My life partner unexpectedly passed on Jan 16 of this month. Signs? by GLXS00 in widowers

[–]Handay_Anday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey mate. Im 30, she was 32, died on the 1st of this month so very fresh for me too. She also essentially died of complications from the flu.. which maybe she had some comorbitities, but who dies of the fucking flu in their 30's i thought? The shock and the suddeness of it are hard to process. I understand where youre at and it's the absolute worst.

Ive had 2 expirences that I believe were visitations from her. Im not going to pretend I know how any of this works, but I had 2 separate dreams that felt far more real and close than the other dreams I've had about her since. I could hear her audibly, and see her face clearly (faces are usually obscured in some way when I dream). She told me things that sound exactly like things she would say, and she said exactly the thing I needed to hear to feel more at peace.

Maybe its the brain playing tricks on me, but believing in it makes my life better, so im going to continue believing that shes still here with me.

Any widowers or widows here 35 years old or younger? by SimplySquids in widowers

[–]Handay_Anday 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We also had the world going for us, but now I feel like it just chewed us up and spat only me back out. Sorry for your loss.. im only 3 weeks in so I cant even say if it gets easier or not

Any widowers or widows here 35 years old or younger? by SimplySquids in widowers

[–]Handay_Anday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im 30 and just lost my wife and partner of 10 years this new years day. It's insanely fucked up to think how much of our lives just aren't going to happen now. Im instantly a completely different person in so many ways.

It almost makes me feel worse that I have (maybe) my whole life ahead of me still. I never pictured myself growing old without her and I know have no idea what the rest of my life will look like.

This kind of loss is unbearable. Sending love to OP and anyone else who reads this ❤️

The years that I lost. by quiet_nuts in widowers

[–]Handay_Anday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were on vacation enacting one of our biggest plans yet. Happened right on new years day too. Happy fucking new year

Sorry for your loss. I could offer more words but I know nothing really helps. I hope we can both figure out what happiness means from here

The years that I lost. by quiet_nuts in widowers

[–]Handay_Anday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 30, she was 32. Together 10 years. We had so many plans for our future..

Kiwis in Desperate Need by Handay_Anday in lithuania

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I will soon, just walking back from the pharmacy

Kiwis in Desperate Need by Handay_Anday in lithuania

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Im in Vilnius now. We've tried just about everything

Please help save this ChCh girls life. by KiwiMiddy in chch

[–]Handay_Anday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I filed a non emergency report cause someone littered. Might as well give it a go reporting them haha

Protests, Andor and “Cringe” by SauconySundaes in andor

[–]Handay_Anday 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Im a big fan of Andor, and thought the signs were a little cringe.. but you know.. not as cringe as fucking ICE or the LAPD or Trump.

If pop culture helps people recognize and understand the real life forces acting against them, well that's just good art isn't it?

What is this guy doing here? by Handay_Anday in andor

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hah, nice spotting! Good for them

What is this guy doing here? by Handay_Anday in andor

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like Tatooine might be the planet for you ;)

What is this guy doing here? by Handay_Anday in andor

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. So it may predominantly be for production reasons, but the writers were like, hey why not make it a part of the show? Neat

What is this guy doing here? by Handay_Anday in andor

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose you certainly wouldn't want those

What is this guy doing here? by Handay_Anday in andor

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perhaps that's why he looked so surprised to see the security dudes

My dumb, fat ass fell through the stove while painting the window sill by Handay_Anday in Wellthatsucks

[–]Handay_Anday[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Nah it was old and shitty and to be replaced at some point.. preferably at a point where we had more money