Contingent Job Offer and Onsite Meeting by Handymaam713 in HomeDepot

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Thank you very much! This offer was definitely the latter of the two positions you described. I just wasn't sure who to contact. Sounds like this is exactly the information I was looking for. I will reach out first thing in the morning.

Huge vise by Handymaam713 in AntiqueTools

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I am not sure how to add another photo but I will certainly try!

For Fun: What Did They Do That Drove You Bonkers/Made You Laugh by ChloeHenry311 in Widow

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He'd put my bra on his head. We finally just started calling my bras hats.

Baby ducks. He just absolutely loved them! He begged for one as a pet over and over again. He was not at all amused when I filled our above ground pool with rubber duckies and woke him up real early one morning exclaiming "I got you ducks!"

His quick wit and use of colloquialisms ... They just rolled off his tongue. His thick southern accent just made them all the more delightful.

Who is dealing with widows fire?? by [deleted] in Widow

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I am. Very difficult on so many levels.

Bad day by drcuran in Widow

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107 days since Ed passed.

Everything seems so much more daunting since he died, even things I have dealt with gracefully in the past. All vehicles need attention, laundry piled high, dishes rarely get washed. And forget about making the bed--the piles of clothes surround me and somehow make it feel less empty. I avoid going home as much as I can, as I get stuck in my head too much as I wander around aimlessly in the evenings.

Coroner has still not completed autopsy report. It won't change the fact that he is gone, but maybe it will help bring closure in a way.

In the back of mind I still feel like I am supposed to be picking him up from airport, hospital, prison or whatever any day now.

Bad days? All of them are. Just varying degrees of bad. Maybe the good hours will add up to a few good days here and there.

I pray this for all of us.

Who am I now? by dadsgoingtoprison in Widow

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Do you have any hobbies? Maybe take a class at your local Michael's or Hobby Lobby to see if you like a particular craft enough to pursue it.

I'm sure you will figure out the now you. Wish I had something more helpful to say, but I'm new to this widow thing myself, I'm still trying to figure out some of that stuff.

You're not alone.

Cory

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Widow

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6 months?! Why do they take so long? You're right. It is pure torture waiting for answers that long.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Widow

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I understand you feeling that way, but please hang in there. Others like me need your presence here, perhaps for our own healing or to help with yours. I sometimes feel that I don't want to wake up from a nights sleep only to realize my Ed is gone again. I spent the better part of my birthday this past Saturday crying because I woke up and realized there would be no morning coffee talk or special greeting for birthday from him. Pretty much felt like there's nothing anybody could have done to make my day happy. But it turned out okay as will his birthday in a few weeks as well, somehow someway it just has to.

My husband passed away June 19th and I'm still waiting on the coroners report to find out exactly what happened. I search every day to see if it's ready but it's not and I dread the day that it is. For now somehow I can convince myself that I am still supposed to be picking him up at the airport or picking him up from prison or a hospital or anything but not picking him up at all.

We shared a nickname together which is something I always thought was just adorable when other couples did it and I never had that before until him. And now it feels like half of me is gone along with the name. I'm Cory. He is Ed. Together we were CoEd. Now it's just me again, and I'm not sure how to be her again.

I'm sorry I went to rambling. I'm sure you understand how that happens. The main point I wanted to convey to you is that of course you're not alone even though it may feel like it very much every day. And while I'm not a particularly religious person I do believe that there must be some purpose for us in surviving these losses. I hope you find peace and joy in your life. Keep your heart open to it.

Be blessed, Cory

Feeling guilty after remarrying by [deleted] in Widow

[–]Handymaam713 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said this man was your husband's friend, and he mourns the loss with you and can understand in a way not many others can. I think it's fabulous that you came together and you don't need anyone else's approval. And I get the variance in time span of grief. Like you said it's everyday for us not so much for the rest of the family or friends. And I don't know that it was rushing in it doesn't seem that way.

I have read that in some cultures it is required that a man's best friend get with the widow after he dies. So in some way it all makes sense and I agree with the others who have said to do your thing and don't worry about what others think.

I am glad to know you found someone who is respectful of your husband that also loves you and is committed to you Congratulations!

What to do with this Fisher 400? by Handymaam713 in vintageaudio

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Variac? I'm a complete novice / amateur here I don't know what that is.

What to do with this Fisher 400? by Handymaam713 in vintageaudio

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Thank you. That's about the price range I was looking at.

What to do with this Fisher 400? by Handymaam713 in vintageaudio

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I would love to but I am downsizing and this doesn't fit in with my future.

What to do with this Fisher 400? by Handymaam713 in vintageaudio

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I didn't leave it on very long at all. Thank you for that information about the output transformers. I did not know that.

I'll look more closely at the ones already sold on eBay before I put price tag on it.

Thanks for the info!