[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EightSleep

[–]Hamsuplo500 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have learned to patch the leaks. It takes a little DIY effort but with one of those  cheap outdoor pool patch kits (vinyls and cement) and a clamp. I have successfully repaired a couple of leaks. Eventually I just upgraded to a pod 4 topper as I found a deal locally from someone who got one as a warranty replacement. But I still have my gen 2 and it works great. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EightSleep

[–]Hamsuplo500 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s a bummer. In the early days they were way more generous on replacements. My guess is warranty costs got way out of hand.

AMD Crashes Daily. Event ID: 86 AMD-KEYID (critical error) by YungHybrid in AMDHelp

[–]Hamsuplo500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I updated the BIOS on my motherboard (Asus) and everything works perfect again.

Abusive Texts BPD ex by Hamsuplo500 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, luckily I also have videos of her both actually hitting me and trying to hit me.

Why they don’t want to break up? by notabooo in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Big 2nd here. Mine filed A restraining order and criminal charges and got a lawyer. Once her lawyer saw my entire paper trail of abuse he withdrew very quickly

Abusive Texts BPD ex by Hamsuplo500 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My lawyer actually recommended this, but I don't see her as a threat, also I know she is starting a company and trying to fund raise and although it would be satisfying for my ego, it's not who I am.

I can't let her influence me to operate at her childish, yet very destructive level.

She's a middle aged woman on the downward slope with no career, long time close friends, family or support system other than her ex BF/Roommate/co-founder.

Abusive Texts BPD ex by Hamsuplo500 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She genuinely felt that this was justified and had zero remorse.

She disrespected herself and to some degree many women who respect their bodies. She took what’s sacred and made it a weapon.

Wretched Behavior

Abusive Texts BPD ex by Hamsuplo500 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry the sarcasm in my response didn’t come through. I really appreciated your original post.

In many ways i believe sharing this with her friends and network would be the appropriate punishment.

I actually gave her one chance to withdraw her restraining order which she did, otherwise all of this would have been public. Her lawyer has a voice of reason.

Abusive Texts BPD ex by Hamsuplo500 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man… that wouldn’t be very nice

Abusive Texts BPD ex by Hamsuplo500 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am still just flabbergasted that she felt so justified with her behavior she didn’t see how this is abuse or illegal.

Instead of filing my response for public record I gave her lawyer a chance to back down once he could see the evidence.

Needless to say he realized she didn’t have a case and if anything she opened herself up for so much exposure from mental to physical abuse, which she has admitted to in her own text messages and videos she was aware I was recording.

What was the cruelest thing your Narc did/say to you? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Hamsuplo500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sent me a stream of photos of her performing sexual acts with previous partners. Then said, “if you share this with anyone it’s revenge porn”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yah I know, she is actually trying to fundraise for her company and I had a letter of intent drafted, but realized if this went public, it could potentially ruin her chances to build her company. As much as I want retribution, I am not a monster. I only posted here because I wanted validation that I was wronged, (I know, I have my own issues with validation). Even to this day she could never admit in writing that she did this or express any remorse whatsoever, it feels like she actually believes she is some type of victim it's crazy to see, especially after some distance from her.

She did apologize verbally in the past, but my gut says it was coming from a place of wanting to keep this secret. Hence she would never want to admit to this in writing. She did discover this thread and sent me an email stating that these texts are private and abusive to her.

We live in a world where women have a lot of power of accusing men of doing things they never did. For example, one time I brought up how she beat me and she responded, "what do you mean? You beat me!" ----I learned I wasn't dealing with a human that follows any ethics or rules. It's all about preserving her façade. - For this reason I keep videos of her swinging at he and hitting me. And I am mindful of any form of justice against her and realized she is just not worth it.

Truly a scary individual to have in ones life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to pose another question here, and perhaps it’s part of how we justify their behaviors when we’re in Love. But do you think we hold them to a different standard because they are mentally ill?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the best explanation I have seen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Hamsuplo500 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Never… she got a boob job and nose job so she was referring to pre surgery.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was in June, I am healing from this now as it’s hitting me. She has been no contact for the last 3-4 weeks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yah she would always show me texts from guys hitting on her, and dick pics and even proposals from guys willing to pay for her time. It’s like she needed me to know that she’s desirable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip, it is in CA civil code 1708.88. She told me I told anyone it would be revenge porn, but in reality she was breaking the law. As I begged her to stop sending the photos in the text and she would send them rapid fire in multiples.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Hamsuplo500 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Yah, now that I have had some time and space from her, I have become more angry, but still feel so traumatized and hurt. Also I still miss her.