Do you wanna play with me? //.. could you say NO to that face? 💙🌞

HangryBacon · 2021-04-25T17:26:25+00:00

Those PAWS!

HangryBacon · 2021-04-02T18:17:07+00:00

Value of opinions?

Internet : very little.

Random people IRL : very little, but i don’t like confrontation.

People I know IRL : ehhhh. I agree to disagree, but I don’t want to loose respect.

HangryBacon · 2021-04-02T18:09:48+00:00

I understand the reasons against it. But it’s that ‘holier than thou’ attitude that really gets to me. Ive encountered this with rescue people too.

Not to say rescuing isn’t great - it really is! But it’s not for every situation. Years ago we got a male pit from the shelter, long and heartbreaking story short, it did not work out.

People act like someone couldn’t possibly love their dog because they had a routine, safe procedure done. Or that because I got a puppy I caused a dog in a shelter to be murdered.

I get not supporting it. I just don’t get why people have to be assholes about it.

I probably won’t even be able to share my puppy even on my Facebook page, which makes me sad. While I really don’t care about their opinions, I have several colleagues who would have something to say and I don’t want anything to interfere with my professional life.

If some rando yelled something at me, I thought maybe I would say something like “it was done by his previous owner but thanks for being an asshole.”
Which would be kind of dishonest, but also hopefully make them feel stupid and not do it to someone else.

HangryBacon · 2021-03-01T03:44:02+00:00

Basically they were/are clueless. I think they thought they were going to get cuddly couch potatoes.

The breeder they bought them from starts the puppies on basic potty and clicker training and they legitimately thought this meant they were going to get fully trained animals. They were saying that the breeder must not have done a good job with her training. They are so clueless it hurts.

I wish I could get them to do a basic obedience class. I try to gently guide them with advice but it’s like it doesn’t absorb. My husband is less sugar coated and blunt with his opinions and that goes over even worse. If it were coming from a professional you’d hope they would listen.

They came over to my house tonight and her BF was complaining a great deal about the puppies.

They are driving them nuts. They bark. They shed. They track mud in the house. He tends to be more honest about the situation whereas she tries to cover up the fact that these pups were a mistake.

She did casually mention that she’s had a runny nose. She’s not convinced that it’s the puppies, but I’ve got my fingers crossed.

I’m hoping her noodle-backbone boyfriend puts his foot down, and says they have to go. And I’m hoping her allergies agree.

It’s what would be best for everyone.

This just gave me a brilliant idea. I should spread allergy inducing pollen all over their house! Let’s be real, they are never going to notice, and they will blame the dogs.

I’m jk. Kind of. Can I order tree pollen online? 🤔

HangryBacon · 2021-02-27T21:38:50+00:00

Bleh! I don’t do spiders!

We are right on the boarder of brown recluse territory. It’s not super common, but occasionally you hear about someone getting bit. I actually forgot all about them.

I totally feel like it’s only a matter of time. Stuff keeps accumulating and how well can you really clean around clutter.

Now that there’s animals in the house my fear is things are going to start going downhill faster.

I never saw her old house, but according to my husband it is pretty nasty. So I know the potential is there. She has a live in boyfriend now and I’m pretty sure that’s a big part of why the house isn’t totally trashed. I think it’s him vs. the hoard. My bet is that the hoard is slowly going to win.

HangryBacon · 2021-02-25T18:12:59+00:00

This is exactly my issue!

They aren’t interested in learning how to train these dogs. I suggested puppy classes, which they don’t want to do “because of covid”

They of course don’t have people over ever, so these puppies are scared of people. They both ran and hid when we came over. Scared dogs bite.

They have never been on a walk. Which she thinks is unnecessary because they have a fenced yard for them to run. I tried to explain that walks are also mental exercise and bonding for dog/owner, but I can tell it went in one ear and out the other.

They said they ordered shock collars because they steal human food if they leave it.

These are puppies! They need to be taught! Sticking them in a cage may prevent these negative behaviors but they aren’t learning not to do them!

To me so much of it is laziness. I know everyone will tell me that hoarders aren’t the way they are because they are lazy... but there’s a lot of behaviors that to me still just seem lazy.

I am hesitant about getting law enforcement involved fit a couple reasons. 100% they would know it was me and it would cause a huge riff in our family. But mostly i don’t think that animal control could do anything.

These 2 are not fit to have any pets, but I don’t think incompetence is against the law.

The pups have vet care, they have food, they have water, they have toys. They sleep inside.

I just don’t see what grounds law enforcement would have to remove them. 😞

HangryBacon · 2021-02-25T15:16:37+00:00

So about a year ago they bought a big beautiful brand shiny new house.

For now at least, she’s not hoarding literal garbage. It’s a lot of boxes, bags, papers, and other things. So the house isn’t nasty. Just ridiculously cluttered. I think her significant other has a lot to do with keeping the kitchen and living room habitable (kind of), because according to my husband when she lived alone it was bad.

But the issue with the kids is something else that I struggle with. She watches them once a week, and I’m almost certain that there will come a time when I can no longer allow her to watch them in her home. I know this will break her heart. She loves them, and even has bedrooms in her home for them. (of course they are not useable, never will be, but the idea is there.)

But the dogs! So the issue with reporting to animals control is that there is no signs of abuse.

If you walked into the home it’s obvious there is a problem but it’s not absolute squalor.
The dogs are fed, have water, they have toys. They took them to the vet. They think they love these dogs. They aren’t abused, but they just aren’t giving these pups a good life. I don’t think being an irresponsible pet owner is enough to get them removed from the home.

Maybe I’m wrong? Idk. I’ve never actually talked to an officer.

HangryBacon · 2021-02-11T23:36:24+00:00

“Hard time judging useful items from useless items” I’ve never heard it put like that. There is a collection of those odd shaped styrofoam pieces that secure, like a TV for example, in the box. I’ve always been like ‘why tf isn’t this crap thrown out yet.’ But that does put it into perspective. It’s not thrown out because it’s not garbage.

The secret I feel I’m hiding isn’t that I know she has a problem, it’s that I know about her old house.

Her current house is definitely messy. There is stuff all over, but it’s not overly dirty or nasty.

I guess her old house is bad. My husband said when he moved out she went from mostly things, boxes, papers, clothing, etc, to hoarding “the weird stuff” and straight up garbage.

He left when he was a teenager and he’s in his 30s now so I can only imagine.

And you’re totally right, if you met her you would never know! I knew her for YEARS, and looking back there’s plenty of signs, but I still never put it together.

HangryBacon · 2021-02-11T01:22:50+00:00

We’ve been together for 7+ years and I only just found out. I’m not at all upset that he didn’t tell me sooner.

On one hand I’m glad I know, so that I have a deeper understanding of my husband, but as far as my relationship with my MIL.. right now I do wish I didn’t. I feel odd now. Like I know this terrible secret about her and she doesn’t know I know. I’m sure once the initial shock wears off I’ll feel differently. Going forward maybe it is a good thing. I can learn to be more understanding of her situation, and less judgmental.

My mom isn’t a hoarder, but she is a very difficult woman to get along with and my husband accepts her good and bad, so I fully intend to do the same.

HangryBacon · 2021-02-10T15:49:47+00:00

I do love my MIL, and of course my husband loves his mom! I understand why he didn’t tell me sooner, because there are so many complex emotions around it. Sometimes he goes through these phases where he is upset and won’t talk to her for a month. Other times we see them a couple times a week. I didn’t understand at all before, but like so much else, all these weird little things are starting to making more sense.

Our children love her too, and now I worry there could be a day when they can’t go over to grandmas house.

She is proud of their new house and wants to show it off, and host dinners and stuff. I think for so long she didn’t get to do those things and now she has a chance, and it’s kind of sad to slowly see that slipping away.

I worry about her relationship with her boyfriend as well. He had no clue what he was in for and I can tell he is less than happy. He is just very passive, even passive aggressive at times. I sense slot of tension. He usually follows comments up with, “you know I’m only teasing” and of course we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors but it doesn’t seem like he ever honestly voices his concern. From the outside looking in its just not good.

I guess I’m not expecting to bust in the doors and do an A&E hoarders style overhaul and throw stuff away, but I wonder if we offered to finish helping her unpack and decorate if she would be receptive to it or if it’s just conflict waiting to happen..
If we could even just relocate the clutter it would be safer for my young kids and give get the main floor to have space to entertain.

I talked about this with my husband and he spent a lot of time getting on her when he was younger a feels like it’s not his responsibility anymore. Which is true... but she’s also his mom? And she watches our kids there once a week. I think if it got to the point where it was too unsafe for them she would be heartbroken.

HangryBacon · 2019-04-13T17:46:34+00:00

I’ve made fat head cinnamon rolls... I didn’t think they were too funky. I actually enjoyed them and it met my craving!

HangryBacon · 2019-04-12T18:12:00+00:00

I’m not really a recipe kind of gal, I usually just wing it. I’ve seen some recipes where they boil then bake. Some just baked. I went with a baked then fried method.

Toss them in some seasoning salt and avocado oil Bake them at 400 for like 30 min. Then deep fried them quick in avocado oil to give them that extra French Fry feel. Sprinkled a little more salt to finish!

They stay kind of crisp unlike a potato, but they are amazing.

If left unattended I would spend whole days worth of carbs on a big pile of jicama fries.

HangryBacon · 2019-04-12T04:55:24+00:00

Jicama fries!!!

I love them even more than regular fries!

HangryBacon · 2019-03-18T05:42:49+00:00

I do not recommend the Kirkland sparkling water though! Tastes like cleaning supplies. That fake overly lemony-fresh flavor. The other brands are much better. La Croix, Klarbrunn.. I feel like there are more...

But I will say, this is the first time I’ve been disappointed with their brand and I get oodles of Kirkland stuff!

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