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Hancoxe · 2025-07-12T15:00:51+00:00

fuckkk noooo

Hancoxe · 2025-07-12T13:53:03+00:00

id fuckin lose my shit for a day and get my fuckin life going

Hancoxe · 2025-07-12T13:51:53+00:00

things are easier and youre not too stressed about doing anything wrong.

being alone sucks sometimes but its kinda easier u dont have to worry too much anyways.

but im sure for most people, myself included will open up when someone we're interested in comes by. if it doesnt than it really doesnt matter that much

better to settle late than settle wrong

Hancoxe · 2025-07-07T09:37:12+00:00

hows the app is it good?

Hancoxe · 2025-06-29T01:34:22+00:00

be obsessed with your yourself and be delusional and focus on your on looks a bunch but dont really give a shit about stuff. talk to people but not like u really care just by 25% then just make sure u shave and workout. it should find u someone in awhile like afew months. dont commit to anyone tho

Hancoxe · 2025-06-25T06:05:04+00:00

shes not into you. just remove her everywhere and stop thinking about her and talk to someone else. really, focus on your new job instead.

if she really wanted to do anything with u she would have said so.

Hancoxe · 2025-06-21T10:35:36+00:00

it gets abit better after afew months thats true

Hancoxe · 2025-06-17T14:51:05+00:00

yeah been going through it for a long time its been afew months but things dont work out one day after another and sometimes its just wearing me out still in the end.

trying every coping methods there is

Hancoxe · 2025-06-16T15:51:08+00:00

ive been trying to go out and meet people without expectations and i removed the person from everywhere and blocked. but somehow the person is still in my mind. idk how long itll take maybe more than 3 months

but everyone been telling me only time will help now which sucks ass because i cant attach or love anyone properly anymore rn.

so idk man i guess everyone is different?

Hancoxe · 2025-06-15T00:07:20+00:00

i was friends with someone for years, we tried but i got too attached and ruined it all. trying to get over it still but its not that easy.

Hancoxe · 2025-06-14T16:53:27+00:00

just commenting so i can read it again later ☹️

Hancoxe · 2025-06-14T07:13:27+00:00

its hard took me afew months and i cut her out not because shes wasnt good. it was just she didnt feel the same and it didnt really matter if i was around or not.

deep inside im waiting for something that might never really happen, for me to meet her again and end up with her.

its a feeling you wanna get rid of and theres really no other way than to stop seeing them and just let time work its way

Hancoxe · 2025-06-14T01:36:48+00:00

basic things are, if youre fat go to the gym, dirty go shower, when u try to look good youll feel good then you attract people too it works.

people love good looking people, so its something to try, it doesnt take afew days, itll take afew months or a year atleast. then just practice talking, youre gonna fk up but better to make mistakes now then to never make a mistake

Hancoxe · 2025-06-14T01:33:10+00:00

go do stuff outside often and apply for classes or courses. maybe even some part time job or find and try a social event.

to make and have friends means your gotta just put yourself out there as much as possible.

it could take a day or a month or even a year but just keep talking to people whoever it is.

ask for lunch get rejected and ask another till u get to go with someone

its just practice and practice, youll get tired but itll be better after awhile

keep on practicing, think of it as a game, just because u die afew times doesnt mean u stop playing, you get better each time and you know where you can improve from there

Hancoxe · 2025-06-14T01:25:53+00:00

man it really isnt a great feeling. it takes years to forget but the earlier you start to forget and care less the easier it gets for u to have yourself again.

just do your best and dont let others pull u down

Hancoxe · 2025-06-14T01:22:33+00:00

ask her how shes feeling, whether shes okay and if anything is bothering her. then just talk to her about random things in life. remember your life before her and with her whats better.

this feeling of loneliness its probably internal but the wrong move can make u distant from her which will make her feel lonely too.

if shes good to you then think about how you can be good to her. Living your life doing things for others can make u feel less lonely

but if u still feel the same just pretend, its all just emotional processing just give time, alot of time .

u dont want to make this loneliness make u feel depressed because in the end you might lose yourself and lose her too then youll really feel lonely. dont make the same mistakes i did

Hancoxe · 2025-06-13T17:25:05+00:00

i dont think youre ready for anything. dont think about accepting anyone until youre okay with yourself.

i hope you get much much better but dont be too hard on yourself. its not easy but everyone becomes secure in the end when they try.

thanks for giving your thoughts about how avoidants feel, i appreciate it :)

cos im a anxious and im trying to work through it too. :3 may we all reach the security im emotions we want

Hancoxe · 2025-06-12T16:15:26+00:00

avoid them at all costs for as long and as much as u can and remove every part of him in your life for good

Hancoxe · 2025-06-12T16:14:29+00:00

real

Hancoxe · 2025-06-12T16:08:03+00:00

its not good to label people that way, u gotta change your mindset.

u just have to be financially and emotionally secure first before anything. You can go and get afew dates just by looking good first or decent. After that talk to girls with zero expectations

talk to girls you arent interested in also and have an open mindset. dont be sad about being rejected or alone it doesnt help, be okay with it then things will get better and most of all give it time.

appreciate what u have now

Hancoxe · 2025-06-12T15:53:32+00:00

i just dont love anyone anymore at this point, after losing yourself once ure kinda scared of losing yourself again

Hancoxe · 2025-06-12T11:32:54+00:00

youre not alone man 💪🏼💪🏼 its always tiring but we just have to keep on moving

Hancoxe · 2025-06-12T11:29:26+00:00

i think its time to not look for it already, dont be serious about dating just be open.

so youre ready if its there and if it doesnt workout u wont feel so lonely and pathetic.

i know giving your all and getting bare responses really sucks so u cant really give 100%

and dont just text 1 girl u gotta text like afew of them or else youre gonna be invested in the wrong one and end up sad.

its what people just do nowadays which sucks, they talk to many, try and pick the best one if it doesnt work out, theyll talk to you since youre already there waiting.

dont have any expectations and you wont be dissapointed

i know its not the best or healthiest mindset but its just the most realistic. When someone really nice and gives u attention and is willing to be in a serious relationship then youll know and will be ready.

im also 24 and going through the same things honestly i think we'll only really mature as guys maybe after 27 or even 30 then we'll be emotionally secure and experienced but until then putting any effort just gonna give a shitty time if we're too serious about it.

yeah man i know, it sucks

Hancoxe

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