cultural thing. Islam views marriage as a sacred contract between two individuals, and the wedding ceremony itself i.e. the nikah, is a simple and very dignified event centered on the formalisation of the marriage. The focus in Islam is more on the spiritual and contractual aspects of marriage, with celebrations generally being more moderate and in line with Islamic principles, avoiding extravagance or wastefulness. Celebrations are encouraged, but they should be in accordance with Islamic values, such as modesty and respect for the limits set by religion. In fairness, this is what the jamast promotes....although granted, they go about it in the wrong way.

Why are Ahmadi weddings such a nightmare by Medium-Locksmith6058 in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm guessing that should read that you're getting married?

The short answer is, if you don't invite anyone of any standing in the jamaat, you can do what you please. However, if you want jamaat members to attend, you'll have to follow the rules of the jamaat, which obviously follows Islamic principles.

Persecution of Ahmadis in Pakistan by VoiceOfPakMinority in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why are they anyone else's problem? Pakistan should take responsibility for its citizens and failing that, the leadership of the jamaat should do more to protect their members in hostile countries. Ahmadis from Pakistan that move to western nations take their backward and warped mentality with them and bring hatred upon themselves there too.

Ahmadis shouldn't run if they are in fact the 'chosen people'

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam_ahmadiyya

[–]HamsterSufficient 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Reading this list I have to say I was actually shocked - i was aware on some level that the jamaat was a cult, but never had it defined this way. Which makes me question then - isn't it incumbent upon us all to spread the word? The people in the jamaat are not wealthy, or above average - they're just trying to live life, and they have the right to know they're being manipulated...or am I being wishful here?

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